[joypulv]

Help77, what has happened in the last 3 days?

I read back through all of this and am still worried about your ability to see the whole picture. You say good self-help things, and take advice and criticism well, but then you say something like 'He needs another few months to decide if he wants to marry me all because of a few arguments!'

WOW, you don't get it! It isn't because of a 'few arguments' at all! I don't feel like repeating what everyone here has said - just that you aren't getting the whole picture.

[Help77]

I finally get it. We spoke on Sunday. He says he is scared and confused and if we do get married and fight he will get a divorce. That is not a healthy way to start a life. We are not a good match never have been. Or else there would've been no trust issues from my part and no eggshells on his part. He says I pressured him to get married. I don't feel that I pressured him. We spoke about goals and my goals were to get married and have a family. His goals were to get married and for us to live at home with his mom. He thought id change I thought he'd change. I have packed his things and can now see clearly that this will never work out. Your right it wasn't one argument it's been a history of arguments.