[JudyKayTee]

Ok, all of you have helped me. I dont want the cell phone records. Its pathetic that Im sitting here contemplating this and I fear the consequences to even have a discussion with him. That is not good and I know it. And I'm talking a discussion that is not defensive in any manner. Im just not going to worry about it anymore. I know that I can't handle her sht. Can you imagine being with your spouse for all these years and another woman or man is constantly calling and texting. It isn't going to work. He should have enough respect for me to do something and he doesn't. Ive never done anything like this before and it has been wonderful to get this all out. I appreciate all of you and God Bless.

It's most definitely NOT pathetic to share, to ask for advice. Believe me, people who answer you here really care how this works out and many, many people have been standing in exactly your shoes. Sometimes the best teacher is experience - and people know what they are talking about.

If you want this marriage to last (and very obviously you do) then you have to work this out in your mind and, eventually, with your husband. I agree - talkling to her isn't going to make a difference and some women get some satisfaction in causing a problem, knowing they got under your skin.

Again - this is not what I do, I hang out on the legal threads, but I do wish you well.