[smoothy]

YOu think he's going to be your poyfriend in 3 more years... I'm willing to put down a bet that he won't be. And if you get knoocked up... I will guarantee you he won't be.

You want to talk about going mental... try not getting any sleep for the mext 9+ months when you have to wake up to feed the kid you think can't ever happen every 2 or 3 hours.

At 16 you think things happen for a reason... hmmm they do, and it usually because of a stupid choice you make and not some devine intervention or fate that's at fault.

You are 16... you haven't dealt with anything yet. Your parents worry about all the important and hard stuff... you haven't even been exposed to hard decisions yet.

Wait until you are a single mom... with a baby to raise... the boyfriend abandoned you, pays nothing and you are at the end of the month... rent and utilities are due... you have no money and you won't have enough money in your next check as a waitress won't be enough to cover the bills AND for you to buy food...

And any choice you make will have dire consequences.


Try dealing with that real situation. There are thousands of single moms dealing with that all the time.

And none expected to get pregnant... and all of them thought they guy that took off really cared about them.

That's a reality check... while you are still living at home with mom and dad taking care of everything your life is purely a fantasy. Once you become part of the real world... if you need something you earn it or do without. And sometimes that might mean going without food.


I know you already have it all figured out (and everyone else is wrong)... but in a few years you are going to find out nothing is how you expected it to be. You aren't the first... and you won't be the last.

The problem with reality... is the more unrealistic your expectations were... the harder its going to hit you.

And if you think I couldn't possibly know anyone in your specific situation... you would be wrong. I've known more than a few.

And contrary to what you think... we are trying to help you here. If you are looking to find someone that will ignore reality and what might happen just to agree with you. You looked in the wrong place. Nobody here wants to see you end up a high school dropout, single mom. And most girls that get pregnant at your age end up as one.

[southamerica]

We've already said what is thought to be the "most" safe way to have protected sex, so since that's what you're asking about-there you have it.

I think we've pretty much gotten blue in the face trying to plead with you to wait. There are many reasons, pregnancy, stds, and emotions are on the top of the list. You're asking what type of contraception is the best-well none of them are going to magically keep you from getting pregnant, the only way to achieve that is to not have sex.
And like was said, fate and divine intervention don't play in teen pregnancies... sex is THE cause for teen and adult pregnancies.

At the end of the day, you will make your own decisions.

[Apple11]

Thanks for the advice I do respect all everyone has to said maybe I should just wait

[smoothy]

And a point nobody has made... there are right ways and wrong ways to use condoms... and its not as simple as it might seem at face value. Like what you touched before putting them on and transferred to the outside. If you ever got ink or paint on your fingers anddidn't realise you did you remember the fingerprints everyplace? Well that could be other things just as easy.

Also there are a number of things that can render birth control pills ineffective. Like certain common antibiotics as only one example.

And its not always clear what will or when without speaking to a pharmacist.

[J_9]

thanks for the advice i do respect all everyone has to said maybe i should just wait

That's a good idea. You don't have a clue how many babies I have delivered to young teens who got pregnant their first time. You don't know how many young teens have to have a cesarean section because they contracted an STD from their "boyfriend" after he told the girl he was a virgin. It's astounding how many babies I have delivered to girls/women who used multiple forms of birth control.

In the end, if you are not physically, emotionally, and financially ready to be a mother, don't have sex.