Distraght over my ex.

talaniman · May 29, 2008, 08:46 PM

Good.

but we ended things on a good note, with laughs and smiles?

So what, does that mean your always available when she calls, puh-lease, You are not together so why are you obligated to jump when she rings.

They train dogs to do tricks, men are to dumb to be dogs, aren't they??

ajhastings88 · May 29, 2008, 08:48 PM

Dam, you just set my A$$ straight, good work tal.

ajhastings88 · May 30, 2008, 10:09 AM

Never mind

ajhastings88 · May 30, 2008, 07:16 PM

I was thinking I could text her back.

Were Still cool, I am just, doing me.

And that's it.

DaBaAd · May 30, 2008, 07:35 PM

Tell her you're busy and you'll call her sometime.

ajhastings88 · May 30, 2008, 08:00 PM

Ok I was confusing myself with the different post. OK this is how it went. She text me "have a good day at work", ani did not reply. Then after a couple of hours she called me, I did not answer. Then again she text me this, "I am guessing you dont want to be cool with me because we are not together. I understand, have a good life." all this happened 2 days ago, all in one day, With NC what so ever. I was thinking I could text her this.

Were still cool, I am just , doing me. Hope your doing well.

What do you think.

talaniman · May 30, 2008, 11:14 PM

Naw!!

ajhastings88 · May 31, 2008, 12:31 AM

DANGIT TAL. You took to long, I already sent it. I just jacked up NC.

hjpan · May 31, 2008, 12:47 AM

same boat here... except different situations =/

bigbird213 · May 31, 2008, 09:07 AM

Rushing into a decision and not being able to take time to rationally think about what is going on, the implications of your action, and what you want to accomplish is a sign that you are not doing well to get over this.

Next time something happens, if you are going to ask for help, take a few breaths and WAIT. I know the feeling of panic creeping up in your body, you feel your face go flush, you worry, you panic. That is exactly the reaction you want to AVOID when contemplating contact with the ex.

Chery · May 31, 2008, 04:14 PM

Question... did you read the stickies? Or, do you think your case is any different from 99% of the world.

Try deleting her number from your cell-phone, her email address from your PC, and get rid of all other evidence of her that reminds you around the place.

I double-dare you to forget about her for 24 hours! Because even though you profess to forget and tell us you are working on yourself - you are only fooling YOU - not US. We've been there, done that, some of us more than once and we know the addictive symptoms that you still have.

If you think duct tape and cheese-its are funny, my remedy is worse... a cocktail that will make you barf until your stomach is empty and shampoo to make you wash her out of your hair!

We know you will have your relapses just like any other addict - but for goodness sake - try to control yourself and regain some of that self-respect and look toward the future instead of backwards.

The only time you should act before you think is when you are running as far away from her as you can, so let that self-preservation instinct kick in.. Right about now! Would be a good time.

It's time to think about yourself and moving on...

hjpan · May 31, 2008, 05:12 PM

Originally Posted by Chery

Question... did you read the stickies? Or, do you think your case is any different from 99% of the world.

Try deleting her number from your cell-phone, her email address from your PC, and get rid of all other evidence of her that reminds you around the place.

I double-dare you to forget about her for 24 hours! Because even though you profess to forget and tell us you are working on yourself - you are only fooling YOU - not US. We've been there, done that, some of us more than once and we know the addictive symptoms that you still have.

If you think duct tape and cheese-its are funny, my remedy is worse... a coctail that will make you barf until your stomach is empty and shampoo to make you wash her out of your hair!

We know you will have your relapses just like any other addict - but for goodness sake - try to control yourself and regain some of that self-respect and look toward the future instead of backwards.

The only time you should act before you think is when you are running as far away from her as you can, so let that self-preservation instinct kick in.. right about now! would be a good time.

It's time to think about yourself and moving on....

I did not delete my ex's number since we're just "friends." I do not know what she wants from me...

damaged · May 31, 2008, 05:18 PM

I deleted his number.. but I know it by memory.. lol... that sux!. any ways I don't call him... I know better than that.. hurts though.. a l0t!. :(

Aj stay away from her... you'll end up hurting more... when she texts u.. txt me :).. lol...

talaniman · May 31, 2008, 06:24 PM

I did not delete my ex's number since we're just "friends." I do not know what she wants from me...

As long as your worrying about her, you can't worry about yourself, and that's not healthy, or attractive to any female.

hjpan · May 31, 2008, 06:29 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

As long as your worrying about her, you can't worry about yourself, and that's not healthy, or attractive to any female.

*sigh*
I guess so~
But, I am listening to Gloria Gaynor "I Will Survive" to get myself over the problem.

Chery · Jun 1, 2008, 06:29 AM

Quoting one of Talaniman's terms.. Get off the pitty-pot!
You will waste a lot of valuable time trying to figure out what SHE wants.. so figure out what YOU have control over, i.e. new friends, new experiences and a life with peace of mind and not second-guessing her.

Watch some comedies listen to some up-lifting music and go out.

You still didn't answer my last question... did you read the stickies?

Just like any other addict - don't think of your last 'fix' if you want to seriously get cured. And, we will help you on the way to healing.

Keep us posted.

I need a nicotine fix now, so talk to you later.

Chery · Jun 1, 2008, 06:36 AM

Originally Posted by hjpan

same boat here... except different situations =/

hjpan... The last post from me was directed toward you..
I realized too late, that this is not your original thread (from ajhastings), but that you have the same problem. Try your own thread on this subject so that we can take care of each problem from each poster without interrupting the flow. Each of you take different time to heal and need our individual attention.

So, ajhastings... how are you getting along in your healing process?

In a relationship turmoil, it's not a good idea to piggy-back.

Chery · Jun 1, 2008, 06:40 AM

Originally Posted by hjpan

I did not delete my ex's number since we're just "friends." I do not know what she wants from me...

OK, let's keep this thread for ajhastings... and post your own with information related to your personal issue so that we can concentrate our efforts to help both of you without getting mixed up. If you already posted an issue and I missed it, then please post the link so that I can read you from the start.

ajhastings88 · Jun 1, 2008, 06:41 AM

Actually, I am doing very well. The only problem I have is just missing her, that's it. I go out and have fun and meet new people all the time, and that helps. But when it time to go to sleep, or to wake up I start to remember all the things we used to do. I went out last night and that was really cool. And the way the ladies look at you when your happy and full of energy, when they know you just split up, is amazing. But yea. All I really do is miss her, that's it. Buy the ay I think one onf my close frinds are falling for me just after one night. ( dangerous ) I know, not going to go there. But it feels good to be WANTED!! I just remember this sayings "a hungry dog doesn't get fed ". It's her loss.

bigbird213 · Jun 1, 2008, 08:38 AM

AJ,

That's all normal. Missing her will vary from day to day, you will have great days and terrible days. It sounds like you are doing fine, keep it up.

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