[Wondergirl]

its faster to rite incorrect sentences with inccorrect spelling and punctuation and if it ticks you off then im sorry

Thanks for your apology, but it doesn't tick me off. It simply shows your immaturity, your disregard of rules and the contract that you signed to become a member of this site, and your disrespect of anyone who tried to slog through your horrible spelling and sentence structure.

[Kitkat22]

You are going to get burned, Big Time. How in the world do you think this is going to end?

Do you think he'll wait till you're out of high school and come on a white horse and you all ride off into the sunset? Not going to happen.

[Ladybllossom]

No not at all

[Ladybllossom]

Well I don't really see how that's a sign of immaturity my mom and my perfectionist dad sometimes type like that even when they don't have to and I get it from texting which also isn't immature.I admit I did not read the rules-i used to and they were always about respect others' privacy and don't use any bad language. I stopped reading them all 4 years ago because they ALL said the same thing.I also know that I was rude to you all and I truly am sorry. I have been in a bad mood lately (doesn't it happen to everyone once in a while?) and that makes me rude when I don't mean to be, but remember please, that you decided to help me AND you came back, which you didn't HAVE to do, which also means that it really didn't offend you that much. Again, I really AM sorry and I hope you will keep giving me advice because-as you can see- I really need it.
But what do I get him for a present?! Even if we aren't dating it would be kind of bad for his best girl friend (NOT girlfriend) not to get him a birthday present. I'm just sayin'.

[Wondergirl]

Well I don't really see how that's a sign of immaturity my mom and my perfectionist dad sometimes type like that

Tell them to be sure to let us know they are your parents if they type like that on this site. And you said "sometimes." So far, you are doing it all the time.

I get it from texting which also isn't immature

What's mature about texting?

But what do I get him for a present?!

Make something for him -- homemade chocolate chip cookies with pecans in them or chocolate fudge with walnuts.

[Mojo1348]

You're 13 yrs old. You do not need a 17 yr old male friend or boyfriend. You are asking for trouble on may levels by pursuing this fantasy romance of yours.

In a year this guy will be 18.. while you still remain jail bait for 5 more years. Or lets go with your analogy, (4 yrs plus months) as jail bait. You keep pursuing him & at his age he might take you up on more than you plan to offer him. Then you yell rape & he goes to jail for years. Do you not see what you are doing & setting this guy up for?

Grow up & learn something about life before you decide to play in the adult world that you have no business being in.

What do your parents think of this or do they even know what you've been up to chasing an older guy. I bet they don't know a thing about it. You asked for advice... now you have it. Go cry to Barbie now...

You have the rest of your adult life to pursue men when you are of age. You are walking trouble for any guy 17 & up & you better pray that one of them never takes you seriously. Go get a hobby that won't wreck your life and some young man's life too.

You better study math more too.

[Mojo1348]

Hey Wondergirl... I don't think you advising her to bake homemade cookies for this 17 yr old guy for a birthday gift was that great of an answer. You are just encouraging her to pursue this fantasy with the older guy... which by all rights is one dumb "professional" move.

[ScOrPio_95]

All right guys were not here to judge her. I'm 16 and I was with a 17 yr for 2 1/2 years when I 13,the law states you have to be 14 to consent and then it can't be three years older. So my honest opinion is figure out what he thinks about and take it from there just don't rush things

[Wondergirl]

Hey Wondergirl...I don't think you advising her to bake homemade cookies for this 17 yr old guy for a birthday gift was that great of an answer. You are just encouraging her to pursue this fantasy with the older guy...which by all rights is one dumb "professional" move.

Not at all, Mojo. Had you been a tad more civil and respectful to someone (me) who actually has counseling credentials, I would have given you good and logical reasons for what I said.

[ScottGem]

alright guys were not here to judge her. im 16 and i was with a 17 yr for 2 1/2 years when i 13,the law states you have to be 14 to consent and then it can't be three years older. so my honest opinion is figure out what he thinks about and take it from there just dont rush things

You are wrong on several counts. Wrong #1! We ARE here to judge, that's what comes with the territory. Wrong #2. The OP is in VA the age of consent in VA is 18.

The main problem here is that the OP is hiding this from her parents. And that's what raises a lot of red flags.

[ScOrPio_95]

You guys just need to lay off her 1 was 13 with a 17 yr old for 2 1/2 years girls these days mature a lot faster the only way he can get in trouble is if they do anything and if they get reported aslong as there both happy it shouldn't matter about age I'm sure one if not all of you have been with someone older

[tickle]

so my honest opinion is figure out what he thinks about and take it from there just dont rush things

You have to be kidding. I don't even think a l3 year old has any business even considering dating a l7 year old. What he 'thinks about' at l7 is certainly not even suitable for a l3 year old.

Tick

[Kitkat22]

you guys just need to lay off her 1 was 13 with a 17 yr old for 2 1/2 years girls these days mature alot faster the only way he can get in trouble is if they do anything and if they get reported aslong as there both happy it shouldnt matter about age im sure one if not all of you have been with someone older

Tell that to a sixteen year old who is pregnant or has an std. Your advice is not only wrong it's dangerous and it sends the wrong message.

[tickle]

Make something for him -- homemade chocolate chip cookies with pecans in them or chocolate fudge with walnuts.

I really don't get the cookie idea, W. Were you being facetious? I don't think a l3 year old should be getting ANYTHING as a gift for l7 year old boy. And if she gave him cookies, she would be laughed under the table.

I don't know how this thread has lasted so long, to be quite honest. This young girl just doesn't get it, and she is hiding this from her parents. Not a good thing to do and doesn't bode well for anything she might do the future with her dating techniques. I would have to ask where her mother is, and what kind of relationship she has with her parents. It is not a good start to teen years which should be getting a good start on relationships and maturity levels.

Tick

[ScottGem]

I'm on a fence here. I'm not sure any gift is appropriate as it may give the 17 yr old ideas he shouldn't have. I would not recommend anything more than a nice card.

[cdad]

alright guys were not here to judge her. im 16 and i was with a 17 yr for 2 1/2 years when i 13,the law states you have to be 14 to consent and then it can't be three years older. so my honest opinion is figure out what he thinks about and take it from there just dont rush things

I guess you think we are being melodramatic here but we are not. And there are planty of reasons. Here is just one example.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family...if-504998.html

Also if you think its not against the law then can you quote it for us? Sure there may be the 3 year rule in some areas but it doesn't change things it just lessons the charges from felony to misdemeanor. It doesn't change the basics of the situation. And at this point consent can't be given by one of the parties period!!

[JudyKayTee]

you guys just need to lay off her 1 was 13 with a 17 yr old for 2 1/2 years girls these days mature alot faster the only way he can get in trouble is if they do anything and if they get reported aslong as there both happy it shouldnt matter about age im sure one if not all of you have been with someone older

Okay, let's all of the adults on the site who were 13, dating a 17 year old WITH parental consent raise our hands!

- Okay, I'm still waiting.

I give a lot of info on the Family Court and Criminal boards, yet I've never been arrested OR in Family Court. Having been there is not necessary in order to give advice or have an opinion.

[Ladybllossom]

For what?!

[Ladybllossom]

Okay thanks.

[Ladybllossom]

Well thank you, That is the first person with a good point that is for us dating.