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Jun 21, 2012, 08:01 AM
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How to stop regretting after having sex for the first time
Im 13 and lost my virginity to a very close friend and ever since then I have regretted it... he didn't pressure me but I was really nervous
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Jun 21, 2012, 08:31 AM
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You made a choice, and you now have to live with that choice. Seems to me like you didn't want to in the first place, actions speak louder than words sweetheart and regretting it says you really didn't want to.
What the heck are you doing having sex anyway? Are you ready to have a child? Do you parents know that you're having sex? Are they okay with it? You need to sit down with your parents and explain to them what's going on. What happens if you go and do it again and get pregnant, what will you do then? Your parents deserve to know.
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Jun 21, 2012, 08:52 AM
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I am ready to have a child and no my parents don't know... and I did want to
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Jun 21, 2012, 08:55 AM
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What do you mean you are ready to have a child. You're 13. How would you support a child? How old was the boy?
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Jun 21, 2012, 09:17 AM
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Older than me and I just know that I'm ready to take care of a child
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Jun 21, 2012, 09:31 AM
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What do I do if I'm pregnant
I had sex and I think I'm pregnant,my stomach hurts I'm emotional I'm tender in my upper woman area... I haven't got my period this month... I am afraid to buy a pregnancy test because the people here know my family and might tell if I go buy.one plus I think I'm too young to buy them... btw I'm 13
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Jun 21, 2012, 09:34 AM
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And what do you plan to do during the next eight months while your baby grows inside you, if you are indeed pregnant? It won't go away, you know. It's time to sit down and have a talk with your parents.
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Jun 21, 2012, 09:49 AM
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How much older than you? Old enough that he can go to jail?
Does he have a full time job, because he will need one to support a family. You are obviously still in middle school or just starting high school so I know you don't have a job.
The fact that you think you are ready to have a child at 13 is proof that you're not. You don't have a clue. You are still a child yourself.
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Dating & Teen Expert
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Jun 21, 2012, 09:57 AM
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I have merged these two threads.
How long ago did you have sex?
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Jun 21, 2012, 10:08 AM
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He already told me that if I get pregnant then only the kid can know he is the dad and I'm okay with no one knowing because in my familys eyes its wrong he is my cousin
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Jun 21, 2012, 10:17 AM
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 Originally Posted by deadchild
He already told me that if i get pregnant then only the kid can know he is the dad and im okay with noone knowin because in my familys eyes its wrong he is my cousin
It doesn't work this way. An adult (or two or three) will have to know what is going on. You will have to take special vitamins and have regular doctor visits. A lot can go wrong during the pregnancy and birth, so the father's medical history has to be known. Legally and morally, you have to tell who the father is.
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Dating & Teen Expert
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Jun 21, 2012, 10:20 AM
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How old is he? You don't think with the child calling him dad, no one else is going to figure that out? Girl you are way too young and immature for the mess you have gotten yourself into. I hope you are not pregnant.
What are you going to tell your parents? I guess they will be responsible for supporting this baby you say you are ready to have.
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Jun 21, 2012, 10:26 AM
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My kid won't call him dad and I already know his medical history he has diabetes and I have an adult that I can twll and she will help me till I am ready to.tell my mom cause her 16 15
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Jun 21, 2012, 10:28 AM
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My kid won't call him dad and I already know his medical history he has diabetes and I have an adult that I can tell and she will help me till I am ready to.tell my mom cause her 16 and 15 yr old girls are pregnant and he is 17
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Jun 21, 2012, 10:28 AM
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So who are you going to say is the father when your parents ask?
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Jun 21, 2012, 10:33 AM
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How old is this boy, and who is this adult who will be helping you keep this information from your parents?
Who is going to support this baby, if in fact you are pregnant? When are you going to go to the doctor?
You have no clue what you and this boy have gotten yourselves into.
When did you have sex and when was your last period?
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Dating & Teen Expert
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Jun 21, 2012, 10:38 AM
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This boy can go to jail for having sex with you. Do you realize that?
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Jun 21, 2012, 10:38 AM
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My last period was I think in April and I had sex in like the first of may and haven't had my period since and I'm not going to tell them anything about the dad... and the one that will help me is a really close family friend that won't tell and she can take me to the doctor and I can support it I have a bunch of baby stuff and a lot of money saved
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Jun 21, 2012, 10:41 AM
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Do you have health insurance to pay all the doctor visits and hospital bills? Do you have at least $10,000 saved for the first year, to pay for baby furniture, baby clothes, well-baby doctor visits, etc.
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Dating & Teen Expert
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Jun 21, 2012, 10:43 AM
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How much money do you think is a lot? Who is going to pay the doctor fees and hospital bill?
So this 17 year old boy does not need to contribute at all to the care of this child?
If this woman is a close friend of the family, I don't see how in good conscience she can keep this from your parents. Are you going to live with her?
What this boy did to you is considered statutory rape and he can go to jail.
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