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bubbly1 · Feb 5, 2009, 11:14 AM

I need to know how to get cell phone records. There are a lot of companies offering this but I do not want to get ripped off. Thank you all for your help.

JudyKayTee · Feb 5, 2009, 11:18 AM

When you say you want to get records, what are you looking for? The owner of the account, a print out of the calls? Something else?

Romefalls19 · Feb 5, 2009, 11:19 AM

Need more background in order to help accurately. Why do you suspect your boyfriend is cheating? Is the cell phone contract under your name? We need details, I won't help you hack someone else's phone records

JudyKayTee · Feb 5, 2009, 11:22 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Need more background in order to help accurately. Why do you suspect your boyfriend is cheating? Is the cell phone contract under your name? We need details, I won't help you hack someone else's phone records

It's not hacking. Licensed Private Investigators have access to these records. Many record are available on line.

It's a question of why and who.

Justwantfair · Feb 5, 2009, 11:25 AM

If you are concerned about a cheating boyfriend spying on him and double checking him is not the answer.

Romefalls19 · Feb 5, 2009, 11:25 AM

Judy, if the account is not in her name then legally, no she cannot get any records unless it is through a warrant, which I doubt she could get because of a cheating boyfriend. The only people who can legally access them are government agencies, yourself and the phone company.

Reverse Phone Detective - Cell Phone Records, Text, Call Logs

JudyKayTee · Feb 5, 2009, 11:29 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Judy, if the account is not in her name then legally, no she cannot get any records unless it is through a warrant, which I doubt she could get because of a cheating boyfriend. The only people who can legally access them are government agencies, yourself and the phone company.

Reverse Phone Detective - Cell Phone Records, Text, Call Logs

I do this for a living. You are incorrect. There are sites and sources. At this point I have no idea what she considers "records" to be and, for that matter, if anyone in her area would even be willing to obtain the info for her. But it can be done.

You can also obtain "records" by Subpoena if it comes to that.

Justwantfair · Feb 5, 2009, 11:33 AM

I say break up if you don't trust him, you don't have a relationship!

It won't matter and you will only hurt yourself trying to uncover the truth.

Romefalls19 · Feb 5, 2009, 11:34 AM

What I am saying is, no court is going to issue a subpoena because of a boyfriend/girlfriend cheating matter and that is a direct quote from our judge in our town(IT job is nice).

Can you tell me where you got this information because everything I have read says it is illegal for a third party person who is not a government member is not able to view the cell phone records of another person without their consent or knowledge unless a warrant or other legal document saying so.

bubbly1 · Feb 5, 2009, 11:42 AM

We have been together for 6 years. We did break up for 8 months and he dated someone else. We have been back together for a good while and she keeps texting him and calling. He says he does not answer any of her attempts to talk to him. I have seen some of the texts and seems he may be telling the truth. I do know that he has lied to me before about other things. That is why I distrust him. I just can't understand why she will not stop harassing him if he is not talking to her. You would think she'd quit. I have talked to her heatedly and it does seem she may be just ignorant and don't get the picture. But you never know. He won't change his number because he conducts all of his business on that line. He has had the same number for years and changing it would definetley be a hassle. Im just sick of it and we got into an argument over it and he said he wasn't going to live with someone checking his phone or asking who it is when texts come through. He is the one who started saying it's the "btch" again every time she text or called. He would tell me. And I just went along with it and when I started asking he hit the roof. Now I ignore his phone. I went on a job for a few days, I'm in home health. I got back, ckd his phone and she had called but he had not answered. I know that when he was with her, we began speaking again and we got back together. But he had told me at that time that he was not speaking to her and me both at the same time, and he was. The phone is not in my name. I just want to know if he is talking to her or texting her. He said he would get me the phone bill but he hasn't and probably won't. I do not want to ask for it again because I do not want to lose him but then again I have given 6 years of my life to him loving him totally unconditional. I have to know if he is speaking to her so I can get on with my life. I really love him and we have went through some very life altering situations together and there is definitely a bond between us that will be there forever. Please help.

