[arcura]

N0help4u's
I could not find it.
If you know please let me know.
Thanks,
Fred

[adam7gur]

It still sounds to me like Jesus is saying that remarriage is adultery.

Matthew 5:32[/B] But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

When Jesus speaks about her that is divorced He means the woman that is rightfully divorced and not any divorced woman ,because to God a woman that is divorced for any other reason except adultery is not considered divorced but still remains a wife! Whosoever shall marry a rightfully divorced woman commits adultery!


[/QUOTE]Can you explain where you read that Jesus accepts remarriage in cases of adultery?[/QUOTE]

Marriage is a testament of two parts.If one part breaks it while the other part honours it , then the second part is free of that testament , therefore free to make a new one!
If it isn't so then why is God going from testament to testament with us although we keep on breaking it? He is our example!
Your ex did not honour your testament , so you are free to make a new one and you will be the one to choose with who you will make that new testament, Christian or not.
Did Joseph marry an Israelite? Did Moses? Was Ruth an Israelite? But Jesus came out of Ruth's genealogy!!
All I am saying is... let your Father give you , your husband !

[GirlWSlingshot]

Marriage is a testament of two parts.If one part breaks it while the other part honours it , then the second part is free of that testament , therefore free to make a new one!
If it isn't so then why is God going from testament to testament with us although we keep on breaking it? He is our example!
Your ex did not honour your testament , so you are free to make a new one and you will be the one to choose with who you will make that new testament, Christian or not.
Did Joseph marry an Israelite? Did Moses? Was Ruth an Israelite? But Jesus came out of Ruth's genealogy!!!
All I am saying is ...let your Father give you , your husband !

Thank you, that was a very thoughtful and insightful response. It made very good sense.

[cozyk]

What does the god in your heart tell you? Stop looking for approval outside yourself. Deep in your soul you know the answer." Be Still and know that I am God" Be still long enough to listen to your heart.

I believe my god is a god of common sense.
Did you fear for the safety of yourself and your child? Yes.
Do you own the decision for your ex to remarry? No
Should you have to live alone for the rest of your life because you could not predict the future of this man's behavior when you married him? No way.
God's common sense shows you did nothing wrong and shouldn't have to repent for the rest of your time on this earth.

I think you absolutely did the right thing to leave him, the sooner the better and I applaud you courage to take this action.
All of the other people showing their "disapproval" of your decision were not married to him and I believe have a hell of a nerve to look down on you. Their opinions, their chosen bible verses, their interpretation of those scriptures don't add up to a hill of beans. And this goes for any particular "church" too.

The only thing you have to answer to is your heart, your god and your conscience.

Be happy and listen to your heart/god when and if you choose husband #2. Choose wisely!

[arcura]

adam7gur,
Ypurs is a good sense answer.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

[cozyk]

Matthew 5:32[/B] But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

When Jesus speaks about her that is divorced He means the woman that is rightfully divorced and not any divorced woman ,because to God a woman that is divorced for any other reason except adultery is not considered divorced but still remains a wife! Whosoever shall marry a rightfully divorced woman commits adultery!

Can you explain where you read that Jesus accepts remarriage in cases of adultery?[/QUOTE]

Marriage is a testament of two parts.If one part breaks it while the other part honours it , then the second part is free of that testament , therefore free to make a new one!
If it isn't so then why is God going from testament to testament with us although we keep on breaking it? He is our example!
Your ex did not honour your testament , so you are free to make a new one and you will be the one to choose with who you will make that new testament, Christian or not.
Did Joseph marry an Israelite? Did Moses? Was Ruth an Israelite? But Jesus came out of Ruth's genealogy!!
All I am saying is... let your Father give you , your husband ![/QUOTE]

Any other reason except adultery??? What about a wife that is beaten or abused by her husband in any other way? Is she bound to remain married in the eyes of god?:confused:

[N0help4u]

Not honoring the testament means the husband was hard hearted which would cover beating and abusive behavior.
Also the Bible says whatever God put together let no man put asunder. If God put them together he would be submissive to God and honor his wife.

[arcura]

NOhelp4U,
You have made a very interesting point...
Thanks,
Fred

[adam7gur]

cozyk
If adultery of the flesh is a reason for divorce before God, how much more is adultery of the mind?Adultery is not only about sleeping with someone else except your husband/wife, it is about not keeping the testament!
Hope that helped you understand that God has the common sense you are talking about.If we cannot see it then it is not God's mistake , it is ours!
So to answear your question... beating and abusing IS adultery!!

[arcura]

adam7gur,
I like your reasoning on that.
It makes sense to me.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

[adam7gur]

Your husband was not loving you as Christ loves the church. He was living outside of Corinthians where it shows the chain the woman submits to the man BUT the man submits to God. How can you submit when the chain is broke? It says for women should submit to their husbands, the Bible also tells men several times how they are supposed to treat their wives. The husband is not to take on the role of the dictator, but show respect for his wife and her opinions as well. “In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man is actually loving himself when he loves his wife. No one hates his own body but lovingly cares for it...” (Ephesians 5:28-29). “So I say again, each man must love his wife as he loves himself.

You say you have found out about his cheating so it only FURTHER proves you did the right thing.
The Bible says if the unbeliever leaves then you are free....by his behavior he left the marriage even though he did not do so officially by divorcing you.

Very good!

[arcura]

adam7gur,
Yes, that is very good.
Peace and kindness,
Fred