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Junior Member
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Oct 16, 2009, 11:43 AM
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How do you confront someone that they have been using you?
OK long story short, Ive have just been given lots of Hard evidence that this chick that Ive pretty much went to hell and back for(and dating), for the last god know how long has been using me and my good friend... and probably cheating as well, I mean she goes to guys houses at night after meeting them for one day, and she always says "i only like hanging out with guys' honestly it's a bunch of crud.. anyway she was hitting on my best friend and god know how many people, and having just hard copies of evidence is not just all I have...
Anyway my chick friend says that girls run on a different form of pride, and that I need to confront her in a way that honestly puts her on a different road
I know what your thinking (this isn't your job) but if I have a chance to keep this girl from fffing up anymore then at least I can get some karma points out of this.. I mean don't get me wrong I'm not with her anymore, I don't date whores... but I don't know how to confront her about this.. other then going to her, showing her the evidence and just question if she likes this kind of life she's living...
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Emotional Health Expert
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Oct 16, 2009, 11:47 AM
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As tempting as that is to do, I doubt that in the long run it would make one shmick of difference.
One thing I'd like to point out, is that you have a good friend there that didn't fall for her moves, and let you know that she had come onto him.
Those kinds of friends are worth their weight in gold.
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Full Member
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Oct 16, 2009, 11:51 AM
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Don't even go there. Take the high road. If she ever approaches you and asks what happened you calmly tell her that you knew about her philandering and you don't approve of women with such loose morals. Maybe throw in a, “Aren't you worried about diseases?! ” Then... smile and wave buh bye.
Believe me that has much more impact than you pulling an emotional outburst confronting her which ultimately she'll turn against you justifying why you broke up.
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Ultra Member
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Oct 16, 2009, 11:54 AM
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Once you start on the road of trying to save people from themselves it's a hard road to come off.
Save your energy for your true friends for when they need you, as they will appriacate your efforts, where I feel this other girl will take what help you have on offer and do another runner with your good karma and good will.
Don't be a fool for her,move on to someone who will see a helping hand for what it is,and say thanks for your help,you're a good friend.
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Uber Member
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Oct 16, 2009, 11:55 AM
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Just ignore the situation-you re not with her anymore so the lifestyle she s chosen s nothing that need worry you.
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Marriage Expert
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Oct 16, 2009, 12:00 PM
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I just read more of your posts on the Dating board. STOP trying to save her from herself. She won't learn that way.
You are not in a relationship with her anymore. She is not your daughter. You are not her father. You are not her bodyguard or conscience. I am going to bet that you are a bit big to be playing Jimmny Cricket.
Heal yourself. Adding more drama to the break-up won't help either of you.
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Junior Member
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Oct 16, 2009, 01:24 PM
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Thank you, for your feed back, sounds like a plan.
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Expert
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Oct 16, 2009, 06:00 PM
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Being someone's fool is voluntary.
Don't be mad at a snake for biting you, that's what they do.
She is a screw up, she is what she is. What are you?
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