[Synnen]

sorry to hear your sad story J_9
dont blame the other girl, but your husband!
or maybe it was you!!!! or maybe it was meant to be things happen for a reason right?.maybe you were supose to be with someone else. just maybe you'll find someone to like you. so that you can't stop being such a meanie!!!!!!

You have no concept of how much like a 12 year old you sound, do you?

Things happen for a reason, all right. Karma works.

It's just really too bad that we won't be there to see it when your Karma comes back and kicks your hoity-toity little rear end.

Get over yourself. If you really "loved" Levi, you'd want him happy, even if that was with someone else. What you WANT is the attention he gives you, and what makes you happy is the idea that a guy wants you more than the girl he is already with.

Can't you find a guy that's single, emotionally available, and not going to beat you? I think THAT is where real maturity is, honey.

[Homegirl 50]

I think she is going to turn her life around. For 19, she has been through a lot. I don't think you should compared her to some grown woman that destroyed another woman's marriage. All these people here are probably teens.
At any rate she is wrong, has said she is not going to be sexing this guy.
Give her a break.

[kittykatmeli]

That's good for you! I wish you the best for you and your new man. You can't say it was the other woman's fault but everyone's including you. Maybe you where lackin on you side? What did you let yourself go? Where you bad in bed? Or are you a nagging type? You must of done something wrong! Maybe this time you'll take care of your man. Okay sweetheart

[J_9]

Homegirl 50 disagrees: I'm sorry for what happened to you, but this young lady is just that, young and confused. She just got out of an abusive situation and needs help recouping.

I'm glad you are sorry for what happened to me. I'm not. I learned a very valuable lesson.

She got out of an abusive relationship and jumped right into another. Abuse does not have to be physical or verbal. She is assisting this boy in being abusive to another woman.

She is a homewrecker, plain and simple. She is happy to be one. Read the whole thread.

This is a girl who needs some help, more than we can give her here. So that she can learn just how damaging this can really be.

[Homegirl 50]

i am thanks alot! i know wut i'm doing is wrong! but i guess i'm going to let them be! but still countinue to be hes friend but thats it and i'll have NO sex with him.

Now you don't want to continue friendship with this guy. You two were having sex, not friendship. You two have a history, so don't you disrespect his girl friend by staying in the picture. Leave him completely alone.

[kittykatmeli]

oh my god your so freakin smart how you sum up my life!! You are like so right! So what's you new man number? Lol

[Homegirl 50]

I did read the whole thread. I see her as what she is, a young misguided mistreated young lady. I don't think she saw what she was doing as abusing and mistreating this other girl. When all you know is hurt, you tend not to see that you may be hurting someone else. I think she does now, at least I hope she does. I'd rather help her she see the error of her ways and change, than to see her get hurt by them.

[J_9]

thats good for you! i wish you the best for you and ur new man. you can't say it was the other womans fault but everyones including you. maybe you where lackin on you side? what did you let youself go? where you bad in bed? or are you a nagging type? you must of done something wrong! maybe this time you'll take care of your man. okay sweetheart

Hun, he's not my new man. I've had him for a long time and he realizes the value of a true relationship.

I CAN and WILL say it was the other woman's fault and my ex's fault, I was a good wife and he recognizes that now.

I was lackin? LMAO again. What did I do to let myself go? Nothing. Was I bad in bed? Nope, actually pretty damn good. Nagging type? Only when my husband did not come home till 2 in the morning when he should have been home at 9.

Why does it always turn around to the woman? Maybe it is homewreckers like you that entice the man who is a wanderer to begin with.

Karma baby, what comes around goes around!!

I have a beautiful home, wonderful children and make LOADS of money.

My ex and his ex sex toy, on the other hand, can't even afford to put food on the table.

What comes around goes around.

[Synnen]

There is having patience with someone and trying to help them, and there's teachign a little kid the difference between right and wrong.

I don't know about YOU, but when *I* was 19, I didn't try to take someone else's man.

Young women like you, Kitty, are the reason I don't have very many female friends. The very attitude of "you should have been able to hold your man" instead of "I can't believe a woman would even THINK about doing that to you!" is very telling. No wonder women don't trust each other. Is the kind of respect you're giving OTHER women the kind you'd like given to you?

I didn't think so.

[Homegirl 50]

thats good for you! i wish you the best for you and ur new man. you can't say it was the other womans fault but everyones including you. maybe you where lackin on you side? what did you let youself go? where you bad in bed? or are you a nagging type? you must of done something wrong! maybe this time you'll take care of your man. okay sweetheart

Now don't be catty. A woman does not have to be doing anything wrong for a man to cheat. Just as a woman does not have to be doing anything wrong for a man to hit her. So be nice and have some repect. You don't make nasty comments like that. You may one day find yourself in her shoes.

[kittykatmeli]

Okay just believe your lies you didn't do anything wrong you perfect lol whatever makes you feel better. Man I'm having so much fun with you.



a*K*A homewrecker

[J_9]

Yeah, you are a little girl.

[kittykatmeli]

I don't have any woman friends for that exact reason. I only have a few good friends and that's all I need and of course my family.

[Homegirl 50]

okay sorry its just that miss J_9 is talking to much crap.

No she is not talking crap, she is showing you the other side of cheating. What pain cheaters inflict on a family. This is something you need to hear and let soak in. You don't want to be a person that destroys a family do you? And I know you don't want to be on the receiving end of this. See when a man decides to cheat, he has spotted fresh meat. He may have choice meat at home, but he is greedy and selfish and does not think about the pain he is causing. To blame the wife is a flimsy excuse that makes the bitter pill easier to swallow.
Now act like the mature young lady you are and accept good advice and counsel. Don't be a catty female, it is very unbecoming

[J_9]

I wonder why you don't have any women friends. They are all afraid that you will take their men.

As I said, what comes around goes around.

[Synnen]

No... you don't have any women friends because they're afraid you'll make a play for their men.

The difference between you and J9 is that YOU and women like you are the reason that J9 and I and women like US don't trust many other women.

Everyone needs support, honey. You never know when someone you hurt will be in the position to offer you your dream--or deny it.

[Homegirl 50]

A woman does not deserve to be cheated on and she may not have done a thing to cause it, just as no woman deserves to be hit and didn't do a thing to cause it. Remember that the next time you decide to say something so foolish as "okay just believe your lies you didn't do anything wrong you perfect lol whatever makes you feel better. man I'm having so much fun with you." or "you must not have been a good wife"
Sisterhood is a powerful and wonderul thing. Let's move past this catty mess ladies.

[kittykatmeli]

No because my ex didn't let me have any friends or talk to my family that's why!

[kittykatmeli]

Okay sorry I guess I just don't want to hear the truth! And I truly feel sorry. But I'll take your advise. Thanks everyone.

[kittykatmeli]

Okay to tell you the truth I brought him back into my life because I was feeling lonely and depressed. And I'm starting to mess my freakin ex which I'm not suppose to.