[suzie48]

I still see my ex boyfriend but it's purely on a plutonic basis. Unfortunately, my boyfriend dumped me a month ago because he couldn't deal with the ex being in the picture, however he didn't tell me it was a problem and just kept saying he understood, so I would say your girlfriend is not being very fair to you by not taking into account how you feel. If I'd have known how my boyfriend felt about my ex, I would have stopped the contact there and then. You do need to ask her how she'd feel if you were seeing an ex-girlfriend who still kissed you and went out with you when she wasn't there?

[Jiser]

Hmm repeating what I said:

I ve been in this situation and it can really fuel insecurities! You must communicate with each other about how you feel. If one of the partners is not comfortable with it then either you must stop the communication or say if you don't like it, then see you!

Fact is at one point in the past you would have probably had an intimate loving friendship with an ex, some people can maintain this connection after a break up, some cannot. For those who don't want to loose this, then that is fine as long as there is nothing else going on.

It comes down to:

1) Whether you respect your current partner enough
2) Trust!
3) Do you want to loose that connection with your ex? - or does this merely mean (I still have feelings and I want someone on the back burner - JUST LET GO OF THE PAST :) )