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Aurora_Bell · May 4, 2010, 04:52 AM

You're not an idiot, but she is pretty petty and cowardly to do it through a text.

Take this as a lesson learned in love. I know it hurts now, but it will pass. Things happen for a reason.

Homegirl 50 · May 4, 2010, 06:34 AM

You're not an idiot, you are a student of life and you just learned a painful yet valuable lesson.
Now move on.

startover22 · May 4, 2010, 07:32 AM

Nah, you are not an idiot! Lessons like these are important for all of us. By going through certain heartbreaks and hurt, we remember what got us there in the first place. Moving on and becoming a strong, communicable guy would be the best idea here. Good luck! :)

harmless_goon · May 27, 2010, 04:48 AM

Hi all, This is my 3rd thread on this site, but it's about the same girl.

As I've said in previous threads, I've been on and off with this girl for at least a year now, we decided to give it a proper go, lasted about 6 months, then she called it quits. Via text, I guess because I lost my charm or something, became bored of me. Etc etc

It's been about a month now and I'm still in love with her. I see her, my heart drops. I hear about her, same thing. The relationship was great, until it started to go down hill (about 5months into relationship), she pretty much just gave up and blamed it on me. We still talk and stuff at school, she's texted me once asking me how I was etc, me being stupid I replied and kept the conversation going, it was just like old times :(

But she clearly doesn't feel the same way anymore and I feel I shouldn't either. I want to either get back with her, or just not have any feelings for her at all. It's not good for me. So I guess my question is, should I just not speak to her/ignore her until time passes or somehow initiate a conversation and talk about how I feel/ask her how she feels? Or something else?

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Homegirl 50 · May 27, 2010, 07:15 AM

I think you should just leave her alone, she has moved on.
If she has not given you any indication that she wants to be back in a bf/gf relationship with you. Why put yourself through more drama.
Don't go back there.

harmless_goon · May 27, 2010, 03:01 PM

True.

But it's kind of difficult due to the fact she's friendly with all of my friends, so she hangs out with them and yeah..

Homegirl 50 · May 27, 2010, 04:01 PM

What does that have to do with your wanting to get back with her and talk to her?
See her if you have no choice, but leave the conversations alone.

dontknownuthin · May 28, 2010, 09:21 AM

I think you are really mourning what you wanted to have with her, not what you actually had with her. It's that feeling of hoping you can have a good time being with a person you also find physically attractive. The thing is, the real person doesn't match your fantasy - she's a total let down. So far you've dated on and off (she toys with your feelings), and she's made you question yourself throughout. She really disregarded your feelings and totally disrespected you by first ignoring you and then cutting you off with a text, and now bored and wanting to feel like someone wants her (though she doesn't want you) she starts things up with this "friendly" text. She may not meant to be childish, selfish, gaming and manipulative, disrespectful of your feelings and rude but she has been all of those things.

Recognize that it's the dream of being in love that is what you miss, and that dream is not tied up with this girl. I think it's time to consider that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your princess... one frog down.