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    Sep 7, 2010, 06:07 AM

    Have a great trip!
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    Sep 7, 2010, 06:07 AM

    She is comfortable saying it. I just feel that I'm always the one to say it first. Sometimes I like it when a girl just tells me out of a random moment. Or if she misses me out of random. Not hearing that for a while and you all of a sudden think she's getting bored of you. I guess my insecurities are still lurking I believe. But I'm really taking the time to just enjoy the time spent with her on the phone and just going with the flow. Without begging for any sort of affirmation that she loves me.
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    Sep 7, 2010, 06:16 AM

    Thanks Tal. Im like having goosebumps just thinking about it lol
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    Sep 7, 2010, 10:33 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by BobbyVandeyar View Post
    thanks Tal. Im like having goosebumps just thinking about it lol
    Tal gives great advice and I hope you take it. Good Luck:)
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    #25

    Sep 30, 2010, 02:20 PM

    I just came back from vacation. And I miss her so damn much. I got to know a lot about her and her family. I spent times with the family for them to learn a lot about me. I was very shy and nervous. Yet at first I was full of life and just spent so much time. I tried doing things like cooking her breakfast on her birthday. I even bought her a gift as well as my dad giving her a necklace. All these things, and her family giving me advice was great. When I finally asked her to go out to the movies, she went despite her working such a long shift at work. We kissed, we hugged and at the end of it when I said goodbye I told her I love her. But now I feel the pain of the distance, I miss her so much and I know she's with her family but I feel so distant from her. During the vacation she would spend time with her family a lot. And I would just be quiet or laugh. I feel that my insecurity is coming back. I don't want to lose her again the same way I did before. I talked to her today to see how's she's doing. She said she would call me tonight when she gets back. But all this stuff inside I tried calling her to let her know how I feel. She didn't answer. I left a message. I want to let her know that honestly the first few days back have been difficult. Because overall, I miss her and I love her a lot. More now since finally seeing her and the family. I don't want to lose her. I need help.
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    Sep 30, 2010, 03:50 PM

    My gosh man, get yourself under control why don't you. That's the help you need, and stop being a slave to your own feelings. Now start helping yourself.
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    #27

    Oct 3, 2010, 07:46 AM

    I screwed up. She txted me and told me that it was over. I was a completely different person there. She said that I'm two different people. And she tells me this 2 days before my birthday. I feel like crap still even after my birthday because of how I was. But for her to text me and leave me such harsh words, and never responding to me after, was a bigger stab.
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    Oct 3, 2010, 09:01 AM

    Leave her alone. You had your fun, hope you enjoyed it, but leave her alone.

    There never is a good time, or a good way to go through a break up. Especially a Long Distance one.

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