[madandconfused]

Instead, I received comments about how I conduct myself...

[madandconfused]

From people who know nothing about my or my background...

[ScottGem]

boy you people are snippy... talk about judging a book by its cover... you all should be ashamed of yourselves for jumping to conclusions about a situation... is this how you advise/ help all people with questions??? Perhaps you all should reread what I poseted again before commenting...

I just reread all the posts in this thread. In my opinion the snippy one is you. You start with a vague question. When asked for more details you gave bare bones details without really explaining what you want. I think YOU need to reread what you posted with a more objective eye and you will see you lead us to the conclusions we were forced to make because of the lack of info provided.

The legal fact here is that when a child is born to a married couple, the husband is almost always considered the legal father. Unless a challenge is mounted to the husband's paternity, he will remain the legal father. Local laws differ as to when such a challenge can be mounted and by whom. So, you ARE the legal father and will remain so until a legal challenge can be made and upheld.

As I read some of your followups, you have no intention of disclaiming your role as this child's father. Therefore, unless the mother or the bio father mounts such a challenge, you will remain the child's father with al the rights and responsibilities of any father.

I hope that answers your question and I hope you have learned how to best use the site for the future.

[madandconfused]

@scottGem... thank you. You did answer my question. However the comment "stop acting like juveniles" and "You accepted it as yours and now you are going to just look at the monetary issues. That stinks" were out of like and wer based on

[madandconfused]

Someone's perception of me personally and not on what I posted...

[madandconfused]

And that is why I took the position that I did. There was no reason for anyone to respond to me that way regardless of how much information I revealed.

[this8384]

Seriously, this is a joke. I've gotten two reddies from this guy for nothing. He wants to know what his legal recourse is; there is none. Now it's turning into an assumption that he doesn't want his child - I never said that, I never implied that - but others are assuming that's what he's asking.

Enough is enough. The question has been answered. Close the thread already.

[JudyKayTee]

[QUOTE=madandconfused : scottgem answered my question... again you are jumping to conclusions. I never said anything about punishing anyone or hurting any child... I didn't.

[Kitkat22]

Confused.. we didn't have a lot to go on. I wish you the best. I'm not a lawyer, not even close, Scott has given you some great
Advice. You are very welcome to come back and talk with people like Scott and those who know the law. I hope you do. Good Luck

[madandconfused]

Scottgem answered my question... again you are jumping to conclusions. I never said anything about punishing anyone or hurting any child... I didn't.

[JudyKayTee]

[QUOTE=JudyKayTee;2528536][QUOTE=madandconfused : scottgem answered my question... again you are jumping to conclusions. i never said anything about punishing anyone or hurting any child... i didnt.[/QUOTE]


Perhaps reading how AMHD works - for example, not using the "comments" feature to respond might work well for you.

At any rate, I didn't jump to any conclusions. I ASKED you for your reasons for asking this question. You won't be the first or the last person to turn his/her back on a child to get back at the mother.

So - what are your reasons for asking the question? You want to know what your rights are. Your rights concerning what?

Before you jump on all of us - we don't have this problem. You do.

[JudyKayTee]

Seriously, this is a joke. I've gotten two reddies from this guy for nothing. He wants to know what his legal recourse is; there is none. Now it's turning into an assumption that he doesn't want his child - I never said that, I never implied that - but others are assuming that's what he's asking.

Enough is enough. The question has been answered. Close the thread already.

I agree - time to close. I also think a warning or two about using the comments feature to respond and the incorrect use of reddies and greenies and a thread should be closed, anyway.

I just had to read someone's mind on the algebra board. I don't feel like reading another mind on the Family Law board.

[madandconfused]

Perhaps you should take it for what it is... just a question. Do you really think that I would be going down this path without legal guidance? I like to explore all options and ask tons of questions when I am faced with an issue or situation, family based or otherwise. It's called good management. I apologize for wanting to be informed about a situation.

As you know, when dealing with a legal issue, you go through an attorney. That person is usually as good as the research that he/ she is able to conduct which depends on their caseload/ paralegals/ and many other variables. However, there is ALWAYS something that is overlooked, no matter how advanced you are. Therefore, I took it upon myself to ask. What I got was a bunch of people's opinions about how I conduct myself or what my hidden agenda is... Unfortunately, there is no hidden agenda, no ulterior motives. There was only a question.

[Kitkat22]

Perhaps you should take it for what it is... just a question. Do you really think that I would be going down this path without legal guidance? I like to explore all options and ask tons of questions when I am faced with an issue or situation, family based or otherwise. It's called good management. I apologize for wanting to be informed about a situation.

As you know, when dealing with a legal issue, you go through an attorney. That person is usually as good as the research that he/ she is able to conduct which depends on their caseload/ paralegals/ and many other variables. However, there is ALWAYS something that is overlooked, no matter how advanced you are. Therefore, I took it upon myself to ask. What I got was a bunch of people's opinions about how I conduct myself or what my hidden agenda is... Unfortunately, there is no hidden agenda, no ulterior motives. There was only a question.

I guess we were wondering about the child. You have raised him or her as your own. Are you going to try and get custody?

[madandconfused]

I do not want to relinquish custody at all.

[JudyKayTee]

Perhaps you should take it for what it is... just a question. Do you really think that I would be going down this path without legal guidance? I like to explore all options and ask tons of questions when I am faced with an issue or situation, family based or otherwise. It's called good management. I apologize for wanting to be informed about a situation.

As you know, when dealing with a legal issue, you go through an attorney. That person is usually as good as the research that he/ she is able to conduct which depends on their caseload/ paralegals/ and many other variables. However, there is ALWAYS something that is overlooked, no matter how advanced you are. Therefore, I took it upon myself to ask. What I got was a bunch of people's opinions about how I conduct myself or what my hidden agenda is... Unfortunately, there is no hidden agenda, no ulterior motives. There was only a question.

You are remarkably passive/aggressive -

Anyway, without knowing what you want to accomplish (thorugh your Attorney) no one here knows how to advise you.

[madandconfused]

I have raised him as my own since day one and I want to continue (as Ive stated before)... but thanks for asking politely.

[JudyKayTee]

So you are asking for custody of the child?

[madandconfused]

@JudyKayTee... you should see me negoitate a contract...

[madandconfused]

Per scottgem and others, I already do unless the ex or the bio-dad pushes the issue...