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    #21

    Jun 13, 2013, 03:13 PM
    I'm with everyone else's here... go back home... get away from this person... and avoid ever getting involved with another like them... because if you don't drag them down... they will certainly drag you down.

    Life is difficult enough without surrounding yourselves with losers.
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    Jun 13, 2013, 03:57 PM
    He simply said "I guess I'm not in the mood because I'm stressed about money" which if he didn't buy so much cigarettes all the time wouldn't be as big of an issue. But apparently according to his past roommate he's never been very good with prioritizing $. I mean I went a month without glasses (mine broke) and his roommate ended up buying them for me because I was walking around blind for a month and I had nobody to help me but my boyfriend and he procrastinated on it then got angry that they bought me glasses without telling him and expected him to pay them back. And on a side note if your supposed "best friend" pretty much molested your girlfriend and you still talk to them is that wrong? Am I wrong for thinking that's wrong? He says "What happened happened" and never even told the guy he knew and they still play video games together and talk. Plus he always says "what YOU did to me". I don't feel like I did anything... I held back from telling him and let it go on so that we would have a roof over our heads (moreso him since I had somewhere to go at that point and he didn't) and because I know he doesn't have many friends here and I didn't want to ruin their friendship,but yet he blames me for it. I was trying to be thoughtful of him. :/
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    Jun 13, 2013, 04:00 PM
    So who is the fool her, him, you, or both of you?
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    Jun 13, 2013, 04:14 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Askylitheart View Post
    He simply said "I guess I'm not in the mood because I'm stressed about money" which if he didn't buy so much cigarettes all the time wouldn't be as big of an issue. But apparently according to his past roommate he's never been very good with prioritizing $. I mean I went a month without glasses (mine broke) and his roommate ended up buying them for me because I was walking around blind for a month and I had nobody to help me but my bf and he procrastinated on it then got angry that they bought me glasses without telling him and expected him to pay them back. And on a side note if your supposed "best friend" pretty much molested your gf and you still talk to them is that wrong? Am I wrong for thinking that's wrong? He says "What happened happened" and never even told the guy he knew and they still play video games together and talk. Plus he always says "what YOU did to me". I don't feel like I did anything...I held back from telling him and let it go on so that we would have a roof over our heads (moreso him since I had somewhere to go at that point and he didn't) and because I know he doesn't have many friends here and I didn't want to ruin their friendship,but yet he blames me for it. I was trying to be thoughtful of him. :/

    Why are you even trying to justify anything he's said or done. Control freaks and abusers are good at making others believe they are responsible for what THEY are actually responsible for. And many of their victims are badgered into believing the lies.
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    #25

    Jun 13, 2013, 04:16 PM
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    So who is the fool her, him, you, or both of you?
    Probably me. I should've said something the first time it happened. I just didn't want to cause drama or have them kick my boyfriend out because of me. I doubt they would've believed me anyway. The roommate who did it was trying to break my boyfriend and I up and blamed me for everything,so I would've been the loser no matter what. His wife want very nice to me either and it makes me wonder if she caught him giving me the eye or something. Well that and they would take out their frustration with my boyfriend on me and their frustration with their life on me. Always yelling at me and telling my boyfriend things I never said. So I would say I'm the fool I suppose.
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    Jun 13, 2013, 04:26 PM
    Then stop being the fool and get the hell out of there!!
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    Jun 13, 2013, 04:42 PM
    YOU alone are responsible for your destiny. So stand up and take back control of it now... get out... move back to your parents and get your life back on the right course.

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