[tickle]

Older than me and i just know that im ready to take care of a child

Are you ready financially to care for a baby? Is there insurance in place to pay for delivery and hospital care. You may think you are able, but at 13 may not be physically ready.

[deadchild]

I have $600 in a bank account and I have insuranc... and I have over $4000 worth of baby items furniture,clothes,bottles,bibs,etc

[Wondergirl]

Health insurance on your own or under your parents' name?

[ScottGem]

i have $600 in a bank account and i have insuranc...and i have over $4000 worth of baby items furniture,clothes,bottles,bibs,etc

Girl, I really hate to yell at you but you need to wake up and smell the coffee. You haven't a clue what you are doing.

1) At 13 your body may not be developed enough to give birth. This means there could be serious complications in delivering this child for both you and the child. You could die giving birth. It is a very real risk

2) Depending on where you live your doctor may be required to inform your parents of your pregnancy. While you control what you do with the child, your parents are financially responsible for you.

3) It is estimated that it costs about $15,000 for the first year of a baby's life and over $250,000 until they reach 18. That $15,000 figure does not include the costs of giving birth, which can be up to $10,000. So your $600 with be gone in the first month or two on formula and diapers! And even if you have crib and some clothes and equipment, they may be too old for current standards. And you will need so much more.

4) Of course your cousin doesn't want you to tell anyone. He is afraid of going to jail. He RAPED you. It doesn't matter whether you consented or not, you are under legal age so its RAPE!

Bottom line is you need to tell your parents NOW! You need to get examined by a doctor NOW! If you are pregnant, you need to do it NOW for the sake of the baby's health. Please pay attention to the advice we are giving, we care about you and more, we care about this baby you are trying to bring into the world. GET HELP NOW!

[Wondergirl]

Where are you storing all this baby stuff so your parents don't see it?

[ScottGem]

Where are you storing all this baby stuff so your parents don't see it?

I suspect its her baby stuff from when she was a baby or maybe a younger sibling. If its hers, much of it will be out of date and unusable.

[Homegirl 50]

I think it is stored in her mind, or this adult (who she claims is a friend of the family and will help her until she is ready to tell fer family) has things.
I wonder if the adult who is helping her knows the father is her 17 year old cousin.

[C0bra_M3nace]

Oh my god, this kid is in for the rudest awakening anyone could ever have. Her father will find out who the father is, because he will DEMAND to know. Once he finds out, your whole family tree is going to be shaking so hard the leaves of the one beside it are going to fall off, and whether you like it or not, your cousin will be going to jail.

A 13 year old saying she can raise a child? Give me a break. ScottGem, your wrote the words right out of my mouth, excellent post I wish I could thumb that one up about 20 times, but of course...

Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to ScottGem again.


All I have to say, is good luck young one, and for your sake I hope you're not pregnant and you learn a valuable lesson from this. I also hope that 17 year old goes to jail, so he can learn a valuable lesson as well.

[Tallyman29]

Baby Cost Calculator | Tools | BabyCenter

Here's a good way to see how far that 600 will get you.

[ScottGem]

Her father will find out who the father is, because he will DEMAND to know.

I disagree with this. The father can't compel her to tell. But the law may, especially if she wants to keep the child. The courts will say, if she doesn't tell who the father is, they will take the child away. Or they will order DNA testing for every male she has been in contact with around the possible time of conception if she doesn't tell. If she thinks she can keep this a secret, she is fooling herself. But then that seems to be par for the course.

[ScottGem]

Baby Cost Calculator | Tools | BabyCenter

Here's a good way to see how far that 600 will get you.

Good link, I went through that and lowballed everything and still came up with over $5000. And that still doesn't take into account the cost of delivery, Doctors visits, etc.

[Homegirl 50]

This girl is living in la la land.

[C0bra_M3nace]

I disagree with this. The father can't compel her to tell. But the law may, especially if she wants to keep the child. The courts will say, if she doesn't tell who the father is, they will take the child away. Or they will order DNA testing for every male she has been in contact with around the possible time of conception if she doesn't tell. If she thinks she can keep this a secret, she is fooling herself. But then that seems to be par for the course.

He will demand, and I doubt a little 13 year old has the will power to deny it more than a few times. Just my view on it, I don't know her, maybe she does.

[deadchild]

Im not living in lala land I know what to do how to do it and my dad is dead so he won't demand anything... im really going through a lot right now and I asked for help not for perfect strangers to yell at me for something that I did and regret... I won't have a whole lot to lose and my friends and family will help me a lot so I would basically just need to love the kid that's good enough for me

[Wondergirl]

my dad is dead so he wont demand anything

Your father was still alive at 10:52 this morning, according to my computer's time stamp on your post.

[Homegirl 50]

He already told me that if i get pregnant then only the kid can know he is the dad and im okay with noone knowin because in my family's eyes its wrong he is my cousin

You have said in your family's eyes this will be wrong, so what family are going to get support from, or are you going to lie to them about who the father is. What young man are you going to blame this on?
You are not thinking this through. You are perpetrating a lie and this will not have a good outcome. Is this cousin of yours just going to stand around and watch others support this child and just move on? Or maybe since he has gotten away with this once, why not do it again.
You need to tell your parents about this so that you can get the proper help you are surely going to need, and this boy needs to be held accountable for what he has done.

[C0bra_M3nace]

I am ready to have a child and no my parents dont know.....and i did want to

Nice try kiddo.

I'm done answering, this little brat has gotten more than enough helpful advice and doesn't even seem to be getting any of it. Now she's trying to guilt trip me. I wish you the best sweetheart, I really do.

[deadchild]

I have a stepdad dumb*** my real dad is dead he.died when I was 5

[C0bra_M3nace]

I have a stepdad dumb*** my real dad is dead he.died wen i was 5

I still don't see why that comment was even necessary. Either way, I'm out.

PS: In 9 months, come on back and tell us how well everything is going, and all the love and support your "friends" and "family" are giving you. I'm quite curious.

[Homegirl 50]

I have a step dad dumb*** my real dad is dead he.died wen i was 5

That was unnecessary. In your original post you said parents, you did not say mom and step dad. When he mentioned your dad he was assuming your dad as in "my parents" dad.
No need to be rude just because you don't like the advice.