[Wildcat21]

Always positive. Fun fun fun.

Hopefully you leave a message - short message.

You need to learn this stuff and how to handle woman.

But don't call until the Wednesday before.

[lickemlolly]

You want an opinion from a woman's perspective that has been through similar situations... women hate men who are clingy who call 20 times a day... we look at the phone and go ugh not him AGAIN and then don't answer the phone... IF she is interested she will call you... DONT call her... she will start to wonder wow I wonder if he's still into me and eventually if she likes you she will call... I know its hard to resist the temptation of calling but don't... you can't be up a woman's all day because you will drive them away I promise...

[Wildcat21]

Thank you!! Yes!! 98% of guys don't know this.

Give her time - let he miss you.

My gal generally calls me - she knows this and it works for us. Sure I'll call.

AND I don't spend an hour on the phone with her - NEVER -that's for her and her girl friends.

When we talk - it's face to face - and generally fun.

I don't believing TEXT message either - ruins relationships.

On the phone talk 5 minutes or 10 minutes max - AND YOU always end the call first - ALWAYS.

[lostintheworld]

I like this girl, I'd like to see her again. With that stated I was re-reading this thread and became confused. Why should I wait a month to see if she calls me? By then I'd have hopefully gotten over her and met someone else. If she's not willing or more importantly wanting to see me why should I wait? Right now the feelings are there. I enjoyed being with her and had great times with her but we were only together for about 7 weeks. Nothing to make any marriage decisions about. I'm having a party at my place next weekend, I'd like to invite her. There will my tons of people there (I have 5 roomates) and I'm not going to stalker her all night but hopefully flirt with other girls and make her want me. My question is should I invite her or just forget about her?

I hope my thoughs came across clearly. :)

[lickemlolly]

Let me tell you something right now... if you call her to invite her to the party just keep in mind that it may backfire in your face and she may pick up one of your buddies and then what?? the best thing is to probably just move on... I could see if you'd had a long term rship with this person but 7wks come on you got no commitments and she's making it clear she's not feeling you right now... if she calls great!if not MOVE ON!! there are plenty of other fish in the sea you have not been with this person long enough for her to make a decision on long term and right now your hurting your chances not helping... and you know what else... if she is still into you,seeing you flirt with other girls is going to piss her off and make her think you're a loser that you would invite her to a party to flirt with other guys.. its high school its childish and its playing games with the emotions of another human being...

You want my advice.. just move on... if she wants you she will let you know... sounds like she's not worth it anyway

[Exclusive_Cl]

I feel for you brother! It took me a looooooooong time to figure that out.

Don't call!!!! Don't call!!! No contact.

Less is more.

LEARN about nice guys.

goto to these sites and read EVERYTHING!!!!

www.askmen.com - click on 'Dating' - READ everything - especially Dr. Love!

www.sosuave.com - read everything!!!

www.relationships.blog-city.com - VERY IMPORTANT site for you - learn about 'Nice Guys' and their failure with woman.

BUY David Deangelos book at www.doubleyourdating.com - DD is my quam, my guru.

Get this part of your life in order. You WILL feel better about learning this stuff.

It's NOT about being a jerk/bad boy - it's about learning attraction. NOT putting woman on pedestals, having a spine, saying no, NOT calling all the time.

It's about learning about woman's tests, teasing them, doing things the OPPOSITE of what you may think, learning woman are VERY different than men etc.

And you done with this woman?

I'm sorry for overposting your original message Lost_In_The_World but this maybe good for future reference. It's been a week and things are getting serious, she wants to talk to me and I want to talk to her. We are texting and communicating all the time. This is the problem, is this healthy. (I'm going to post a fresh forum on this because it's a bigger issue) We have so many ways of communicating nowadays, are we getting way too much of each other too soon, how can I slow this process down? Or is that smart?
Cheers
Carl

[Wildcat21]

I've found texting can ruin a relationship - ruin it. You don't want to be on the phone all the time either - you turn into her girlfrined = friend zone = no relationship.

[The Nobleman]

when starting a new relationship, less then a month, how many times should you see each other/ call/ talk??

That is up to you and yours... however I would be very careful and check with the person I have said relationship with as well as her parents and your own. Parents are good at this type of thing... and if you feel you need to hide what you say in front of your parents... then its best not said at all unless you can contain it until you get to school or the work place wherever you happen to have met this person.