[talaniman]

Your guilt takes away your manhood. Disappear for a week and have no contact with her.

[ashoaib]

I can't do it
I try to feel her I am always there for her no matter what
Day night when she sms me I replied when she call me I pick up my phone how much I am bzi but I never neglect her

[talaniman]

But how can she miss you, and want to come back?

[JudyKayTee]

I don't think there is any answer which you are going to "like." You are going to have a reason why nothing works for you.

So - continue behaving the way you are and live with the results.

[Cat1864]

Giving her space and time to think without pressure from you (even if you aren't meaning to put pressure on her) is not neglect.

Explain to her that you are backing off and giving her time to heal and make decisions for herself. Let her know you love her and are waiting for her to to be open to rebuilding the marriage. However, she has to decide she wants to work with you. Rebuilding the trust and marriage is not something you can do on your own.

Both of you need to stop allowing the anger, hurt, guilt, and every other negative emotion rising from this mistake to control your lives. You are both still reacting instead of being proactive and setting boundaries for the future and working together to strengthen your relationship.

Look into marriage counseling services in your area. Even if she isn't willing to attend with you, try a session or two on your own. It may help you learn better ways of communicating with your wife and how to work through your own emotions to heal yourself.

[ashoaib]

I am trying every thing but when I tried she stop me she try to feel me I am nothing
I am just neglected in her eyes and that's thing really hurt

[JudyKayTee]

You do realize that YOU caused this problem, right? Forgiving or not forgiving - that's her option.

She's chosen (apparently) not to forgive you. Maybe she's based her attitude on something else. I don't know.

I know you should leave her alone.