[talaniman]

Few of us are born with those skills and some take an awful lot of time to develop them. You actually have to want and practice being better. I think being patient with yourself is where it starts. I mean, whose perfect? There will be mistakes made as you gain control over YOURSELF, after you accept thats all YOU can control. YOUR thoughts, words and actions. Think before you act or speak, and always take a minute to take a second look before you do anything.

You are really just starting to learn about YOURSELF. Right?

[Heartache402]

Yes, there are many things that I am working on these days. This learning phase is helping a lot. REALLY. I am glad that this break up happened ( obviously, excluding the worst part that I had a heart break) but I guess I am growing as a person. And all thanks to you Talaniman.You've helped to get through this. Guided me the right path & the lighted the positiveness more. I'm on this self grooming spree now. Getting wiser & Widening my knowledge area too. In this phase of life,Seems I am on the right track .
I am doing good , am I?

[talaniman]

Yes you are, and the storms of life are but temporary if you keep moving forward through them!

[Heartache402]

I understood talaniman! I'll keep updating you with good times and hardships . Thanks a lot :D

[Heartache402]

I'm hating this!
Just by seeing any one of his family or anything that he possesses his car or anything sets my pulse on racing . It disturbs me a lot. We both are in same colg. Same class. I just can't face him. It disturbs a lot. I've acceptes I lovely happily at home but as soon as he's around it really disturba me a lot. Even more than that. :(
My colg. Life is over! I
When I haven't done anything wrong why is it being so difficult for Me to face him?
It disturbs a lot. Please help :(

[talaniman]

Those feeling are temporary if you do things that distract you from them. When you see him, you focus on something else. If you know you will see him, have some other task to focus on. You really don't have to carry those feelings around with you if you have a plan or strategy to deal with them.

It's a part of the healing/growing process, and the goal is to be always looking forward both in thoughts and actions until we no longer have to be a slave to those old feelings. When you see him,or his car, look around to other people and things to divert your attentions to. Bet you start to say a lot of other things besides him.

Try it. Make a list of other things to pay attention too, when he is around. Practice this over and over until you are good at it. In this way we learn NOT to let our feelings get so carried away we hurt ourselves. Self control is the first step in letting go, and moving on.

[Heartache402]

You were right talaniman. I tried it and it really worked. N I still apply the same*

[talaniman]

Just wait until you get good at it, and find out what you have been missing because you were distracted by useless thoughts and emotions.

That's when the fun begins. And so does the healing.