[prouddadda]

My wife cheated on me on 8/23/2013. Before I knew she cheated, I had sex with her the entire week of 8/26/2013 which she also ovulated on 8/28/2013.Now she's pregnant.. Tough question. But do I have a better chance of being the father of her baby?

[smoothy]

You won't know until the DNA test is done... and I would strongly recommend getting one done... otherwise it will be assumed to be yours.. and in a divorce even if one occurs before the birth... you will be in the hook for child support, even if its not.

[Wondergirl]

How do you know she ovulated then?

[prouddadda]

How do you know she ovulated then?

Because her mucus was sticky and slimy. I didn't know what it was until I started reading up on ovulation.. Also it felt a lot different then it ever has. I was constantly hitting something every time we had sex. It even felt tighter then ever before. But this didn't start till 8/27/13. Before that it felt the same as it always has.. I was like a young guy again.. Couldn't last very long at all even though we were doing it every night..

Part of me thinks its mine because I have a lot of baby symptons. I had morning sickness, hungry a lot more, nausea, more sensitive to smell etc...

I have 2 other kids by my wife and had all the symptons with them as well..

[smoothy]

Because her mucus was sticky and slimy. I didnt know what it was untill I started reading up on ovulation..Also it felt alot different then it ever has. I was constantly hitting something everytime we had sex. It even felt tighter then ever before. I was like a young guy again.. Couldnt last very long at all even though we were doing it every night..

MIght want to do a lot more research... there are only two ways to know when an ovulation actually happens... Basal Temprature chart... (taken daily for over a year) or a series of Medical tests to establish when it actually happens... anything else is as accurate as reading tea leaves or chicken entrails... there is a LOT of false information on the internet. I got that from Medical professionals... not the internet.

[prouddadda]

I added more to my post above.

[prouddadda]

From all the calendars on here and stuff, I think I have the better chance of it being mine and I truly hope it is. Ive accepted it as mine unless it comes out looking nothing like me at all.If he/she resembles some, I will never question it.

I know why even ask on here.. Right? Because a part of me is still angry that she even cheated.

Our doctor even said I can help deliver him/her which Ive never had that option.

[Wondergirl]

From all the calendars on here and stuff, I think I have the better chance of it being mine and I truly hope it is. Ive accepted it as mine unless it comes out looking nothing like me at all.If he/she resembles some, I will never question it.

I know why even ask on here.. Right? Because a part of me is still angry that she even cheated.

Our doctor even said I can help deliver him/her which Ive never had that option.

It won't be fair to this child if you don't insist on a paternity test. The other guy is owed the knowledge that this baby is his, if it is. And someday, there will possibly be a medical or mental health issue that will arise and demand family background. And if the child grows up in your house looking like him..

[prouddadda]

It won't be fair to this child if you don't insist on a paternity test. The other guy is owed the knowledge that this baby is his, if it is. And someday, there will possibly be a medical or mental health issue that will arise and demand family background. And if the child grows up in your house looking like him..... ?

I don't think the other guy even cares to know if its his or not. He has never questioned it. He was a coworker of my wife's. My wife guarantees its mine. But I see your point. If we do a dna and it isn't mine, I don't know what I would do.

[ScottGem]

I dont think the other guy even cares to know if its his or not. He has never questioned it. He was a coworker of my wifes. My wife guarantees its mine. But I see your point. If we do a dna and it isnt mine, I dont know what I would do.

A parent is the person who raises a child. While I understand how raising a child you know is not yours can be very difficult, If it is not yours, the likelihood that it will come out eventually is too great not to know from the get go.

[prouddadda]

If it isn't mine.. Why do I get all these sympathy pains and stuff?

[Wondergirl]

If it isnt mine.. Why do I get all these sympathy pains and stuff??

Did they begin before you knew she was pregnant, or after?

[ScottGem]

If it isnt mine.. Why do I get all these sympathy pains and stuff??

Because she's pregnant. Sympathy pains are psychosomatic. There is NO physical reason for the father to experience any symptoms of pregnancy. Any symptoms you might experience (and I'm not trying to minimize sympathy pains) are of your own making because you think she is pregnant.

[CravenMorhead]

If it isnt mine.. Why do I get all these sympathy pains and stuff??

That is just associative. They occur because you're around.

I won't put odds on this. I would expect it to be yours, but there is a chance, decent at that, that it is the co-workers.

A paternity test is almost required at this point. More so for the child's health. If there is a medical history that could impact the young one's life.

Where you go from there is going to require a lot of talking with your wife. Resolve the issue and remember that if that child isn't yours by blood it will be yours by family. Don't take the paternity of the child out on it. It's not the little one's fault. I know you think you won't, but it will ever be a sign of your wife's infidelity. This will be a huge hurdle for you.

[prouddadda]

Did they begin before you knew she was pregnant, or after?

Eating more and nausea were before I knew she was. I know because I just lost 80lbs since December by cutting way down on my eating. Then all of a sudden Im hooked on stuff I don't normally eat. Like peanut butter sandwiches (Fattening), Bananas and chocolate ice cream (I hate bananas)..

[ScottGem]

Eating more and nausea were before i knew she was. I know because I just lost 80lbs since December by cutting way down on my eating. Then all of a sudden Im hooked on stuff I dont normally eat. Like peanut butter sandwiches (Fattening), Bananas and chocolate ice cream (I hate bananas) ..

Again, this is all in your head. There is no physical reason for you to be experiencing such things.

[prouddadda]

That is just associative. They occur because you're around.

I won't put odds on this. I would expect it to be yours, but there is a chance, decent at that, that it is the co-workers.

A paternity test is almost required at this point. More so for the child's health. If there is a medical history that could impact the young one's life.

Where you go from there is going to require a lot of talking with your wife. Resolve the issue and remember that if that child isn't yours by blood it will be yours by family. Don't take the paternity of the child out on it. It's not the little one's fault. I know you think you won't, but it will ever be a sign of your wife's infidelity. This will be a huge hurdle for you.

I will most likely get a divorce.

[prouddadda]

Again, this is all in your head. There is no physical reason for you to be experiencing such things.

I understand. I had it with all my kids..

[Wondergirl]

Eating more and nausea were before i knew she was. I know because I just lost 80lbs since December by cutting way down on my eating. Then all of a sudden Im hooked on stuff I dont normally eat. Like peanut butter sandwiches (Fattening), Bananas and chocolate ice cream (I hate bananas) ..

It sounds like that was more your body issue than something connected to her. (Many women don't have food cravings, especially not early on -- too busy throwing up or wishing they could.)

[ScottGem]

I understand. I had it with all my kids..

I understand, and I don't want to minimize that fact that you are experiencing this. But it is your brain that's doing it, not her pregnancy.