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jmjoseph · Aug 31, 2009, 05:45 PM

Why did you compromise his trust and read a very personal, legal document? I'd be more concerned with why you did THAT than anything else. You can't discuss this with him because you don't want him to know that you looked at it. That's something that you simply don't do. I came across my own father's will one day while trying to find something for him. I did not even unfold the papers. Why? Because that's crossing the line. It was none of MY business just like it was none of YOURS. And I was his own blood.

I'm sorry for being so harsh, but I would be very upset with my girlfriend of ONE YEAR for looking at something so personal. If he wanted you to see it, he would have shown it to you.

jmjoseph · Aug 31, 2009, 06:12 PM

I mentioned this issue to my wife. She reminded me that even after 10 years of marriage, that we still don't even open each other's MAIL! That's because we RESPECT each other more than THAT. What if there was something in there that he didn't want YOU to see, only his son.

Man, this is WAY over the line.

I'm sorry. But you had no business going there.

Gemini54 · Aug 31, 2009, 08:10 PM

I'd like to add that a Will is a legal, binding document. It is not something that is entered into lightly and without some thought. May I further add, that I included my now husband in my Will when we married. That was 4 years after we met.

You have been together for a year. Your relationship is still in its infancy and although you may have talked about being together for a long time, there is not yet any evidence that this will be the case.

He is rightfully, thinking of himself and his family - and at this point you have no claim on that. You and your daughters may well become his family in years to come but at this stage his concern and commitment is to his blood family. This is as it should be because, legally, at this stage, you are still an unknown quantity in the equation.

I suspect that your concern is more about the future of your relationship and what you are desperately seeking is evidence of his commitment. I would also suggest that looking at the Will he has made, without his knowledge, is evidence of your insecurity in the relationship. Not a good start.

Survivor07 · Sep 1, 2009, 08:37 AM

JustLaw,

I would recommend you drop this issue and get it out of your mind for a while. (Take it as a lesson to not read what's not intended for you!)

If he says you and your children feel like family, that's great. That means things are going well. Don't look too far into the future, you'll miss out on TODAY!!