Ive been with my boyfriend for a while now and he wants to have sex I can't talk to my mum about it I'm scared she will get mad but I want to know what's the best kind of contraception?

Abstinance is the only 100% effective form of birth control.

Until you are old enough and able to support yourself... then you shouldn't be having sex. Because NO form of birth contriol is 100% effective. And even if you use several, at once... and do it correctly. You can still get pregnant. We have several prominent members here that had kids despite using three different forms of birth control as proof of that.

And at your age... the odds are the guy isn't going ro do his part or even be around. That's reality... not fantasy.

No form of birth control is 100 percent, being on something like a oral birth control and using condoms ( doing both) is safer but there are people who have babies doing both.

So are you ready to be a mom ? Is he working and ready to support and pay for a child ?

Sex equals children, so till you are ready don't.

Next so he wants to, tell him no,

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Originally Posted by Apple11

Ive been with my boyfriend for a while now and he wants to have sex i can't talk to my mum about it im scared she will get mad but i want to know whats the best kind of contraception?

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Both answers above are very informative and very accurate. I will leave their answers intact. What I picked up on is the word above (in bold)...

Maybe it's a typo of words, maybe not.

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Originally Posted by ITstudent2006

Both answers above are very informative and very accurate. I will leave their answers intact. What I picked up on is the word above (in bold)....

Maybe it's a typo of words, maybe not.

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Nope... seems to me we got another girl that is being pushed into something she clearly isn't ready for or understands the full ramnifications of... by a guy only interested in getting in her pants.

Apple, it is OKAY to tell your boyfriend that you are uncomfortable and not ready to have sex. I sense that you are not only scared to talk to your mother, but you are scared. I may be wrong, but that's what I'm picking up. No form of contraception is 100%, as others have already said, and you need to make sure that you are ready for any possible consequences of sex.

At no age will a good guy (or girl) pressure someone they care about into sex or anything else. I promise you that if you listen to what you want and are honest with him-if he cares about you-he will understand.

I've been going out with him for 2 years now so I think I am ready to. I just want to be resposable about it and use protection I know nothing is 100% safe but its better than nothing, I'm just unsure what is best to use.

Having sex is not something you are reasonable about, and it is not something you make a deal out of.

If you must, you use oral birth control and a condom, make sure you are using the oral control for at least a full month first.

I'm just wondering how you're going to tell your mom you're pregnant (if your birth control fails, which has been known to happen plenty) or that you have an std if you can't even talk to her about birth control?

But chuck is right. Talk to your doctor about starting the pill. Maybe even ask for a diaphragm too. And always, always, always make him wear a condom. If he won't wear one, don't have sex.

Its not that I can't talk to her about birth control its id rather not I really don't want her to over react and give me a lecture or ground me from seeing my boyfriend my parents are very strict. I know you can get pregnant from sex but should I never have sex, until I'm old

How old are you Apple11?

I don't see why it matters how old I am but I'm 16

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Originally Posted by Apple11

Its not that i can't talk to her about birth control its id rather not i really dont want her to over react and give me a lecture or ground me from seeing my boyfriend my parents are very strict. i know u can get pregnant from sex but should i never have sex, until im old

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Actually correct, you should not be having sex till you are old enough to support and raise a child and the boyfriend can support you and the child.

So yes you should wait till you are very old, even 19 or 20

It matters a great deal.

Herpes is forever...

So is AIDS, and there are plenty of kids you age that have both...

HPV is also epidemic and doesn't always have visible symptoms.

THey are all STD's.

Getting pregnant isn't the worst (or the only thing) thing that can happen. There are others, and if your so-called friends actually knew even 10% of what they think they know... they could consider themselves lucky.

And you actually do know someone with HPV... and Herpes... you just don't know which ones.

And condoms and bith control do little if anything to protect you from contracting them.

I know about stds but I don't see that happening seeing as we both have never had sex before

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i know about stds but i dont see that happening seeing as we both have never had sex before

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You've also never been pregnant before, but it does happen. Contraception fails. I was on the pill, used it religiously, also used a condom. Got pregnant not once but twice. Luckily I was married at the time.

I was also rendered sterile by chemotherapy after having cancer. Guess what, yup, I got pregnant a few years later.

If you can't talk to your mother about birth control, how will you talk to her about pregnancy?

Apple: I hope you see why we are advising against this. Just browse around this site and every few minutes we get a post about a teenager becoming pregnant and not knowing what to do, how to handle it, etc...

When it comes down to it, this is a decision you will end up making and we're simply trying to show you what can happen whether you're careful or not. 16 is far too young to get mixed up into anything like that. You have far more important things to worry about and focus on and sex shouldn't be one of them.

I am the youngest person posting on this thread (only 7yrs older than you) and I know how things are now-a-days and I am being sort of a hipacrit (lost my virginity at 17) but coming from someone who has been where you are (recently) I wish I would have waited.

This person you are interested in having sex with is most likely not the one you will be with down the road and then all of this will seem silly. At that point you too would wish you would have waited.

You have the rest of your life to have sex, use this time to focus on the things you only do once. (like High School)

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i know about stds but i dont see that happening seeing as we both have never had sex before

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You really know exactly what he has done or hasn't done exactly how?

WHat he told you? You are aware guys... particularly YOUNG guys lie all the time to get in a girls pants. Do you know how I know that... I was once a young guy. And I know what my friends did... and I know what I did at that age. There is NOTHING they won't say to get a girl to spread her legs... if they really mean it or not.

I don't want to get pregnant but I know heaps of people that have sex and don't get pregnant using protection.I love my boyfriend and I want to do this with him.Like I said before its not that I can't talk to my mother about birth control its just they are pretty strict and I'm scared shell go mental.I think things happen in your life for a reason if I was to get pregnant then I would deal with it just like everything else in my life I've dealt with.Not that I want to and that's why I ask about contrception

And we know heaps of people that have gotten pregnant using protection. It is your choice, but realize that pregnancy and stds are a very real possibility.