[wap]

Exercise videos maybe? How weird, that was rude of them, don't worry about what anyone else thinks

[xxsamxx110]

Unfortunately I do listen to them and it does get to me. I duno I try and don't get much further.

[talaniman]

Why do you have a negative excuse for every suggestion?. Maybe you need a professional to help you or a trusted friend or priest? A doctor even.

[Sentra]

Hun, do you even WANT the help we have been giving you here? Cut yourself some slack, no one is born perfect and the mistakes we make as we go through life should be looked on as lessons learned, to keep us from NOT doing whatever we did in the first place and to prevent others from doing the same.

1) You are listening to what they say and take it to heart, let me say that from this point on you are only doing it to yourself.

2) Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and open your eyes to the opportunity to change around you before its gone.

3) Smile. From horsesh*t grows flowers.

[xxsamxx110]

Yeah maybe I do need help. But telling people to move on or ' pick youreslf up' doesn't actually help at all. The reason I have 'excuses' isn't because I don't want to but because I either can't or I have tried. If something was suggested that I could or haven't already tried then that would help me. The people that actually help are those who suggest ideas.

[valinors_sorrow]

Don't worry Sam. You are of course free to reject all the wonderful advice listed here. And this may solve itself. It gets better when you get a few more years under your belt. That tends to help people to better see things as they are. And once you see things are they are, the solutions come faster. I'm sorry Sam but you can't solve what you don't see. Time: it's a marvelous thing really.

[talaniman]

yeh maybe i do need help. but tellin people to move on or ' pick youreslf up' doesnt actually help at all. the reason i have 'excuses' isnt because i dont want to but because i either can't or i have tried. if something was suggested that i could or havent already tried then that would help me. the people that actually help are those who suggest ideas.

After 3 pages and 21 people posting with excellent ideas may I ask what is it your holding out for? At some point you have to realise WE KNOW our suggestions are easier said than done and the only way to accomplish is to do it and not sit waiting for someone to come along and do it for you. You are your biggest problem and you do yourself a big disservice by That I can't stuff. All I can do at this point is pray for you.

[talaniman]

Don't worry Sam. You are of course free to reject all the wonderful advice listed here. And this may solve itself. It tends gets better when you get a few more years under your belt. That tends to help people to better see things as they are. And once you see things are they are, the solutions come faster. I'm sorry Sam but you can't solve what you don't see. Time: its a marvelous thing really.

I posted before I could read this and you are so right on the money Time is a marvelous thing. Thanks for putting myself righteous feet back on the ground.

[xxsamxx110]

Well if you know that they your suggestions are easier said than done then when I say I can't do that suggestion I might have a valid reason and as for the more years thing all I've heard is that the older you are the more you think you know it all. If you have been in my situation with all the problems I have then fair enough but I seriously doubt you have. And to let you know I'm not waiting for someone to solve it for me I was hoping for some suggestions that I could do that I have not already tried or that are not possible for me to do. Life is crap and saying things like that helps no one. Thanks to all the people that have given ideas and suggestions.

[wap]

If that's your picture, then you have nothing much to worry about : )

How about taking dogs for a walk? And then you can charge people money, and get exercise at the same time? (my mum's idea : ) )

[xxsamxx110]

Unfortunalty that isn't exactly how I look now. That is from about 4 months ago. Yeah I might try it not sure if that would work well round here people are not very friendly but I do work my own dog every morning so maybe I could find someone else's to work at the same time.

[wap]

4 months ago is not too long, you are pretty. It is best to try and stay positive : )

Keep busy, that's the key. If I didn't keep busy, I wouldn't have got out my bed at the beginning of the break up. You need to give yourself things to look forward to, watch films you like, go bowling, go to a zoo, learn a new language : )

[xxsamxx110]

I'm not very positive. When you have had people all your life telling you the bad things that's the things that you pick up on. I don't enjoy doing activities on my own which is why I don't go out as much. Luckly I was able to learn Spanish last year so that was good. Unfortunalty things today cost a lot and there is not much that you can do for free. As for being pretty the way I look now and from what people that know me have said I am deffiently not pretty and am getting 'huge'. Might go bowling if I save up though lol. Its more closer to 5 months now and feels to long. Every other break up I have been over within 2-3 months. I was enagaged to ma ex and did love him. Just wish it was easier to forget and move on.

[tirednhurt86]

Hey,

Its been six months since my boyfriend of 2 yrs dumped me, and I'm still having a hard time letting go and moving on. I'm much better, and everyday I do get a little better but I still am a little depressed and sad that it is over. Its OK to feel sad- and it doesn't matter how old you are or how long its been. Different things take different people different amounts of time. I know its hard but you need to look at what you do have. Stop concentrating on your ex coming back- what I'm going to say might hurt but you need to hear it ( I know I needed to hear it too)- your ex is not going to come back to you. He has moved on and made it perfectly clear to you. You need to let go a little each day. Its hard- its painful, and you will cry and struggle- but that's normal- and I and lots of people in this world are doing it each day along with you. If you need to talk message me on here, anytime. Work on yourself- and try to put it out of your mind at times- its unhealthy to just sit and depress yourself- something I used to do. Get out meet new friends, and just be single- don't get involved too soon, just be you! Goodluck!

[xxsamxx110]

Thanks nice to know other people are going through similar things. I do have the occasional good day when I don't think about him much or think I'm better off without him. But its taking me along time. I know he doesn't want me and that hurts a lot. He was my best friend, boyfriend and fiancé its hard to move on from the person you love.:(

[Wildcat21]

See - you need to change - work out A LOT. EAT RIGHT!! Vitamins.

IF he ever came back - he needs to see things differently -

People want what the ycan't have - he had you - he still has you. He needs the feeling he doesn't have you.

[xxsamxx110]

So how do I make him think he can't have me? I want to look good and feel good so how?

[Wildcat21]

Do you have an exercise program? Do you eat right? Vitamins?

If you don't workout - start by walking 1/2 to 45 minutes 6 days a week. It's discipline.

You need feel good - and that will come across big.

I say date, date, date. Meet new guys. Do you have an internet profile?

He knows what he has with you - IF you improve yourself - a little every day - that's BIG!

[Wildcat21]

You walk 15 or 20 minutes away from your house - then walk back. Then eventually join a gym - exercise is part of life - it clears your mind!

[xxsamxx110]

Anyway thanks for all the help il give it ago. Hving a bit of a bad day but il do the same as always and just get on with it.