[Cat1864]

I did a quick search and found this article interesting:

Indian Law - India Legal Issues - Adultery - ShaadiTimes

What Constitutes adultery ?
As in India Section 497 of the Indian Penal Code, 1860 which reads as :

"Whoever has sexual intercourse with a person who is and whom he knows or has reason to believe to be the wife of another man without the consent or connivance of that man, such sexual intercourse not amounting to the offence of rape, is guilty of the offence of adultery."

Thus under Section 497 of the Indian Penal Law :
1. an adultery can be committed only by a man and not by woman.
2. the person committing adultery must also know or should have reason to believe that woman with whom he had intercourse is the wife of another man, and
The sexual intercourse should not amount to the offence of rape.
3. The complainant husband can only vindicate himself if he can establish the above, otherwise his complaint would fail. What is most significant in the penal offence of adultery is that invariably the husband takes his vengeance against the third person, i.e. the adulterer: though in some jurisdictions he may also be able to reap it against the wife. But in most cases the main target of his vengeance is the adulterer.

The criminal action is filed not against the wife but against the adulterer. The wife is not guilty of offence, not even as an abettor.

The Indian Penal Law makes no mention of adding "unreal to real" or subtracting anything. It does say that YOU can be held criminally liable for seducing HER even if it is her idea. It also goes on to say that her husband can use it as grounds to divorce her. Doesn't sound like the consequences would be very satisfying to me.

[rockie100]

I think this married woman knows you are a virgin, and has for a long time. I don't really know where Im going with this. She could just be using you. How would you feel about being used? Losing your virginity is a big price to pay to get used and then hurt. You have not a clue what your going to invest in her emotionaly after you begin this affair. Think before you act in this.

[binucbg]

I did a quick search and found this article interesting:

Indian Law - India Legal Issues - Adultery - ShaadiTimes



The Indian Penal Law makes no mention of adding "unreal to real" or subtracting anything. It does say that YOU can be held criminally liable for seducing HER even if it is her idea. It also goes on to say that her husband can use it as grounds to divorce her. Doesn't sound like the consequences would be very satisfying to me.

Here in india law permit the polygamy in certain religion & communities, I can challenge any legal issue in court. It's not aproblem for me , its my inner conscince, which has is abarrier for me to get her. I want a strong reason , for which I should discard her. If I go for a virgin or single woman whom I not going to marry , how can I continue that affair too. So ,I am thinking this is a better option having affair with this married friend. Till I got a proper person. I am Correct or...

[Alty]

Here in india law permit the polygamy in certain religion & communites, i can challange any legal issue in court. it's not aproblem for me , its my inner conscince, which has is abarrier for me to get her. i want a strong reason , for which i should discard her. if i go for a virgin or single woman whom I not going to marry , how can i continue that affair too. so ,i am thinking this is a better option having affair with this married friend. till I got a proper person., i am Correct or..........

So you're using her for sex?

You're horny, you want to get laid. I can understand that, at 30 years of age I'd feel the same way.

Aren't most marriage in India arranged? Why not find yourself a wife, then you can have all the sex you want.

[Cat1864]

I am going to be blunt.

I don't know why you came to us for advice. You have your penis made up. It definitely is not your brain that is doing the thinking.

You are looking to get one person to say go for it. Sorry, but I have yet to see any of the people who regularly answer questions on this website agree that adultery is ever a solution to a problem. In fact, most of them get upset at even the concept of adultery as a solution.

If you want to mess up your life and hers, that is on your conscience. You won't get us to do anything other than attempt to talk you out of it. However, it appears that nothing we say is 'a strong enough reason' to "discard her', because you keep making excuses as to why you should have an affair with her.

Why don't you find a wife of your own?

[binucbg]

I am going to be blunt.

I don't know why you came to us for advice. You have your penis made up. It definitely is not your brain that is doing the thinking.

