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Miss Sparkle · Jan 11, 2008, 06:31 AM

It's just difficult to get rid of the old because we had so many plans, we were meant to be living together this year

Romefalls19 · Jan 11, 2008, 06:33 AM

I know how you feel Miss Sparkle... I had already bought my ex a promise ring and gave it to her on the cruise we took 2 summers ago, and then was going to propose on Spring Break this year :-/... I mean it's no ones fault but my own(and that's the truth) but I still wish that I was given another shot to prove to her I can do better, I just needed to get help with my jealousy

Miss Sparkle · Jan 11, 2008, 06:36 AM

He said that silly things I did broke us up. But there things that I can change given another chance. I can't imagine my life without him and that hurts. People always say there's someone better out there, but what if there isn't, what if that was my only true shot at happiness and I blew it? :(

Romefalls19 · Jan 11, 2008, 06:47 AM

Yea, I know how you feel. I was insanely jealous and I knew it. But after she broke it off with me and I went to a therapist I found out that I have basically what's called "life changing syndrome" which means it takes an life altering effect to open my eyes. But now I am taking courses to get my jealousy under control. I used to check her myspace all the time but ever since the day before New Years, I haven't even checked it. A small step but big in my eyes. Ignorance is bliss... I just hope she comes back, it's not like she is out with other guys

talaniman · Jan 11, 2008, 07:26 AM

Originally Posted by Miss Sparkle

he said that silly things i did broke us up. But there things that i can change given another chance. I can't imagine my life without him and that hurts. People always say theres someone better out there, but what if there isnt, what if that was my only true shot at happiness and i blew it?! :(

And what if there is a wonderful man, who you will meet when your both ready? Your way to young to worry about the future, so learn to love yourself now and be happy, and you'll attract someone to share it with.

Romefalls19 · Jan 11, 2008, 07:28 AM

I agree Tal.. But right now it's going to be hard. I mean my break up just happened 2 1/2 weeks ago so it's still a very open wound. But I realize before I can expect someone else to love me, I need to love myself first. I need to do things for myself, not for my ex. This site has shown me so much light and I am thankful I found it, and found support from people like you guys.

ISneezeFunny · Jan 11, 2008, 07:33 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

I just hope she comes back, it's not like she is out with other guys

Sadly, rome... I feel that this may be the wrong way of thinking about it. The "healthy" way of thinking about it is to say... WHO CARES IF SHE'S OUT WITH OTHER GUYS...

The reason I say that is because you're assuming that she's not (and she may or may not be, I have no idea)... but what if you found out that she was... or will be in the near future? How will that affect you?

The first week or so after my breakup was the same way. I thought NO WAY SHE'S GOING TO BE WITH SOME OTHER GUY... found out... 3 days after we broke up, she was. And that made it a LOT worse. So, just watch out for it.

Keep your head up. Good luck bud.

Romefalls19 · Jan 11, 2008, 07:38 AM

Well I know she isn't because of the fact her friend told me, she is still depressed over everything and all she does is hang out with her friends. I basically told her friend that I was giving up on her and hope of a reunion and her friend said "you never know" I mean I wish her the best and all the happiness in the world, even if it isn't with me. I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing. It's helping me by venting on here and doing the whole NC plan.

talaniman · Jan 11, 2008, 08:08 AM

So you think she is waiting on you to get your act together then?

Romefalls19 · Jan 11, 2008, 08:17 AM

I'm not sure if that's a rhetorical question lol. I'm not 100% sure she is, but I'm not sure she isn't. I'm not going to wait around for her, if someone comes along and we hit it off then great. If my ex comes back, that's good too. I understand where my ex is coming from, I have told her countless times I would change, and did for 2 weeks then went right back to how I was. So it could be very possible that she wants to wait and see if I mean what I say and actually use actions this time. I was her first love, her first everything. I know I'll always have a place in her heart, just like she will always have one in mine. But if it's meant to be it will happen, if not live and learn

Miss Sparkle · Jan 11, 2008, 08:55 AM

I only attract the losers who want sex and nothing more!

talaniman · Jan 11, 2008, 09:19 AM

Its simple, if you don't give them what they want, they leave, but be patient, as you grow and change so will the men around you change. 19 is growing pains time. Stay busy with what makes you happy.

Miss Sparkle · Jan 11, 2008, 09:29 AM

Its nuts but I hate the way my ex keeps saying "i know we're not perfect for eachother", it makes me feel like I did something wrong and I'm a failure because I couldn't keep him. I do think he was my one shot at happiness, no other guys can compare to him because he was the one and I blew it

Romefalls19 · Jan 11, 2008, 09:42 AM

I'm stuck trying to pick up the pieces too... I actually keep hearing a line in a song that says "I'm not the only one for you, but you're the only one for me." It seems so true, because how is it so easy for them to walk away while we stand here falling apart.

Miss Sparkle · Jan 11, 2008, 09:44 AM

That's exactly how it is. It seems so easy for my ex to walk away, but why am I finding it so difficult I don't understand. Im trying to win him back but I think I'm fighting a losing battle and its just guna result in me getting more hurt.
I shared a lot of firsts with him and I don't want to share that kind of stuff with anyone else. Im starting to sound like some kind of stalker arnt I?

Romefalls19 · Jan 11, 2008, 09:51 AM

No you're sounding a lot like me. While she wasn't my first, I was her first everything and wish I had treated her better... She was my first true love, I had those puppy loves in high school but this one just seemed great. I was too pushy in my demands from her with my jealousy. You guys would call me the biggest A-hole and say there's no way I deserve a chance, if you heard some of the things I did

Miss Sparkle · Jan 11, 2008, 09:53 AM

I feel like I'm kind of stuck in limbo, I know I should hold my head high and move on, but at the same time I don't think I can and in a way I don't want to

Romefalls19 · Jan 11, 2008, 09:55 AM

Yea, I know how you feel. Like you want to hold on thinking they will realize that you were "the one" but also you want to move on to show them you are strong. I swore to myself I wouldn't cry if I lost her, well I cried the whole ride home listening to music. Then I was like good, its out of my system, I won't cry when I see her to exchange possessions... WRONG! I felt like such a coward...

Miss Sparkle · Jan 11, 2008, 09:57 AM

I keep saying I won't cry over him, but it hurts. I've never felt pain like it, its worse than physical pain.

Romefalls19 · Jan 11, 2008, 09:59 AM

Yea it is.. I want for her to see so badly that I meant what I said in the fact that I will change and that I can do better. I just needed to get help, and now the help came too late for us. I try to tell myself that it's over and that I need to move on, she has. But then it's like I see her face again and it all comes back... I'm constantly reminded of what I lost.