Romefalls19 · Feb 5, 2009, 11:43 AM

And Judy, I am not trying to say you are wrong. Please don't get that impression, I am simply stating that the information I have read from other sources is saying it is illegal. While it does happen, it is still illegal. I know the 2001 Patriot Act did make it so the Federal agencies and NSA can view them without a warrant, but surely not over a cheating boyfriend.

kctiger · Feb 5, 2009, 11:44 AM

If you don't trust him, and are willing to get phone records to prove your theory, what is the point of even being in this relationship?

Justwantfair · Feb 5, 2009, 11:47 AM

No what you really need to do it trust him or move on...

He is either going to prove it to you this time and it will continue and you will continue to doubt him. Or you except what he is telling you and focus on keeping your relationship healthy... or you give this girl another "heated" call to find out the truth. No matter what the factor is trust and you have to deal with that factor before you can deal with the truth because at this point in time, trust is the issue, not the truth.

JudyKayTee · Feb 5, 2009, 11:50 AM

I appreciate your candid, open response - it must have taken a lot for you to put it all out there like that. Can you find someone to access his records? Probably. But here's my advice when it comes to phone records, surveillances, anything like that. At some point you have to trust him. At some point you have to believe whatever was is no longer. I truly don't think obtaining records (right, wrong or indifferent) will make things any different for you. It has been my experience that if you obtain the phone records and he IS telling the truth, then something else will trigger a response in you.

You either trust him or you don't. If you don't and want to stay in the relationship (and you obviously do) only you can stop the heartache of being suspicious. Maybe just sitting down and laying it all out - why you're concerned, how you feel - will make a difference. Maybe talking to somebody will help, a friend, a professional, someone who is just willing to listen, not judge, help you through this.

I don't think obtaining records of calls and texts will be the least bit helpful here.

This is more relationship advice rather than legal advice and so I am bowing out - probably out of place but I wish you well. I see and hear this situation all the time. Sad that people who love each other, marry, get into these situations.

ZoeMarie · Feb 5, 2009, 11:51 AM

It sounds like there are some serious trust issues here. I can understand being annoyed, even pissed off that someone keeps calling and texting your boyfriend, but if he keeps telling you that he's not talking to her, his word should be good enough. If you don't believe him then you guys have bigger problems.

bubbly1 · Feb 5, 2009, 11:55 AM

I don't know about the "Legal" issues, subpoenas etc... but its not that serious that I would involve the law. Even though I would love to file harassment charges on her. He won't. She has lied to me for a fact. She said something once and he was with me for sure so I knew she lied. So if I call her she will only lie to me try and break us up. Its just a terrible situation. I know right is right and wrong is wrong. If there isn't trust, there is nothing. He has been through a life altering situation and I was there for the post part of it... the last 6 yrs. I have contributed his behaviour to that and given allowances because I love him. He is my blood. I just don't want to quit. Finding this out, for me will be the break. If he is talking to her, it would be the worst deceiving betrayal. I just need to know.

Justwantfair · Feb 5, 2009, 11:58 AM

Good luck to you and God bless.

bubbly1 · Feb 5, 2009, 12:02 PM

Ok, all of you have helped me. I don't want the cell phone records. Its pathetic that Im sitting here contemplating this and I fear the consequences to even have a discussion with him. That is not good and I know it. And I'm talking a discussion that is not defensive in any manner. Im just not going to worry about it anymore. I know that I can't handle her sht. Can you imagine being with your spouse for all these years and another woman or man is constantly calling and texting. It isn't going to work. He should have enough respect for me to do something and he doesn't. Ive never done anything like this before and it has been wonderful to get this all out. I appreciate all of you and God Bless.

HistorianChick · Feb 5, 2009, 12:12 PM

Have you talked to him about it?

talaniman · Feb 5, 2009, 12:22 PM

Can you imagine being with your spouse for all these years and another woman or man is constantly calling and texting. It isn't going to work. He should have enough respect for me to do something and he doesn't.

Your right, he should be doing something to protect you from this loony. He is not, protect yourself by removing yourself from this situation. When you have a peace of mind you can figure what you need to do for yourself.

You can block her text messages, and phone calls also!

Better watch this dude though, his actions are not meeting his words, the way I see it.