[JcxQ]

Well I known her for a year and for that year she was everything I hope she would be.. I guess I instigated a bit too much too.. but I'm healing slowly each day I realize that this is over regarding what she tells me we talked yesterday well I talked she just ignored me.. So I'll give up on calling her or texting her..


I just want her back.. not for who she is but how she made me feel.. I feel miserable with out her.. she became part of my life.. to be honest I don't care if its as a girlfriend or not just as a friend but she won't even speak to me so there must be something I can do

[zooropa1985]

I agree with everyone else, let her go and make her own mistakes.

Yes you will hurt, yes it will be hard and yes you will try and get her back

BUT

Even if you did get her back what's to say she won't dump your in a month or two, then you will start this process all over again.

Trust me when I say its better to let go now and deal with it than waste your life trying to get her back only to be hurt again.

Lifes too short my friend, there's millions of girls out there all waiting for you too ditch the b!tch

[Imabadman]

First, get a grip on yourself. It'll be all right, believe in that.

Next, step back from the whole situation. Put your feelings aside and really see the positive(s) and negative(s) here. You seem to be reacting to your feelings rather than rational thought.

[amicon]

Read what you just wrote- 'she won't speak to me'.

Take it from there and start getting over her.

[JcxQ]

Haha yea I'm just going to keep myself busy thanks though :)

[Newguy2009]

I just want her back.. not for who she is but how she made me feel.

When in love, you love a girl for who she is AND how she makes you feel. It looks like to me that you feel comfortable with her but look, anyone can make you feel that way you just have to be open minded and look.

This girl is trouble. She doesn't know what or who she wants. She bounces around between men and Im sure you are not the only guy she has made feel this way. Let her go. Don't call, don't text, don't. You are young and have all the time in the workd to meet someone that will care solely for you.

[JcxQ]

Yea I'm trying to keep myself together here.. not calling her nor texting her is killing me at the moment haha

[Newguy2009]

It might hurt for some time believe me I know. But through time it will get easier. Try being with some one for 3 years and going NC. Its tough but you can do it. I still get the urge every now and then but I tell myself its not worth it and really, its not. If she wanted you she would make it known and she obviously doesn't. You can't make her love you as much as you want to. It sux, just be cool.

Stay up buddy!

[JcxQ]

I'm up man haha but I still miss her

[I wish]

I'm up man haha but I still miss her

I hate to be the one to point this out, but whenever you use "haha's", it's difficult to take you seriously and it's difficult to tell if you're actually suffering.

If you don't feel any pain, then just keep trying to attempt a friendship, but there's no guarantee that she will return those feelings. There's a reason she's no longer communicating with you. Eventually you will have to respect her decision.

[JcxQ]

I do respect her decision which is why I've tried not to contact her in anyway I'm letting her see if she comes to me.. and the Haha is more of suffering.. Laughing instead of crying I guess you could say

[zooropa1985]

After re-reading your original post I have come to the conclusion that she is a USER.

Im sorry but that's how I see it.

Here's what you need to do...

Get a TV
Get either Xbox 360 or PS3
Get Modern Warfare 2
Get online

You'll soon forget about her lol

[I wish]

No contact is about accepting the situation and moving on with your life. It's a tool to help you heal. There's a misconception that if you ignore her long enough, she will contact you.

She already knows how you feel about her, if she wanted something more, she would contact you, she wouldn't make you wait around.

I was in a similar situation as you when I first joined the forum: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...nd-319890.html

Check out the advice I received, you'll see that it's very similar. I suspect that you will get more insight.

Also, check out the links in my signature about no contact.

[JcxQ]

I'm going to try my best to get over her.. :)