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Lotz_of_Questions · Apr 24, 2007, 01:31 PM

Ok so during my weekend me and my husband decieded to go to Vegas. It was something very sudden. He his very outgoing. We went shopping because we will be going to Mexico and we wanted to buy summer clothes to be in the beach. But enywayz. We left to Vegas early in the morning and got there around 10am Vegas time.

I texted my sister to let her know that we were gone.(my family had plans to come over to my house some time sat or sun) So she said she was going to let my parents know.

So when we were shopping I got a call from my mom. We live in Utah, and she asked, 'what are you doing' I responded 'shopping right, now I'm looking at sunglasses' then she says 'so you went to Park City' (in park city there is outlet stores where we go offen) So then I said 'no Mom we're at Vegas did my sister tell you' Then she says 'Yes but I didn't believe her, are you guys crazy or what?' I just stayed quite. Then she said/asked again 'are you guys crazy? You guys don't think straight' I felt so horrible I just stayed quite then she says 'ok well drive home safe' Then I just said 'Bye' and hung up.

I was so upset that I didn't even tell my husband right then or else I would have gotten out of control (I think). I later told him but I asked him not to mention it any more cause I didn't fell good talking about it.

So I haven't talked to her since. It just makes me mad how she said that. I never expected my Mom to say anything like that, and she clearly knew I got mad, but she didn't even apologize. I know she is my Mom and I can't stay mad at her forever, but right now I just don't want to talk to her. Tell me if I'm doing wrong. It's just that I expected a different respond from her she acted to dumb. IT MAKES ME MAD:mad:

Lowtax4eva · Apr 24, 2007, 01:39 PM

Maybe she was worried you'd gamble away a months pay in a night, I don't know, ask her, maybe she has a really awful mental image of what its like in Vegas and what exactly you planned on doing there.

Emland · Apr 24, 2007, 01:45 PM

I have completely missed the point. Why are you mad at her? Because she thinks you were being foolish for going to Vegas? Is mom super thrifty? A tiny part of you must have agreed with her or you wouldn't be so pissed. Your mother is entitled to her opinion and you are free to go where you choose when you choose.

If my mother had asked "are you crazy?" I would have replied "apples don't fall far from trees, do they?!" but I am just cheeky like that.

Lotz_of_Questions · Apr 24, 2007, 01:46 PM

I'm 19. And she knows that I would never allow my husband to gamble more than 50bucks. And she has never actually been to Vegas she has driven past it but never even stayed a night there.

I'm at work right now and she called my work phone. I sent her right to the voicemail cause I'm still angre about it. I called my Hubby and just started crying, I feel horrible, but I don't want her to do that to me. My husband says she might of just been playing. But my Mom knows that I can't take jokes and she never messes like that with me.

Lotz_of_Questions · Apr 24, 2007, 01:52 PM

Emland, You know your Mom really well right? Well I know my Mom pretty well too. I know she said this to be mean about it. I don't know why did it, but just the way she said it. And of course I know she thought I was being foolish but why does she care. I mean would Mothers say things to their married kids. Just let them do what they want.
It's so dumb I know but I just can't stop feeling the way I do.

Emland · Apr 24, 2007, 01:54 PM

Is your mom of the religious sort? Perhaps Vegas aka Sin City really is on her list of places she doesn't want her daughter going to. My mother makes snarky comments whenever I mention a new martini recipe I have found. I just roll my eyes and keep going.

Don't be so sensitive! Time to be your own woman and not mommy's girl.

Lotz_of_Questions · Apr 24, 2007, 01:58 PM

She is very Catholic.
I guess I do have to talk to her about it. But I think I'm going to wait a couple more days till I cool off.
And it's funny that you mention Mommy's Girl, I WISH. I was never Mommy's or Daddy's Girl. I've always been very independent. It might be why I got so mad when she made that comment. She never got in my business.

richcali · Apr 24, 2007, 02:11 PM

If it were me I would ask her why she said it and what she meant by it. If you don't ask it is going to eat at you until you are so upset that you may make a bad decision based on being mad and that's never a good thing. Do you or your spouse have a gambling problem? Do you guys have some financial problems? Do your parents have a gambling problem? These are the only questions that I could think of that could cause her to say those things and keep in mind that she ended it with be safe so she is concerned about you. There has to be a reason she reacted this way and it may seem mean to say it the way she did (OK it was mean) Ask her why as this is your only way to understand the situation. I would tell her how much it hurt to have her say something like that to you.