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Louise_Michelle · Sep 7, 2010, 02:49 PM

Sorry I'm new at this, yea these are just questions that I have had for a while now, just wanted some extra advise on what to do, and what you think, I'm 21 and this is the first guy I have ever had done this, he is 23 and I'm his first girlfriend so I just got the impression he just doesn't know what to do when it comes to girls.

Louise_Michelle · Sep 7, 2010, 02:54 PM

Yes, she didn't take care of her kids at all, she let them do anything and everything that they wanted, that's kind of why I put it aside and just believed him, they were always in my room getting into my stuff, digging in the trash.. nasty!

talaniman · Sep 7, 2010, 02:55 PM

He is also a drunk.

Louise_Michelle · Sep 7, 2010, 02:57 PM

Yea, does that have something to do with it?

Enigma1999 · Sep 7, 2010, 02:58 PM

Originally Posted by Louise_Michelle

Sorry im new at this, yea these are just questions that i have had for a while now, just wanted some extra advise on what to do, and what you think, im 21 and this is the first guy i have ever had done this, he is 23 and im his first girlfriend so i just got the impression he just doesnt know what to do when it comes to girls.

That may be true. He may be completely oblivious to your feelings, which is why you need to sit down and talk to him about it. Telling him YOUR thoughts and your feelings.

From what I have read though in your others posts, it doesn't seem like he cares.

Talk to him. If he is willing to change, then there might be a slight chance he can redeem himself, if not, then you will have your answer.

Trust and communication is the key to a successful relationship. I have said it before in several posts concerning these very same issues.

When two people are in a relationship, you as well as he should be able to express your concerns, your passions, your thoughts, your dreams, your fantasies, so on and so forth, with out feeling pressured or uncomfortable.

Enigma1999 · Sep 7, 2010, 03:00 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

He is also a drunk.

Yes, that is a big concern. His drinking.

I must have missed that one, with all of the threads being merged together. Sorry.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 7, 2010, 04:05 PM

I understand he may be your first boy friend and you may not want to give him up. But there have been problems since he's gotten into your pants.
He treats you like a thing and the only time he deals with you sexually is when you're servicing him or he's drunk.
Get a clue girl. The guy is a bum, and a drunk one.
Move back home or where ever but get away from him.
You are in a lose lose situation.

Louise_Michelle · Sep 7, 2010, 05:49 PM

Im his first girlfriend. I've been with a few other guys mainly long relationships.I was just hoping that it was because he hadn't been with any one else is why he acted the way he does

Homegirl 50 · Sep 7, 2010, 06:24 PM

I think he is a creep and wanted to get in your pants, lose his virginity.
Lose him. He is using you and you're letting him.

Just Dahlia · Sep 7, 2010, 06:41 PM

I agree with everyone here.:)
Please dump him before you get too attached and are unable. He is obviously not good boyfriend material in any way.:rolleyes:

Louise_Michelle · Sep 12, 2010, 04:29 PM

My boyfriend won't have sex with me cause he finishes before I do, what can I do to make myself finish faster, or what do I just do to make him last longer?

Cat1864 · Sep 12, 2010, 04:57 PM

Please keep all issues regarding this male in the same thread.

I moved your post to your existing thread since deals with the same person and the issues you are having with him.

Edit to add: Technically I should have reported your thread and had it deleted because Talaniman alread warned you about new posts.

Any additional post will be deleted and if its about the same drunk who can't keep it up, stay with this thread instead of starting a new one. We are already confused enough

QLP · Sep 12, 2010, 05:01 PM

How about dumping the drunken creep and getting a bloke who can be bothered to put the effort in? Come on girl you keep posting the same question in slightly different guises in the hope that someone can magically give you a different answer. There's nothing any of us can say that will make your bloke behave better. Only he can do that and it doesn't look like he wants to even try.

Cat1864 · Sep 12, 2010, 05:15 PM

This may seem harsh:

I need to know why you are with this person before I answer your last question.

I want you to read your thread from beginning to end. Pay careful attention to what you have written about him.

I need for you to explain to me how it has gone from not having sex for seven months (when he has expected 'favors' without returning them unless he is drunk/drinking) to he won't have sex with you because he 'finishes' faster than you do.

Louise_Michelle · Sep 12, 2010, 05:23 PM

How do you delete your profile from this website?

Cat1864 · Sep 12, 2010, 05:28 PM

Originally Posted by Louise_Michelle

How do you delete your profile from this website?

You can't. You can stop using it, but you can't delete it.

Why do you want to delete your profile?

Louise_Michelle · Sep 12, 2010, 05:31 PM

This is just not what I thought it was! I thought you asked a question and someone answered it.. I just really don't understand how this whole thing works!

Cat1864 · Sep 12, 2010, 05:51 PM

Originally Posted by Louise_Michelle

This is just not what i thought it was! I thought you asked a question and someone answered it..i just really dont understand how this whole thing works!

We do answer questions. However, to give the best answers/advice that we can we ask questions. We don't want to give you advice that will get you into a worse situation than you are already in.

Some questions can't be answered with a yes or no or a 'do this... ' Some answers aren't what the questioner expected or wants to hear.

You have gotten answers. You can't make him do anything he doesn't want to do. You can only change yourself. If you change to suit his needs (what you have said of them here), you are doing yourself a disservice and your self-esteem is going to go even lower than it is.

We want to see you be the person you are supposed to be not what you think will make him happy. I honestly don't think you can. It will be thing after another with you taking the brunt of the blame.

Louise_Michelle · Sep 12, 2010, 06:02 PM

Then ill just break up with him

Cat1864 · Sep 12, 2010, 06:20 PM

Originally Posted by Louise_Michelle

then ill just break up with him

These threads may help you:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...sh-114179.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...nc-425290.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...qs-332732.html

We will give you as much advice as we can no matter what you decide to do. Just keep adding to this thread, okay?

I will admit that if you stay, it will probably be the same advice you have already gotten.

Good luck.