You are looking to get one person to say go for it. Sorry, but I have yet to see any of the people who regularly answer questions on this website agree that adultery is ever a solution to a problem. In fact, most of them get upset at even the concept of adultery as a solution.

If you want to mess up your life and hers, that is on your conscience. You won't get us to do anything other than attempt to talk you out of it. However, it appears that nothing we say is 'a strong enough reason' to "discard her', because you keep making excuses as to why you should have an affair with her.

Why don't you find a wife of your own?

I did not want nod from anybody . But your reasons did not satisfiy me. OK you are reason is correct, should I marry aperson for sex.

[Alty]

i did not want nod from anybody . But your reasons did not satisfiy me. ok u r reason is correct, should i marry aperson for sex.

Of course not, but that's what you seem to want.

You don't seem interested in right or wrong, love, marriage, anything. It seems that all
You want is sex and you're willing to ruin someone's marriage to get it, or marry someone to get it.

You have a one track mind, and that track is only leading to what you want, and to hell with everyone else.

[binucbg]

So you're using her for sex?

You're horny, you want to get laid. I can understand that, at 30 years of age I'd feel the same way.

Aren't most marriage in India arranged? Why not find yourself a wife, then you can have all the sex you want.

I want to get laid, sometime's your correct . In midist of my all year, I never think of woman for only sex. I have very respect for woman. So marry a woman , to make wife only for all want of sex,.

[binucbg]

Of course not, but that's what you seem to want.

You don't seem interested in right or wrong, love, marriage, anything. It seems that all
you want is sex and you're willing to ruin someone's marriage to get it, or marry someone to get it.

You have a one track mind, and that track is only leading to what you want, and to hell with everyone else.

I am person who believe in god . I didn't ,only want sex, I want love too. I didn't want to ruin anybody's life. I want to help. That's all .

[sandalwood7]

If you want to help then don't have sex with a married woman... That is a sure way to destroy many things in your and others lives. Find another woman to have sex with that is not married. Honestly I think you have no idea about how destructive your desire is. You habve no idea about the suffering that you andothers will endure if you go ahead with this. You will regret it one day.

[Clough]

Hi again, binucbg!

You still have never directly answered my question that I asked in post #14! You keep skirting around the issue here.

Would you please answer the question that I asked, without making up excuses and rationalizations?

Thanks!

[binucbg]

if you want to help then dont have sex with a married woman....... That is a sure way to destroy many things in your and others lives. Find another woman to have sex with that is not married. Honestly I think you have no idea about how destructive your desire is. You habve no idea about the suffering that you andothers will endure if you go ahead with this. You will regret it one day.

What would she do if , her husband in not capable of giving her sexualpleasure. Should she have permission from her husband for this affair

[Enigma1999]

Hello B,

I agree with everyone else on here. Let me ask you something, What is it about this woman, MARRIED woman at that, that you feel you just have to have? Surely there are more women where you are from?

You came on here for advice, right? So here goes, Stop thinking about your peepee and put yourself in someone else's position for a second. By going threw with this you will destroy her marriage. Think of her husband and how he would feel. Not to mention, would you even have respect for her afterwards for going threw with it?

You may not agree with what I have told you, but oh well. Good luck.

[shazamataz]

what would she do if , her husband in not capable of giving her sexualpleasure. should she have permission from her husband for this affair

If her husband has any morals he would not agree with this.
If she is not getting sexual pleasure from her husband then she needs to talk to him about it, not find that pleasure elsewhere.
They need to either talk about it or go to counselling, either way you should stay out of it and let them sort their own issues out.

If she decided she wants to divorce her husband and be with you then fine but until they get a divorce she is off limits.

[Clough]

what would she do if , her husband in not capable of giving her sexualpleasure. should she have permission from her husband for this affair

How would you know if her husband is not capable of giving her sexual pleasure, please? If she's willing to cheat on her husband, she is capable of cheating on anyone.

Would you want to be intimately involved with someone who is so prone to cheating?

Thanks!