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rileyma · Jun 8, 2007, 01:29 PM

Originally Posted by clarityseeker

And I think a key thing to remember, too, and a bitter pill to swallow for me as well, is that they simply don't care as much as you do. So telling her off will only emphasize how much more you care about the outcome than she does. If she cared about you or what you think of her, she wouldn't have walked away in such a horribly insensitive way. She wouldn't have done what she did. I mean, would you do that to someone you cared about? Just trying to emphasize the point that telling her off is useless.

That's what I don't understand. She told me no more than 2 weeks ago that she loved me and wanted things to work out to where we were together in the end. I think these girls are so confused with the idea of what love really is. She is young and immature and I just have to face that.

I think that these are the types of girls who would cheat on you if you were married. Basically that is what they did.

huno · Jun 8, 2007, 01:41 PM

Balls on a platter, balls on a platter...

Regarding your altruistic ambitions... um, let her figure it out on her own, like most girls do. Granted, it sucks when women go well into their late 20s and they're still dating losers, but they will not--I repeat, will NOT--learn the error of their ways through admonition, whether spoken or written. It must be experienced.

(Guys are not any different, either, but as a guy who is currently bitter towards girls that go for guys who make the Jackass boys look like Bill Nye the Science Guy, I'm going to rail on women for now.)

Anyway, she must feel the hurt. She is not unlike a child, and in fact IS a child, in many ways: it doesn't matter how many times you tell little Timmy he shouldn't pee on the electric fence--he MUST do it. The fence compels him to do it. It isn't even that it's an electric fence, but rather that "the Man" forbids that he relieve himself on it. Only until he feels the pain--a consequence of his short-sighted idiocy--will he realize that he should have listened. And so it is with this girl you seem to be obsessed with.

Let her pee on the electric fence. And don't stick around to watch; you don't want any splashback. Unless you're into that kind of thing.

newlablover · Jun 8, 2007, 03:37 PM

You are feeling like crap and you are worried if your true feelings ar too harsh? Im a girl and I would never treat someone like that. To hurt them and then string them along. I say that if she hasn't contacted you in the next few days, move on and get over her. There are plenty of girls out there that will apprectiate you and will let you know, and will respect yo and will show it. Good luck!

mckenzie134 · Jun 8, 2007, 10:06 PM

DO NOT CONTACT her ifyou ever want he back let her come back on he own.Calling or talking to her will get you know where. If she wants a break from you no matter what she said in the past about I love you she obviouslyjust wants someone else. Very hard to understand but very easy to understand one thing about a lot of girls they tell you what is good for them at the etime. And when you said they are emotional they are girls but as soon as a new opportunity arrises to place that emotion somewhere else theywill leave you. Even though she said she loved you at the time well she had no whee else toplace the emotion maybe the other guy was uncetain but when she new he was keenbang she's gone. Always keep your guard up girlswill say they love you many times and many girls are gteat but some will leave without a worry in the world they are selfish!!