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tisiladym2 · Mar 22, 2011, 05:02 PM

Thank you for the talk Smooth. Believe it or not, this actually did help! Thank u.

ScottGem · Mar 22, 2011, 05:07 PM

I'm going to jump in here. First I think you are off base to think your ex had to keep you informed about his personal life. You split, you both moved on. It wasn't up to you to tell your son about his father's new life, it was up to his dad to do so. You son isn't living a double life, but he is part of two families, that's not the same.

Your ex should be civil to you but you should be happy with that, it's rare to get that much.

As for moving, this is going to be an iffy thing. Since it would appear that the visitation is by mutual agreement and not court order, you probably are free to move. But it's also possible he will fight it. And you could be forced to return or worse, give up primary custody.

tisiladym2 · Mar 22, 2011, 05:13 PM

Geez. I have an appt set first week of April with a lawyer, for the consultation. I'm also going to set a motion at the Family Court House tomorrow. I think these are my by far best choices, correct? I mean what more can I do? I wish to play fair really. And the thing about him getting married, like I said more power to him, but you know, my son is calling a woman MAMA and I don't know who she is, as a mother, it doesn't feel right. I feel like somebody out there is stepping on my toes. I had a discussion with my son, as well as this step mom via Facebook to please not call her that. Wouldn't you feel off if you were in my shoes?

ScottGem · Mar 22, 2011, 05:39 PM

Originally Posted by tisiladym

but you know, my son is calling a woman MAMA and I dont know who she is, as a mother, it doesnt feel right. I feel like somebody out there is stepping on my toes. I had a discussion with my son, as well as this step mom via facebook to please not call her that. Wouldnt you feel off if you were in my shoes?

No I wouldn't. As long as your son understand you are his mother, why can't he have a relationship with his step mom? It seems to me that you have the problem and you are imposing that problem on your ex and your son.

tisiladym2 · Mar 22, 2011, 05:50 PM

For some reason, many others agree with me... and I don't know who you are so screw it, lol I respect your opinion, but you really aren't on my level. I have no problem with him having a relationship with his step mom, I hear she's all right, but it's just weird as being the MOTHER that there's another woman out there playing the role, and I have no idea who she is. My grandmother name was MAMA, and my mother is called MAMA, so to hear him calling another person MAMA, lol I don't think you understand me, but thanks for trying to reason with me. I respect it.

ScottGem · Mar 22, 2011, 06:20 PM

I do understand how this can feel weird FOR YOU and uncomfortable FOR YOU. But that's the point its YOUR problem not anyone else's and you need to understand that.

And of those "many others" who agree with you are they your Facebook circle? Aren't these people who know you and will side with you? We don't know you and that's our advantage. We give advice based on the facts and not our personal relationship with you.

So out advice to you is what you seem to have taken away here. Get a lawyer, and go to court to affirm your ability to move.

cdad · Mar 22, 2011, 06:49 PM

Im going to say this plain and simple. If you take this attitude into a courtroom or clinical setting about not allowing your son to address the other person as mom then your going to start fighting a losing battle. You need to learn to let go. And you might want to take parenting classes even before a court orders it.

GV70 · Mar 22, 2011, 07:22 PM

Originally Posted by tisiladym

. His father got married behind my back and gave my son a step mom and two step sons I understand by law I am able to move 100miles away frm where the father lives.

Originally Posted by tisiladym

Anyways I just spoke to the state attorney office about moving, and they said as long as I give them the updated address.Also, i contacted a lawyer, and numerous told me I can move 100 miles away frm the fathers home.

It makes me laugh! I bet you have never talked to the SA or a lawyer but you only want to punish your ex because he does not want to inform you for his personal life.

Originally Posted by ScottGem

It seems to me that you have the problem and you are imposing that problem on your ex and your son.

Out of greenies but I cannot agree more.

This thread has to be closed.

ScottGem · Mar 23, 2011, 03:43 AM

I just noticed this:

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tisiladym2 does not find this helpful : Scott sucks

Your lucky I didn't notice it before or I might not have been as polite in my answers. First, may I call your attention to the guidelines for using the comments feature found here:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/feedba...ure-24951.html

Second, this is real mature and more than anything else you have said points out how much this your problem. You have a bee in your bonnet and you won't let go. That is probably doing more psychological damage to your son then his having to deal with a second family.

One last point, you complained about the father going behind your back and getting married. While it would have been nice to inform you, it wasn't required and given the attitude you have displayed here, I can understand why he didn't want to get into this with you. But now you want to go behind his back and move his son away from him making it harder for him to be a father. While I can understand and appreciate the reasons for the move, if you do it without informing him of your intentions then you will be doing worse than what you complain that he has done.

JudyKayTee · Mar 23, 2011, 07:03 AM

I find it fascinating that the Florida Attorney General's Office (which handles only criminal matters) gave this person legal advice.

Wonder how much else of this thread is shy of the truth?