[Wondergirl]

Wondergirl,
the reason I said my question is not being answered is because all of you kept talking about how "he doesn't want to be friends with someone who still has feelings", and I already know that. My question was why!

What you just said makes sense though. See that's what I was looking for all along. You said it is because he thinks that being friends encourages me to pursue more. That answer explains why, instead of just repeating that he doesn't want to be friends.

I think we all thought it was rather obvious. Glad I finally spelled it out for you.

Did you ever see the movie Fatal Attraction? If not, please rent it and watch it.

[swtlilsoni]

He then just assumed that I'm talking to him to try to get back together

My question is, why would he just assume that?

I actually said it too in my original question.
I knew that since he found out I still had feelings, he thought the friendship was my effort to pursue them
I just didn't understand why he would think that because it was not true. Like I said, you can have feelings and abstain from pursuing them.

And about your comment on Fatal Attraction, now you know why I said you're "taking what I say the wrong way". I never displayed any intention to pursue anything with this boy. I don't even know where you got that from.

[Wondergirl]

I never displayed any intention to pursue anything with this boy. I don't even know where you got that from.

Probably from the second sentence you wrote in your first post: "Then he found out from a mutual friend that I want to get back together with him."

[swtlilsoni]

Oh well it wasn't my intention for him to hear about this through the mutual friend. I wasn't using them as a messenger or anything.

I was close with this person as well and I was just letting my feelings out with them.