[naturalsprings]

C123/123, I totally agree on your response, but we had another fall out last night and neither one of us got any sleep. I was recently in a car accident fender bender, I'm fine but the doctor had give me some pain relievers. These pain relievers makes me sleepy. We were fine he came home cooked dinner and we the family watch a movie. Once the movie was over it was about 9pm so I decided it was bedtime I had been up earlier that morning and so was he but I took a pain relieve to help the pain in my back and drink a cup of tea at this time it's a little past 9:45-10pm. He goes to hop in the shower and by the time he came out I was asleep. He laid besided me we cuddled for a mintue or two when the little one began to cry I'm use to the whining should I say. Our oldest child stated mom she's fine stay in the bed. The little one continued and at this point he hops up with an attitude because I did not get up to see about her. Again the little one does the routine every night because she hates to go to bed. Furthermore, he ends up pulling a blank out of the lining closet and a pillow off the bed he goes into the lvrm and turns on the TV. As always when he pulls one of his temper tantrums I have to go and address it by say something like " why are you in here, or what wrong now" he says nothing. I proceed back to bed just to give him his space and I dose back off while I wait. About 20min- an hr or so I awake to him snatching the comforter off me throws it to the grown and goes into the closet to grab a pair of shoes and the draw to grab socks. Me knowing this routine is not planning on going anywhere. Its his way of showing me he's mad about something, I sit up and again ask what his problem was. He yells that he's sick and tire of me falling asleep on him. You never came into the lrvm to check on me. Then he states I texted you and you didn't even response ( my cell phone was off charging by the way) instead of him just coming into the room to talk about this problem he was having he tends to take the more angry/mad man approach. This is not a one time thing. Anyway this went on for about 2-3 more hours I ask that he come back to the bedrm and so he did, we lay back down and he began to talk about how I've been eatting too much and I never like to do the things he want to do. Note: I have no friends, I work, come home, do homework (currently pursusing Business Degree), cook, clean, and sit with him for the reminder and or through this daily routine. He feels my prorities are not straight and I need to get it together. This is an issue that has been going on for over a year now. I don't know what to do. I want out but I know he's going to start throwing stuff and become in raged. How can I tell him that I think we need to take a break? He's very controlling and demanding. Now he does take care of home and he is a good father but the kids heard this madness last night/this morning. My teenaged child told me mom I wouldn't be mad at you if you wanted to separate from dad, as long as I can stay with you, he needs to go to anger management. That's pretty bad when a teenager both my teenage children tell me that withina 24 hour period. I don't know what to do any advice. My current thought is to write him a letter and inform he of me wanting to separate for a little while but I have no money and no where to go I have no family here and just at wits end. I've stressing from this relationship LOVE is just not enough at this point. Thanks In Advance NS

[I wish]

Any chance you can take a vacation together? Sometimes, instead of trying to deal with problems, it's nice to try to re-spark the relationship by having a romantic get-away.

[naturalsprings]

I wish, we do plan on taking a family trip in June and us a couple trip in March 2012. Some of the problem is we were suppose to go to a clothes option resort in Cancun but unforeseen financial issues came about 30 to 45 days before we were to go. This would have been something new, different and exciting for the both of us. It was something we would not have done 5 years ago. Would figured this would put some spark in our relationship and be free doing it. I still want to go and I do plan on going in March but I'm sure with family stuff constantly coming up he wonders if we're ever going to go. I think this will help a WHOLE lot. I'm open to donations to save a marriage LOL, JK no but really LOL :-)

[I wish]

Do your best to go on a trip. But if it's too expensive, maybe you can go on a scaled down version of a trip?

Otherwise, when it comes to closer to home, try to set aside some alone time for each other at least once a week where you can be alone to build your marriage.

[naturalsprings]

My spouse and I had another spat a little over a week ago. I told him that I just don't think I can take anymore of his attitude. I told him that he will need to go see someone about his anger problem or I think we should spend some time apart was that the right thing to do?

[talaniman]

Since its already done, see what happens next. Don't be impatient, or make impulsive decisions from frustration, anger, or desperation.

When the emotional dust has settled, TALK!!