[prouddadda]

I wish I could just leave it alone... She swears its mine... Been talking to her all day about it...

[smoothy]

I wish I could just leave it alone..... She swears its mine.... Been talking to her all day about it...

She can't know who's it is for sure... she might wish its yours, fact is it could be eithers. Obviously one will cause far more issues than the other... but for reasons of medical history... you really do need to know for certain who's it is.

[Alty]

I wish I could just leave it alone..... She swears its mine.... Been talking to her all day about it...

Of course she swears it's yours, she doesn't want her marriage to end, especially since it's very clear you'll divorce her if it's not yours, and the other guy has no interest in being a father. That leaves here with very few options.

But she can't know it's yours, no one can at this point. Only a DNA test after the baby is born will tell you who the father is. So she can swear on a stack of bibles, doesn't mean that what she believes, is fact.

[dontknownuthin]

You can't know until a DNA rest is done. She could have changes you described due to ovulation, or it could be because she was newly pregnant and her body was changing to accommodate the pregnancy. She also had an affair, and could be lying about the duration of the affair... she could be further along than you know. When the baby is born, a paternity test can be done.

In the meantime you have time to seek marital counseling. Whether it is yours or not, whether you stay married or divorce, you should go to counseling together to get help with this. You have other kids together and have to find a way to work things out peacefully and cooperatively even if you can't stay with her, or all the kids will be hurt.

[prouddadda]

Im just really afraid to find out it isn't mine. I will be heart broken if it isn't..

She didn't know she was pregnant until she missed her period and took a test. Im doing my best to think positive and to think it is mine. But her cheating on the 23rd is just too close to her fertility days even though Her and I had sex the entire week of her fertility and then some.

My heart thinks its mine just because is she ovulated on the 28th, his sperm were 5 days old and close to there death time. Mine were fresher and stronger and closer to her egg dropping day.

But my mind thinks the opposite because the other guy is a lot younger than me (28, I was 42 at the time)

[smoothy]

Im just really afraid to find out it isnt mine. I will be heart broken if it isnt..

She didnt know she was pregnant until she missed her period and took a test. Im doing my best to think positive and to think it is mine. But her cheating on the 23rd is just too close to her fertility days even though Her and I had sex the entire week of her fertility and then some.

My heart thinks its mine just because is she ovulated on the 28th, his sperm were 5 days old and close to there death time. Mine were fresher and stronger and closer to her egg dropping day.

But my mind thinks the opposite because the other guy is alot younger than me (28, I was 42 at the time)

You are trying to convince yourself of something that can't possibly be determined before a DNA test is run.

Unless she was doing a Basal Temptature CHart every day... or was getting tests to determine ovulation dates you are all making wild unsubstantiated guesses... otherwise you have to assume she could get pregnant ANY day... some women get pregnant DURING their period. There is no such thing as SAFE days.

I'm betting you or her really don't have any idea when she actually does ovulate... online calendars and cell phone apps are absolutely worthless... because assuming women all ovulate on day X of her cycle is like assuming ALL women have a 28 day cycle are will be regular as celestial events... the fact is all of those assumptions would be woefully incorrect.

Statistically SOME women might actually fall on the days those predict... fact is a lot of others won't. And a broken clock is still right twice a day if you see where I'm going with that.

Trying to convince yourself she could only possibly get pergnant on certain days is both totally contrary to facts... but is going to do nobody any good.

[prouddadda]

Another fact... Her and I have been trying for another baby since December 2011 and struck out each month. Then boom.. Now she's pregnant...

[smoothy]

Another fact... Her and I have been trying for another baby since december 2011 and struck out each month. Then boom.. Now shes pregnant...

What does that prove exactly? I'm being serious... give it a lot of thought.

Then give it some more thought... many monogomous couples with NO fertility issues might try for several years before having success.

There are a LOT of variables, a huge amount exactly... and luck does pay a factor here.

Why will one woman get pregnant the first time she has sex (even with birth control)... while another with no issues might take years of trying before she does.

You are thinking in absolutes where absolutes really have no place.

Do you think wearing a condom means you absolutely won't make her pregnant... fact is even if you do it right.. they have only a 80% effective rate... think iof she's on the pill she absolutely won't get pregnant... fact is there is still several percentage ponts of possibility. THink if you used both she ABSOLUTELY won't get pregnant... you would still be wrong because I can name two women on this site that still got pregnant... one of them more than once.


You have to stop thinking in absolutes when chance plays the largest role.

[ScottGem]

That actually leans towards the other guy. If you two had failed to conceive for almost 2 years and then it hits when she has sex with someone else it could mean you were the problem (were you tested?).

But it still all speculation.

[prouddadda]

Her and I have had 2 girls with out any problems when trying. We also had a miscarriage before our second daughter. But she got pregnant soon after that miscarriage also..

I did a home test you buy at walgreens and it came out positive.

We also tried the ovulation predictors but couldn't figure them out...

[prouddadda]

I understand what you are all saying. Its too close to call and I know a dna test will be needed.. It sucks because I wanted another baby so bad. But I want it to be mine, not someone else's..

[smoothy]

Yeah it does suck not being able to find out for so long... but you really would be doing yourself and the child a disservice by making assumptions.

[prouddadda]

My wife has herself convinced without a doubt that it is mine... She doesn't see reality I guess..

[smoothy]

My wife has herself convinced without a doubt that it is mine...She doesnt see reality I guess..

Well... whats the old saying... Wish in one hand... poop in the other... which gets full first?

She's going to have to face it sooner or later...

Like was mentioned.. some medical conditions run in families as do certain genetic predispositions to certain diseases (like breast or colon cancer, diabetes, or a number of others)... and you really do want to know these sorts of things.

[prouddadda]

I told her today she needs to face reality. She says she is and she knows its mine. But she can't prove it..

[smoothy]

I told her today she needs to face reality. She says she is and she knows its mine. But she can't prove it..

DNA test after the child's birth will put that to rest... definatively (and Legally). One way or the other.

Since you aren't related to the person she cheated with... there won't be any margin of error to mull over.

[Wondergirl]

Like was mentioned..some medical conditions run in families as do certain genetic predispositions to certain diseases (like breast or colon cancer, diabetes, or a number of others)....and you really do want to know these sorts of things.

Smoothy is correct. On my husband's side of the family is alcoholism, autism, and Alzheimer's. On my side there's bipolar illness, heart disease, and lots of short people. I made sure my two sons are well aware of their genetic heritage.

[prouddadda]

Well maybe with some luck and praying the baby will be mine...


How soon can you take a home pregnancy test?

If I remember correctly, my wife took one the day of or the day after her missed period and it was positive. Does that explain anything?