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I'm dating a guy right now and things seem to be going pretty well. However, I feel as though we're going to drift apart sooner or later because we're different. By different, I mean morally. I do not intend on sleeping with him and I feel as though he has those expectations. We haven't discussed anything pertaining to our previous relationships, but it's one of those gut feelings that I have in which I think that he'll call things off because I'm a virgin. Yea, I hear it all the time that it's his loss, however, it sort of upsets me because that seems to be the most important element in a relationship. So my question is, how do I make of this paranoia (do I ever bring it up to him) because I don't want to invest time into something that will eventually dissipate. Thanks

[friend4u178]

If he's not willing to wait as you wish he's not worth keeping.

Just be honest with him , let him know how you feel and take it from there.

Whatever you do don't do something your not ready for just to keep someone who doesn't respect your morals. And remember , you only lose your virginity ONCE!!

[anewday]

You should tell him if you want to be in a serious relationship with him. If he is falling pretty heavily for you, then you should tell him too, so as not to break his heart before he has totally fallen for you.

Sex is a very important part of a relationship, especially if he's not a virgin too. Lack of it (even if he's willing to wait) does put up barriers and create frustrations. The best policy would be to tell him and let him decide.

[ZoeMarie]

You need to talk to him about this. You never know, if he really cares about you maybe you two can work something out. If not then at least you're figuring things out sooner rather than later.

[Romefalls19]

How do you know his feelings without even talking to him about it? You are being quite judgmental about this issue. The only way to find out his feelings is to talk to him

[JBeaucaire]

I'm the first person to say that moral differences between mates shouldn't be ignored. I think it's important that you know they exist and are concerned.

But I think you're being melodramatic unnecessarily at this point. People CAN be inspired to be better than they were last time, better than they were last year, or even just last week. People do change, or at least can pretend to until so much time has passed they actually have changed.

So, I would put the issue on the shelf where it belongs. For now.

Spend this time getting to know your guy fully. If he's respecting your boundaries, let him. And praise him for it when the topic does come up. I mean when the issue arises, PRAISE HIM for his support of your values and for the way HE has protected your virtue. PRAISE HIM for the knight he has been and thank him for making you feel so safe around him on this issue.

Guys love sex, truly. But you can't believe how powerful sincere and focused praise can be on a man, even more powerful than the sex drive.

[talaniman]

How long have you been dating, as its none of his business if its only been casual, and not that long. Now when things get exclusive, and you have had a while to get to know each other, then you can talk.

Before then its about enjoying getting to know each other so stop worrying.

[I wish]

I think you're jumping the gun. You're just assuming that he feels a certain way without actually talking things out with him.

It's not about your lose or his lose at this point, you need to be honest and upfront about your feelings and then see how he reacts.

If he truly cared about you, he will respect you and you will be a good match. If he doesn't, then show him the door. It's nobody's lose because you weren't a match in the first place.

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I feel as though my boyfriend is ignoring my texts. I texted him goodnight last night and got no response. Earlier today though, he texts me asking how my day is. After responding to him, he didn't say anything. I don't know if it's a comfort thing for him because we've been seeing each other for a while, but I can't help but get bothered. How do I address this?

[none12345]

You confront him and address the problem. Communication is the key to a relationship.

[puppydoggie]

He is not ignoring you, the more stress you give him about it the less he will text you

[lottiexox]

I no how you feel... I've had experience... what I have found is, that guys seem to this this for attention.. I think they know that we get rather annoyed when they don't text back, so they just don't text back.. which makes us more annoyed and curious or upset, or whatever you are feeling.. if he doesn't text back.. dont dwell on it.. try to move on otherwise it will make u feel down.. if u really want to, confront him and ask him y he never replies. Good luck =)

[N0help4u]

He may have been busy or something at least he did contact you earlier. As long as he is keeping in touch I wouldn't go crazy over missing a call or two.
Tell him you like hearing his voice before you go to sleep and leave it go at that.

[talaniman]

You address this by not getting upset and then when the two of you talk face to face, you establish what you both can, and can't do. That's how couples deal with things, by talking honestly, instead of getting upset for no reason. My gosh, do you expect every text to get answered, or get carried away when its not? That's on you, and not him. Are you insecure or something? Or just inexperienced?

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