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Alty · Aug 29, 2011, 01:24 PM

Originally Posted by iminagony1978

i will do my best tomorrow to keep my distance, but what do i say when he comes over and talks to me. I dont want to be rude and blank him

Tell him the truth. Let him know that you're done. You see him making excuses, and you're tired of it. He's a cheater and you know that he won't change, and you deserve better. Tell him that since you know he can't leave the job, and you can't, that you'll have to work together, but that's all.

Make it very clear that the relationship is over, that you need to move on, and that if he really ever cared for you, he'd let you go and not make this difficult for you.

Then stick to your guns. Go NC as much as you possibly can considering that you have to work together, and allow yourself to get over him. Whenever you start thinking this can work, remember my SIL. She's miserable, and she wasted her whole life, and continues to waste it, on a man just like yours.

mmresd · Aug 29, 2011, 01:42 PM

HARSHNESS ALERT
You need to back off and let him sort out his problems without giving your input in anything. As far as everything goes, he is still married and you need to respect that, if not then you are just home wrecking a family. The reason why he is treating you this way, is because subconciously you have treated his family the same way, without respect or any type of consideration. You have him two months to sort out his problems? Hell no, why would he be on YOUR timer? You are no one to him, except the booty call who has fallen in love for him. So therefore, gain some self respect and tell this loser to back off, and you move on with the a person that actually has the ability to be with you.

Good Luck,
Javi

Cat1864 · Aug 29, 2011, 02:01 PM

Explain to him that you have realized that you both need time to get your lives in order. You both do not need more complications in your respective divorces or lives. You both need to take time to let the past go before you can work on the present or the future.

Be firm. Be polite.

At work, treat him like everyone else. If he does react negatively, then you have even more evidence that you should not be involved with him.

Take care of yourself.