[Enigma1999]

I do see your point. And i do have a confession to make, I just didn't want to worry you. I was married for 17 years and the only way i could have sex with my wife was if I thought of her as just a sex object. Once or twice a month was enough for me. i knew all along the reason why the sex was so imperonal. I no longer loved her. I couldn't make love to a woman that I was not in love with. Eventually, I left her for another woman. I have never talked about this before on this site, because it is not something i am proud of. But your story has reawakened the empty years that i spent with a woman I did not love. I may not have literallty watched porn films before sex, but I ran them through my mind just the same. Your issue maybe much more serious then I thought, only because your story has jarred my memory. But it is not too late to fix this. Counseling might be where you two should start.

Thank you for sharing that. Some times reading these posts does open up wounds for some of us, because we can relate to the people who ask us.

Reading yours has made me realize that perhaps there is more to it with OP's wife than we know.

I think that he should talk to her about it. Get to the root of what is going on.