[talaniman]

no one answered my question though... ever heard of a dad stepping in to do his daughters/sons fighting for them when the going got semi-tough??

In cases of abuse or mistreatment yes us fathers will not only intervene but reek holy havoc if need be. Obviously you have no children, so take my word for it and don't cross parents protecting their kids.

[veryconfuzzed]

Well I gues I've certainly earned your disgust as well as his! Wish you guys could get to know me because I'm really not so evil as I guess I sound

His tone in the email was very cold I didn't sense any anger more like disgust than anything like I said though he did say don't get yourself in trouble which is pretty hard not to take as a threat

I just don't understand why he felt the need to protect her I mean for goodness sake 1 what could I possible do and 2 I never threatened her or sent insults or anything like that all I ever did was ask to be friends but apparently that's worthy of disgust and hatred??

Ill try to hang around and see if I can't look a little less evil for you there tal but damn itd be nice if I got a chance in this world I don't think I've ever hurt a fly certainly don't lie cheat or steal and yet here I am being treated like a damn criminal not just from you but from people who you would think knew me better...

Maybe getting involed with people just isn't worth it stay friends only and take what you can get damn emotions turn people in psychos

[s_cianci]

I really don't think you're ever going to know the answers to your questions ; why didn't she want to be friends, why did she have to sic her dad on me, etc. Sometimes we don't get the closure we'd like in a situation like this. It's best to just accept that it won't happen, forget about it and move on, knowing it'll be one of those great, unsolved mysteries (kind of like Jimmy Hoffa!)

[talaniman]

Veryconfuzzed, Just trying to illustrate the feelings some can have and it doesn't have anything to do with you, its about her and her own insecurities and fears. Don't take it personally, but be aware enough to know you probably dodged a bullet as this female may have made a lot of problems for you. Chalk it up to a learning experience and be more cautious with your relationships in the future. I doubt if you'll be the last guy to have to meet Dad under those circumstances.

[momincali]

veryconfuzzed, I think you need to just open your mind a little to the notion that any father worth his salt is going to step in if they even have the slightest inclination that their little girl is hurting, was hurt or can be hurt (not necessarily just physically) and may have even been prompted by her. Who knows, she may have made things sound worse than they really were. Maybe she's just overwhelmed with life in general and makes everything sound unbearable. Her dad will obviously believe his daughter over a guy he doesn't know any day of the week and so will you when you're a dad. I'm sure you know you don't have to be geographically near a person to harass, threaten or manipulate someone, especially if the person is weak. Now a days, nothing is impossible, and it's a pretty scary world. AGAIN, I'm not saying you did these things, ever, to her or anyone else, just saying that these things are possible and you can't be too cautious.

No one here is treating you like a criminal or an evil person so stop taking things we say so personally, we're explaining why he may have acted that way with you, not that he was right in doing so. And for the record, dad's aren't the only ones you need to be cautious with, I drive a pretty mean Suburban that can knock someone into next week if they messed with my kid!