[ScottGem]

I can't disagree enough with the portion I have highlighted in red. Making the bio father out to be the bad guy could in fact be considered parental alienation. As it is according to the OP their relationship with the bio father isnt on good grounds. As we know the courts may not allow children so young to testify or be involved in the process. Lets try to keep in mind these are preteen children that are involved and their scope of understanding is very limited and easily swayed.

I considered that but this is simply telling the truth. Now if she said that he was blocking it to be mean, that would be wrong. And based on what else the OP has said, I didn't think she would do that. But a simple statement of fact should not be considered alienation. Also, again based on what the OP has said, the father has done much more to alienate his children.

But your point should be taken into consideration. The OP knows her children and the situation better than we do. So she should take into consideration how a court might look at what I suggested. That's why I recommend FIRST going to an attorney and discussing strategy.

[Tay15]

I considered that but this is simply telling the truth. Now if she said that he was blocking it to be mean, that would be wrong. And based on what else the OP has said, I didn't think she would do that. But a simple statement of fact should not be considered alienation. Also, again based on what the OP has said, the father has done much more to alienate his children.

But your point should be taken into consideration. The OP knows her children and the situation better than we do. So she should take into consideration how a court might look at what I suggested. That's why I recommend FIRST going to an attorney and discussing strategy.

As I have said, I have never nor will I ever put any ideas or feeling into my children's heads, they are young yes.. but they also know what they feel, and they have their own opinions and thoughts trust me they are very strong minded. Iagain I have never and won't allow others to speak poorly of their bio father, I have never alinated them from him, he has done this himself.. but now I feel he would just further damage them emotionaly if he were to try and come back, I know this sounds mean, but I have lived this with them, I have felt every pain, all the hurt, and cried all the tears with thm and for them, their pain is my pain. . I can understand why as a father some may see me as the spiteful and vengfull ex wife, but that is far from the truth, I have tried and tried, to make him want them, but his life has always been to busy for them, they never fit into his routine.. And how is it fair if he decieds he want to pop back in he should be allowed to just upturn their peaceful and happy lives, to me its just selfishness.. we all make mistake, I have, but we all must stand accountable for the choices we make..