[maker86]

So here's the deal... me and my ex had been going out for a few years, we met in college. We talked for many months before I decided to ask her out. We've had some bumps on the way but have worked on them and generally settled those concerns and I'd say that towards the last few months we started to lose touch, not that I didn't love her. She tells me that she no longer wishes to be in this relationship and thinks we should go our own ways, if we get together in the future it will happen. She says she loves me still. I want to work on things but she feels that letting go is the right idea. She contacted me a few days after the break up for no real reason and then no contact for then on. I've messaged her once but she's still mad... and that's after a month. How do I get her back?

[N0help4u]

What is she mad about if you had a decent relationship with no real problems?

You can't make her love you.
She seems to have made up her mind and there really is no changing their mind or their feelings.

[amicon]

She told you she wants to let go-here and now you must accept that.here s where you should go NC and find some balance within yourself and discover who you are.time and energy spent trying to secondguess an exs thoughts etc is a waste of time.concentrate on you-your life your becoming you. All the best.

[maker86]

Just a bit more info... we are both 24. She can be a stubborn girl so I know she's mad. When I sent her a reply she send me a message saying I didn't think she was special. So I know I've made my mistakes but I want a chance to rectify them.

[N0help4u]

So ask her what makes you think she is not special.
I have a feeling that maybe she thinks you should be treating her all pampered and on a pedestal. Girls like that can be impossible because they are self centered.

[maker86]

I know I will be wasting my time talking to her when she's mad. I want to have a concrete answer as to where we go from now on but the pedestal aspect you speak of is very accurate:)

[N0help4u]

As long as she is not talking to you that is her answer...
Get ON with YOUR life!

[opinions05]

I kind of agree with NOhelp4u. If she isn't going to contact you then shez giving you your answer bro. the part I don't agree with is you said she love you right? Well if she did or does or whatever... u probably got to get away from each other for a bit. She seeing someone else? If she did say she love you then unlikely she has moved on... so give it time.. do the NC thing and get yourself together man... once you got your stuff together message her and be friendly.. then take it from there

Just my two cents

[none12345]

I did everything known to man to try to get my ex back and it failed. At the end, all you can do is let her know how you feel, and the rest is up to her and if she wants to come back or not.

[liz28]

If she want to you back and want to to give a relationship another shot she would be with you right now but she isn't. Instead of discussing her feelings with you like an adult she plays games--not something I look for in a mate. Stop the going around in circles and move on. The two of you are 24 not kids.

You can't get someone back back who doesn't want you back. A relationship will only work when two people wants it to work--not one. Stop entertaining her thoughts because after all tricks are for kids, right??

[opinions05]

You are right on liz28, see the thing wit your situation is that she may be testing you or playing mind games wit u. if she says she loves you man, then she may be doing that. Maybe she wants you to understand something. I doubt it but I've had that happen to me before. 24 yr olds shouldn't be playing games, seems like she needs ta grow up and start wanting to make it work, if like you said she loves you and all.. though it seems unlikely unless she meets some other guy and realizes that you were the one for her or something. Maybe give it some time of NC like I said and go from there. But when you doing the NC, actually try and move on man, get yourself together and then if you still feel like you want her then let her know and if she isn't inta you then be done wit it an u'll get another girl. Im 30 now bro, I had something like this happen to me when I was 26, me an her didn't talk for about 3 months and she calls me up and we just hit it off again but we talked through all the stuff we went through before.

Good luck

[sully123]

As long as she is not talking to you that is her answer.......
Get ON with YOUR life!

I agree!