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Romefalls19 · Jan 20, 2009, 08:22 AM

What do you hope to gain from this type of comment?

kctiger · Jan 20, 2009, 08:26 AM

Isn't this like step 1.5 from "How to get my ex back"? I believe this is an e-book step right...

Romefalls19 · Jan 20, 2009, 08:28 AM

Ha ha yep KC you are right! It is an e-book step on those "promise to get your ex back" scams

jmw0713 · Jan 20, 2009, 08:45 AM

Umm... I don't see the point of agreeing with a choice they made with out your input anyway. What would doing this give you anyway? A false sense of friendship? Are you trying to relieve his/her guilt? Or would you just be playing mind games in order to throw them off track?

No, I wouldn't tell her she made the right choice by breaking up with me. I didn't think it was the right choice, so why should I pretend it was by telling her it was? To her it was already the right choice, why else would she do it?

Give me a break!

Stay to NC and stop trying to force a situation to work. It is was meant to work out it would. There is nothing you can say or do to win someone back. That is a choice that they have to make for themselves, whether to come back.

If they come back, it's not because of what you said or what you did that brings them back, it was the choice their choice that they made to come back.

teastalk · Jan 20, 2009, 06:10 PM

I want to spend more time with my boyfriend. We both attend school and also have part-time jobs during the school year. I think that I can make more time for him, but when I broach the subject of spending more time together, he says that we're too busy.

Then, during the summer he said that we were too busy for each other then too. We both worked full-time during the summer (40 hrs/week).

My questions are:
1) Do you think we were too busy to spend time together during the summer?
2) Do you think we were too busy to spend time together during the school year?

I'd just like a fresh outsider's perspective on this. Sometimes I feel like I'm over-thinking things.

Fr_Chuck · Jan 20, 2009, 06:24 PM

Working 40 hours, are you working days and he working evenings? I mean people work 40 hours, then work another job 20 hours and still belong to bowling teams and teach Sunday school.

Now people can be too busy, I found a lady I really liked, went out a couple of times, but we both work 40 plus hours a day, but she is on 4 committes at her church, and is teaching classes at church and more. So she only has one evening a week free, and that is split amount many things.
So people can be too busy, but you two sound like one or the other just does not want to make the time

teastalk · Jan 20, 2009, 06:37 PM

I'm pretty sure your question is rhetorical, but I'll answer it anyway. No, we were both working day shifts during the summer.

Yes, I agree with your statement Fr_Chuck. Sometimes I feel like I'm questioning him too much in my mind.

Oh, something I forgot to mention is that I live with my sister and we rent a house. He, however, lives with his dad and I guess he could be busy doing chores around the house?

What do you guys think?

Fizzy Burst · Jan 20, 2009, 07:08 PM

You're only as busy as you think you are. If Both of you start thinking that you are too busy to see each other then you will be too busy. You'll find excuses not to. However, if this is a relationship that both of you are committed to, then you will both find time to make time for each other. But remember, that it takes two to tango. You can't be trying to do all of the work in this.

teastalk · Jan 23, 2009, 09:19 PM

My ex and I... we are not enemies and we probably would like to be friends again. He sent me a message saying "Hi." I wasn't at home, so I didn't reply at the time. Should I send him a message back?

stroupe3 · Jan 23, 2009, 09:24 PM

Sure, he may be trying to reestablish!

411Help · Jan 23, 2009, 09:44 PM

It's all very situational. How long have you two been broken up? Are you over him? Are you looking to reconcile? Would you be OK with him discussing a possibility of a new relationship with another woman? We need more information.

teastalk · Jan 23, 2009, 11:16 PM

Lol. I laugh because I know that if I am not over him, then I shouldn't call him. If I'm looking to reconcile I shouldn't call him. If I'm not OK with your last question, then I shouldn't call him. Am I correct in this assumption?

411Help · Jan 24, 2009, 09:15 AM

Good. Now, you know the answer to your own question (:

talaniman · Jan 24, 2009, 10:38 AM

NO! What has changed between you?

talaniman · Jan 24, 2009, 10:46 AM

5 or 6 threads merged, as you have so many questions, it was getting confusing keeping the facts straight. Please just respond to one thread, and have mercy on our poor heads-Thank you

teastalk · Jan 24, 2009, 04:31 PM

Talaniman - sorry about having so many questions. =( Um, also, the thread "Was this a good relationship?" was actually a different relationship. It was not the same as the main relationship that I keep discussing.

Also, to "what has changed between you," I'm not as resentful of him not coming over and his lack of attention towards me.

teastalk · Jan 25, 2009, 08:45 PM

I'm waiting for him to come online so that I can send him a message back while he's there. What do you guys think?

411Help · Jan 25, 2009, 08:50 PM

NO, NO, AND NO.

No contact is no contact.

ImTotallyLost · Jan 25, 2009, 09:13 PM

Hey teastalk, let me put it this way: the very fact that you don't know what to do means that you should just forget it. Live your life, OK? Don't wait. If whatever he wanted to tell was important, he will try to contact you again. He probably has your phone number or e-mail or something.

You don't want to be his toy, do you?

teastalk · Jan 26, 2009, 12:45 AM

I was away from my computer and I received a message from him once again. He was JUST checking on me to see how I was and that it was the second time he tried. So how do I respond or do I?

Another question--campus is not that large, if I should stumble across him or know for sure that we will be attending an upcoming meeting---do I linger, walk in the opposite direction, ignore him, make sure I don't make eye contact, or get the information I went there for and leave quickly.