[vincesez]

I understand that and is the reason that I hate her for. It just makes me feel used because with her finding a new relationship so quickly it was like nothing I did meant anything to her. I just hate how randomly she would pop up in my head again and mess with my emotions. One day I would be OK and then the next I see or do something and she pop ups. I guess it's just the whole valentines day thing that is also messing with me. I just can't wait for that day to pass so that I won't have to think about anything dealing with love for a while. It really is hard right now... I always try to surround myself with people because it's just worse being by myself. Being on here also helps a lot. Writing things down really helps clear my head.

[aoifee88]

You I think you should cut contact she knows she can have you whenever she wants. Maybe if you cut out all contact shel realise what she wants quicker. Don't let her walk all over you or take advantage you seem like a nice person

[vincesez]

All right... I got to another situation. It's been almost a month and a half since my girl and I have broken up. She did have another boyfriend during the time we were broken up, but she broke up with him. We haven't really seen each other since then, until last night. We started talking three days earlier and she said she misses me and that she loves me, and that she made a big mistake and that she apologizes for everything. I haven't been txting her, but since three days ago she would text me every now and then saying "what up," and stuff like that. Just last night she was a friends birthday party and she texted me saying she misses me and that she wanted for me to go there to be with her and to see her. When I got there we hugged and talked, and sometime that night she gave me a surprise kiss on the lips. We basically pretty much talked the whole night and I even took her home last night and she gave me another kiss on the lips and on the neck and when I was driving home she texted me saying, "even though you just dropped me off, i miss you." what do you guys think? I still have feelings for her, and I'm already over the whole hurting part, I don't know? I guess I'm kind of scared to get hurt again, but then again I still have a lot of feelings for her. I honestly don't know where to go from here. When we saw each other last night, we were both happy. People could tell by the smile on our faces. She even said herself that she would take me back, but we would start slow just to see where things would go from here from what she said. She basically said she doesn't want to lead me on because she got out of a relationship with her ex just recently and that she wants to clear things up as to not hurt me again. I honestly want her back. What do you guys think I should do?

[amicon]

It didn't work out with your replacement and now she wants her backup guy back?

Not a good idea.

She is still pulling your strings and you are letting her.
That's not a good idea either.

Find some selfrespect and let her go sort her own life out.

[talaniman]

She basically said she doesn't want to lead me on because she got out of a relationship with her ex just recently and that she wants to clear things up as to not hurt me again. I honestly want her back. What do you guys think I should do?

Leave her alone until she clears up her business. Why do I see back up plan written on your forehead?

I honestly think your own feelings are being used against you. I would steer clear of a female who has more important things to do than work with you.

This gal is much to needy of a man in her life, to ever trust her feelings for you.

Think hard my friend as to what your actually getting back.

[vincesez]

Is she really pulling my strings? She was really emotional and she actually cried when she was apologizing and talking to me and saying the whole I miss you and love you deal.

[dynocompe]

Her feelings for you so strong that she easily dated another guy so fast.
And you keep believing every word. Girl is crying, because she is lonely, any guy can fill her void, and she is crying so you be that fill in guy. I think you would be wasting your time. Remember how she told you she didn't want any other guys, but then she starts dating another guy right after that.
How can you trust anything she says, crying or not. Anyone can cry. I can cry on command.

[talaniman]

That's exactly how females pull our strings guy, by overwhelming us with emotions. You fell for it instead of the facts.

Remember how she told you she didn't want any other guys, but then she starts dating another guy right after that.

Is this a fact, or not?

[vincesez]

Yeah that fact is true. She actually explained that part last night. That he was basically just some guy who was there for her when she needed someone. She said he was just a F.buddy and that she realized that she shouldn't have broken up with me. She said she learned that I was actually the better guy when she saw what he did for her on valentines day compared to what I used to do for her and he didn't do much and she left him the next day. She said that the only thing she liked about him and that made her happy was that he would kiss her hand and her forehead and give her kisses every five seconds. I'll admit I wasn't really a guy who would do that a lot, it was every now and then, but I learned from that.

[talaniman]

Learn also from the fact she is needy of a guys attention, any guy it seems, who buys her things.

Dude, reread this post, and see the red flags of why she wants you.

A box of chocolates, and she is still with the F' buddy. You don't need that kind of love, do you? That's not love at all.

[amicon]

I wonder why the word shallow comes to mind?

Her most recent ex didn't come up to scratch when it came to showering her with tokens of love on Valentine's Day,so dump him and try to get back with you.

And how delightful of her to regal you with stories of what he did. Not.

Can't you see through the crocodile tears?

Don't get back together with her unless you enjoy emotional rollercoaster rides and merry-go-rounds.

[dynocompe]

The more you post, the more and more you need to reread your posts and understand why not to go back to her!
Every time you post it just shows her true colors more and more and how worse and worse it actually is. But your buying it?
When you first posted when she didn't want to be with you, you were agreeing with everyone's post here, because they were all right and suggestions you should listen to. Now that she wants you back, your defending everyone of her actions and not listening to our suggestions anymore.. but still in denial.
All this hurt you felt when she broke up with you, if you go back to her, you will feel it a dozen times over. Why go through that?

[vanheart]

Don't play the wuss.
No one likes that.

[vincesez]

You guys were right. Now that I look at it she is needy of a guys attention. I was just too surprised and overwhelmed by the fact of her wanting me back. She even said herself, the night of the party that she's needy of attention. I don't know I'm not hurting anymore, I don't get that feeling I used to feel in my chest or in my stomach when I think of her. It just makes me mad when she would tell me she misses me, but I know she's just saying that because she's alone. Yesterday she actually asked if I wanted to go out with her, but then she changed her mind saying her "dad" was going to take her out to dinner, but I come to find out later that night on her page that she went with another guy to dinner instead because she posted a picture up. I even left a comment saying, "your dad sure looks different...". That just pissed me off. We've hung out twice this week and when we did I never made a move on her I kept my wall up but she made moves on me. Nothing bothers me at all anymore when we hang out. I was just trying to see if what she felt was really real and if what she really wanted was me, but I guess not. Ughhhhhh! I can't stand anyone who lies.

[amicon]

Time to let her sort her own life out now-let her go lie to somebody else and get on with your own life, Vince.

Time for no contact!