[Ren6]

I'm so happy you found out the truth before any serious entanglement with him. You have your whole life ahead of you! Take care...

[N0help4u]

Update On saturady nite I decided not to answer my phone when he called. I did not want to see him because I really started to feel like he was cheating on me. At 2am whe I got off work I drove past his baby mama's house and his car was there. In the morning I woke up to a call from the baby mama. She told me he was with her last nite and that they are together again and asked me if I had been tested for STD's because they are having un protected sex trying to have another baby. I just hung up. I didn't say a word besides hello. An hour after that I got a call from my EX and I asked him non chalantly what he did last nite and he said... I went to my moms and fell asleep around 12 am. Then I just said... "did you know I drove past your baby mama's house at 2am and saw your car?" he had the nerve to say "it wasn't me." he actually said it 5 or 6 times. I just hung up and sent him a text saying " i know the truth... we are never speaking again... come get your bleep." But he hasn't been to the house yet. He was texting me all types of baby I need to talk to you and I'm sorry crap all day and then I decided to forward every message he had sent to his baby mama and I asked her to tell him to stop texting me. She replied ok and the texts ended. He called last nite and left a message saying "babe I bleeped up. Please call me." I sent him a text this morning saying he could explain his self in an email but if I sense any bs or lies I really am never ever going to speak to him again. I am waiting on the email.

I am not going to take him back. I feel I know whats going on. I think 2 months ago he slept with her and told her some lies during an argument we had and now he regrets it and din't want to tell me what he did. The fact of the matter is he lied and cheated. I believe in second chances but you have to show you deserve it. He played me for a fool and kept lying to me. He does not deserve a second chance. But I still want to know the truth.

Thank you everyone for your help.

Yes you KNOW what is going on. He wants to play both you and her and it sounds like he really would choose her in the long run and just continue stringing you along as he has been. Even if he may not be trying for another baby most likely SHE is trying.
I would never ever trust him again no matter what he said or did.

[xoxaprilwine]

Yes you KNOW what is going on. He wants to play both you and her and it sounds like he really would choose her in the long run and just continue stringing you along as he has been. Even if he may not be trying for another baby most likely SHE is trying.
I would never ever trust him again no matter what he said or did.

I second that... I wouldn't trust him either.

[artlady]

I am sorry to hear you did not get the outcome you were hoping for.
Your attitude sounds good and you sound determined to move forward.
Stay strong!

[alexa0707]

Day by day is how I'm going to handle this. But his apologies and baby I love you's and excuses are wearing me down. In the beginning I felt strong about this and now I feel afraid to be with out him. Day by day I'm just going to try to stay strong. One day he'll get it and leave me alone. Hopefully

[ravechick09]

Honestly you I really think he is cheating on you because if he has a baby by the ex girlfriend then that baby has to be his child but he just didn't want to tell you

[Justwantfair]

day by day is how I'm going to handle this. But his apologies and baby I love you's and excuses are wearing me down. In the begining I felt strong about this and now I feel afraid to be with out him. Day by day I'm just going to try to stay strong. One day he'll get it and leave me alone. hopefully

Just keep fighting to be strong. We always suggest No Contact in situations such as this because you still have feelings and although you were hurt you will begin to idolize him with the passing time. This is normal that we forget the bad. Just keep fighting forward. He cheated, he lied, he isn't sorry for what he did, he is sorry he got caught.

[liz28]

If he calls you don't answer. If he sends you a text message don't open it simply delete it. If he leaves you a voicemail don't listen to it again delete it. If he don't get the message still than change your number.

Same thing applies to an email don't open it. Also, if you have an email account you can block him from sending you messages by blocking him. I know Yahoo has this option because I did this to a few people in the past and I just blocked someone yesterday.

And your right by taking it day by day and each day you will get stronger.

[artlady]

day by day is how I'm going to handle this. But his apologies and baby I love you's and excuses are wearing me down. In the begining I felt strong about this and now I feel afraid to be with out him. Day by day I'm just going to try to stay strong. One day he'll get it and leave me alone. hopefully

In your weak moments try to remember how you felt when you finally knew the truth.
Like justwantfair said,with time you will forget the hurt.Don't forget what he did to you.
We know how difficult it is to all of a sudden have to rethink your life because this boy wanted to play around with your heart.
You sound like someone who has their head on straight and I think you will come out of this stronger and wiser.
You will never be able to trust this man again but there are still some decent ones out there when you are ready.
Good luck!

[Ren6]

Please, please don't give in to him. I have no doubt he's been sleeping with his "ex" (sounds more like his present, to me) all this time he's been with you. Don't kid yourself. What else is he doing at her place at two in the morning? He's trying to have another baby with her- don't doubt what his girl friend is telling you. Change your number, your e-mail, whatever it takes to not speak with him. If you take him back, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. His girl friend made another good point- get tested for STDs.

Please stay strong!

[Justwantfair]

Please follow and advise on the newer thread

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...se-327878.html

[brittie_xoxo]

Intimate details of your relationship with him
Are well intimate. How does intimate details
Of your relationship end up being in a casual
I'm picking up my child conversation? He's definitely
Suspicious. Anytime my ex's had to call their ex's
About something that went down I always ALWAYS
Put them on speaker phone. The speaker phone is
Your best friend.