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brad321 · Nov 29, 2008, 03:41 PM

I know, I got a question for all of you. What does everyone think about God working in mysterious ways and that we broke up for a reason I know that. But does anyone think that maybe we broke up so we both could grow and learn things so we know for sure we are meant to be each other. Like that quote if you love someone let them go and if they return they are yours.

brad321 · Nov 29, 2008, 03:47 PM

And LCM yes your story does sound familier to mine. The thing is have you gotten any updates on your ex or anything, and the one thing that we have on our exs that no guys can take away from us is history. Yes, my ex is hanging out with other guys all the time and flirting and texting all kinds of guys cause for the first time in her life she is free to do whatever and not answer to anyone. And I understand she needs space to figure out what she wants in life and learn. But the thing is I need to move on while she is doing this and hope I get another opportunty

LifeChangesMan · Nov 29, 2008, 04:09 PM

Hey pal, I see your struggling a little bit today with this. For the big G - O - D he's a great person, always there, works in mysterious ways, yada yada yada, I believe in God 100% and you can look at what happens to you as God's plan or you can look at it as fate, either way I do believe in God doing things to help us, or in fate working out to make our lives better.

I'm not sure about your last post to my story basically just let her go and try and do better then you man, have confidence in yourself. Look at it this way say you starting dating a supermodel tomorrow, you going to keep that on the lowdown? Heck no, you want everyone to see that, she's not going to let anyone know about who she's seeing because they will probably be like wow, she's an idiot she went from you, to him, yuck.

And for my girl and other guys, I don't care. I don't need to know. Neither do you. Don't hurt yourself, if you find out tonight it'll crush you, if you find out a few months down the road it won't hurt you as much, or at all, and just chalk it up as she's not the person you gave your heart to for years.

Just have confidence in yourself, and keep your head up. I'll try and be here for you through this all pal.

brad321 · Nov 29, 2008, 04:23 PM

Hey thanks, yes I really am having a tough time today with all of this. I just keep questioning everything and I know what I need to do is move on but can't seem to do it lol. The best bet to get her back is to move on so why am I so stubborn to do so, why am I so stubborn to not let go and let fate do its thing? I was so used to feeling in control and now I don't have any, it sucks is that why I can't move on or is it cause I'm so stubborn lol

LifeChangesMan · Nov 29, 2008, 04:30 PM

Stop thinking about her coming back, just stop, you got to realize if she comes back it's probably going to be when your over her and moved on, or when you absolutely least expect it completely.

Just wake up tomorrow, look outside, smile, and be grateful for your life and everything you have, and had. I promise you it'll pass, and fade, and you don't think it now at all but it's quite possible there's someone better out there for you, but that's your decision when the day comes.

Just have FAITH in your love for one another.

jmw0713 · Nov 29, 2008, 05:10 PM

Not quite possible LCM, there is someone better for you out there brad.

Take her off her pedestal!! You need to see the relationship for what it really was and who she really is. You even said she is a completely different person than who you fell in love with. You need to see the reality in all this... not your fantasy of future possibilities, or more than likely impossibilities.

What you have to do now is find some NEW activities that take your mind off her.

Hang out in NEW places. Make some NEW friends. Take up a NEW hobby or sport. Something NEW to keep you from thinking about the OLD. Just stay as busy as possible.

The more you let time do its work, by staying busy, the faster you will move on from this. Not saying it will happen tomorrow... but it will happen.

Brad you have been broken-up for two months... just look back and see how much progress you made from day one till now. I'll bet it will amaze you. Everyone has bad days... but notice how the bad days are fewer and far between now then they were two months earlier. You lived with out her for TWO MONTHS already! Look back on your progress. I bet you will notice how far you have come, and I bet you will feel better.

brad321 · Nov 29, 2008, 05:40 PM

Your right, I'm not still in the same pain as I was, but it is because I have learned stuff and figure out things like there is NOTHING I can do to bring her back, that I have to move on the first month and half all I did was obsess on how to bring her back, and every effort I got shot down, now its just like if she comes back ill deal with that when the time comes, but I need to move on now, and your right 2 months seems so long ago it really does and at least now I'm starting to do things I used to enjoy once again

jmw0713 · Nov 29, 2008, 06:08 PM

There you go! Now keep moving... it can only get better from here.

LifeChangesMan · Nov 29, 2008, 07:18 PM

There you go, your learning!

brad321 · Nov 29, 2008, 09:28 PM

Yea I know I'm learning, but it doesn't seem to help, I just found out she went to another town to another party that one of my friends is at and asked if I wanted to go. All she cares about it seems like is getting as much attention from guys and getting numbers. It hurts really bad when it seems she doesn't even give a sh*t about you and you care about her

talaniman · Nov 29, 2008, 09:50 PM

Got any video games??

brad321 · Nov 29, 2008, 10:28 PM

Do I got video games? Hell you I got video games been logging some serious hours this past week and watching a lot of football with the guys.

talaniman · Nov 29, 2008, 11:10 PM

Now your talking the good life. Just got Guitar Hero!

LifeChangesMan · Nov 29, 2008, 11:12 PM

Stop getting information man, just let it go tell your pals you don't want to know.

brad321 · Nov 29, 2008, 11:33 PM

A fan of guitar hero how old are you talaniman. YOU got to love this time of year though football on almost everyday! And LCM I didn't plan on getting that info it just comes out.

talaniman · Nov 29, 2008, 11:57 PM

I am 54, and my grandkids and I spend a lot of time on Wii! Check out Gamefly.com, and save a lot of loot.

Life is to short to worry over things you can't control, and think of all the cool stuff you can be doing, if your head is screwed on right. Motivate yourself, and enjoy the football games. I mean enjoy everything you do, why not?? I do!

LifeChangesMan · Nov 30, 2008, 05:49 AM

Let's just all face it, tal's the man.

brad321 · Nov 30, 2008, 10:07 AM

I thought I was doing better I really did, it just seems like I can't get her out of my mind. I know she is out of my life and not causeing me pain, I'm the only one allowing me to cause pain, its just I miss her!

TrueFaith · Nov 30, 2008, 10:10 AM

World Of Warcraft

PS.3 grand theft auto

I must admit. Some games just really take your mind of the world. Sometimes it is a good thing

I know you miss her.
You will miss her for a long time

But the pain will go trust me

brad321 · Nov 30, 2008, 10:33 AM

I don't know, its like she is trying to cause me pain. At that party I was at this weekend she came and talked to one of my friends that she has never met, and talked to him for like two minutes, and already is telling him she should go to her place and party some time. They just met for like 2 minutes but they go to 2 different colleges like 10 minutes away.It's like I didn't mean anythign to her at all!