[J_9]

DIM, I think it is time that you focus ONLY on yourself and your kids!!

Look at it this way, those kids are only CHILDREN for crying out loud. You are the adult and you kept them in a potentially dangerous situation. They are being molded by who and what is around them.

I know it is HARD, but you have to buck up and get "peeved up at him" like Chery said. Do I take it to mean that you are not mad at him for treating you like trash? Do you believe that every wonderful woman should be treated the way he treated you? HE** NO!!

You are worthy of a wonderful caring man who can help you raise your children with the love and respect they deserve. You will find them, but insead of looking right now - focus on yourself and your kids.

Instead of looking for a man, let one find you! They are out there, I know cause I have one, and he found me when I was not even looking for a relationship. We may have our rocky moments, and Wildcat knows, but he is also a wonderful father and husband.

[Wildcat21]

Dam, I think I need to start cheating on my gal. Seems like the only way to keep them keen!! LOL! Kidding.

Everyone needs to exercise - trying ruinnign a couple miles - you WILL feel great!! Just great!! It clears the heads. So does weight lifting.

That is the wrong thinking though - YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT THIS SCUM BAG... YOU STILL SOUND LIKE YOU WANT HIM BACK. HE ISN'T GOING TO CHANGE EVER - IT'S LIES TO MAKE YOU JEALOUS - OF COURSE HE WILL SAY THOSE THINGS - IT PUSHES YOUR BUTTONS - HE KNOW VERY WELL HOW TO PUSH THOSE BUTTONS!!

[Depressed in MO]

Dam, I think I need to start cheating on my gal. Seems like the only way to keep em keen!!!! LOL! Kidding.

Everyone needs to exercise - trying ruinnign a couple miles - you WILL feel great!!! Just great!!! It clears the heads. So does weight lifting.

That is the wrong thinking though - YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT THIS SCUM BAG....YOU STILL SOUND LIKE YOU WANT HIM BACK. HE ISN'T GOING TO CHANGE EVER - IT'S LIES TO MAKE YOU JEALOUS - OF COURSE HE WILL SAY THOSE THINGS - IT PUSHES YOUR BUTTONS - HE KNOW VERY WELL HOW TO PUSH THOSE BUTTONS!!!!

I'm feeling a little better today. It does still hurt though. I don't want him back because I know how he is and I know he is lying to me to try to make me jealous and let me let him use me. I'm much stronger about this than you think.
I just left the guy two days ago so I'm still hurting inside because it's something I've been needing to do for years. I'm back to square one in my life and like you said I fear the unknown. But actually, I have been making work out plans for myself-I've been keeping myself busy as possible and I think about taking the kids out a lot. I plan on spending a lot of time with them this weekend. I'm very excited about it and I look very forward to it.
I just miss the fact of having someone (a partner) to call my own. I miss the idea of it I guess-the "what could have been".
So give me a break dude :) I'm trying here. I came back on this forum specifically just to tell you that I left this jerk because I knew you would be proud of me.
Working out is definitely on my list. Already been doing that, been tanning-now I look even better.

[talaniman]

You go girl!

[31pumpkin]

You go girl DITTO. Don't worry about "what might've been". Today is the first day of the rest of your lives. You are young. So you have plenty of future ahead, which can bring someone nice into your lives. Just be careful. Make sure anyone that whoever you date from now on has basic respectable qualities. Who compliments you instead of finding fault & sabotaging any self esteem you have. Keep busy too. LOVE yourself and you'll wind up wanting someone who does too.

I'm glad about your progress. It looks like a sunny day to me!

[Wildcat21]

I AM PROUD OF YOU!!

It had to be done.

Spending time with your kids is the greatest thing!!