[talaniman]

Nothing has changed my mind and she is being very cautious about you at this time. She is going very slow right now and rightfully so to make sure your right for her and not just BS'ing her for your own purpose. This is a great oppurtunity to get your act together and see what kind of person you will be in the long run. If you show any signs of being the selfish idiot you were before she is out of there so fast your head will spin, so be smart and mature and tell her to have a great time at her cabin. That's your next task is to show love and trust and not kick and whine. It's a test you had better pass.

[Interesting]

Thought I would give everyone an update and see if anyone had any other advice.

Things are slowly getting better and she is being much more receptive to me across the board. I have been available to her but have not pushed myself on her, wanted to show her that I am willing to make her a priority which she is appreciating.

She claims that the change has been great to date but that it has only really been a month and half of which she was gone for a week and half of on business. She also claims that she still needs some time to be sure that my changes are for real and not just to get her back.

I have spoken with her friends who all seem to like me since they contacted me because they thought something was up, I guess she did not really tell them her plan. She told them only that she could not continue if I did not change my ways. They all want things to work and think that they can as long as I keep it up.

The one thing that is driving me crazy is the lack of sex since all of this went down. We have slept together 3 times since all of this occurred. We see each other often and she wants me to stay over and then just cuddles and kisses and says that sex will come again in time. Before all of this she always wanted to have sex but says that she does not want our relationship to rely on it.

This past weekend we had a great time and actually started to discuss the next steps (marriage) assuming everything continues as it has been.

The only thing that is tough for me is that I realize how I was, I continue to show her that I have changed but she is still a bit apprehensive??

The one thing that is strange is that she has this ski house up north and she always wanted me to go up there. Since all of this happened she has not asked me if I wanted to go? She is going next weekend and I said I would love to go and she said she thought she was going to go on her own. I asked her why she used to ask me all the time and she said it was just so she could spend time with me, and if I want to go skiing we could go to a different mountain for the weekend? This is a little odd to me?

Thoughts on everything anyone??