For quit sometime now (5 years+) my wife has to watch porn before we has sex. I have started to get concerned, even feel insecure about us because she won't let me get her in the mood without watching it. I talked to her once and she said that its her way of relaxing and getting in the mood. She won't have sex unless she really wants to and when she does we need to watch for 30 to 60 minutes then she will slowly start touching me. As matter of fact usually if I want to have sex I just turn around and ask her if she wants to watch a movie, if she says yes then I put one in and take it from there, if she says no then no it is. I don't know what to make of this, just feels like she's not into me that way and she uses the movies to get into it then turns to me as a blow up doll. I guess what I want to ask is this normal, am I just over thinking it or being insecure of myself.