[evoqus]

Well I'm no angel by far. I've had many women in my life. I've had a some one night stands and I've had friendships that just involved sex. The last serious relationship I had was about a year & a half ago. She was very beautiful and in fact, she was a model. Looks are somewhat important to me but not to the extreme. We where serious, but I got with her 6 months after a 5 year relationship that was terrible. The woman I was with for 5 years wasn't very attractive, but I loved her. She just had some insecurity issues that really killed our relationship. I started going to church and the whole 9 yards on the religious level and the fornication (sex outside marriage) issue with the model started ripping me apart. I loved her company, but when I shared with her that I wanted to pursue marriage because I felt what we where doing was wrong, she left me. She said that she wasn't ready for that, so I didn't argue about it and just let her go. I continued to go to church, but being alone was really bitting at me. I was passing up women left & right in an effort to do what was morally sound, but then I slipped up & got to dealing with several women on the sexual level again for about 3 months and I faded out of church. Once again, guilt kicked in and I dropped the women and went back to church-boy I'm a case ain't I? I've been celibate and alone for about a year now and I'd been sort of sluggish on the spiritual level. I'd been doing some serious soul searching and I feel what I recently said to the young lady this whole topic is over was a subconscious reaction. I think I liked her so much that it kind of scared me. She had many qualities that I really liked and expressed a strong interest in me, but God was absent in her life. I was just kind of embarrassed after the fact when they took my comment as being desperate. I really had a thing for this girl and was in the midst of a heavy battle within myself over the issue. A part of me wanted her bad, but my spiritual sense said no. I already knew her a little and I'd developed prior interest in her. Before I met her, I was striving to further gather myself spiritually. Deep within I want to do the things pleasing to God and I really would like a wife who'd share my spiritual interest. A family that prays together stays together. I'm just tired of dead-end relationships with fast women and I just want to do things right. I'm not perfect and I'm just a weak fleshly man. Sex and female companionship has always proved to be a severe weakness for me. I think the logical approach to this is to get married, but to someone who'll also be a source of spiritual strength for me. Marriage is a three fold cord. The husband and wife are on the outside and God is in the middle. Marriage can be a challenge, but without the one who instituted it, it has no foundation.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10
9Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

[evoqus]

i like guys who are honest and straight forward, but if a guy told me he is ready to settle down and have kids, on the first date, i'd be a little hesitant. If he says ; 'd like to have kids someday i'd be fine with that.... even on the first date, but it can't be out of context... like i work with kids and its a good and natural conversation piece and this guy i had a couple of dates with before the holidays said that he like kids and would love to have kids someday and i wasn't scared of by it... b\c i'd like to have kids someday lol. there really is a difference there ;) when your honest and straight forward; timing is everything...

it can't really come out of nowhere, but if your date mentions it then you can subtly sneak it in.

I'd been doing some serious soul searching and I feel what I recently said to the young lady this whole topic is over was a subconscious reaction. I really know better than to say something like that to someone that I just met. I think subconsciously I threw a wrench in it. I liked her so much that it kind of scared me and I didn't want it to blow up in my face like others have in the recent past. She had many qualities that I really liked and expressed a strong interest in me, but God was absent in her life. I was just kind of embarrassed after the fact when they took my comment as being desperate. I really had a thing for this girl and was in the midst of a heavy battle within myself over the issue. A part of me wanted her bad, but my spiritual sense said no. I already knew her a little and I'd developed prior interest in her. Before I met her, I was striving to further gather myself spiritually. Deep within I want to do the things pleasing to God and I really would like a wife who'd share my spiritual interest. A family that prays together stays together. I'm just tired of dead-end relationships with fast women and I just want to do things right. I'm not perfect and I'm just a weak fleshly man. Sex and female companionship has always proved to be a severe weakness for me. I think the logical approach to this is to get married, but to someone who'll also be a source of spiritual strength for me. Marriage is a three fold cord. The husband and wife are on the outside and God is in the middle. Marriage can be a challenge, but without the one who instituted it, it has no foundation.

[dreamer110406]

I wish my boyfriend was more open and direct. Communication is so important and you both have to be on the same page. Maybe that's my problem. I say keep it up what's the worst that can happen, you find your true love.

[evoqus]

I wish my boyfriend was more open and direct. Communication is so important and you both have to be on the same page. Maybe thats my problem. I say keep it up whats the worst that can happen, you find your true love.

Single life for me has had it's perks, but I feel I need and want serious companionship. I've had flings and things and I've partied to wound up in foreign places. I've had sex with no emotional connection with my partner. I've been there, done it and I really can't see any real enjoyment in any of that crap. When I was doing those things, I was a boy prone to boyish things. I've grown up and now I am a man so I must put away with those childish things that that belong to the hearts of boys. I want love, but I know I must prove to be the man that I need to be. First I must seek God and a mate second and in doing so, he'll provide one for me.

[Starbucks21]

Well I'm no angel by far. I've had many women in my life. I've had a some one night stands and I've had friendships that just involved sex. The last serious relationship I had was about a year & a half ago. She was very beautiful and in fact, she was a model. Looks are somewhat important to me but not to the extreme. We where serious, but I got with her 6 months after a 5 year relationship that was terrible. The woman I was with for 5 years wasn't very attractive, but I loved her. She just had some insecurity issues that really killed our relationship. I started going to church and the whole 9 yards on the religious level and the fornication (sex outside marriage) issue with the model started ripping me apart. I loved her company, but when I shared with her that I wanted to pursue marriage because I felt what we where doing was wrong, she left me. She said that she wasn't ready for that, so I didn't argue about it and just let her go. I continued to go to church, but being alone was really bitting at me. I was passing up women left & right in an effort to do what was morally sound, but then I slipped up & got to dealing with several women on the sexual level again for about 3 months and I faded out of church. Once again, guilt kicked in and I dropped the women and went back to church-boy I'm a case ain't I? I've been celibate and alone for about a year now and I'd been sorta sluggish on the spiritual level. I'd been doing some serious soul searching and I feel what I recently said to the young lady this whole topic is over was a subconscious reaction. I think I liked her so much that it kinda scared me. She had many qualities that I really liked and expressed a strong interest in me, but God was absent in her life. I was just kind of embarrassed after the fact when they took my comment as being desperate. I really had a thing for this girl and was in the midst of a heavy battle within myself over the issue. A part of me wanted her bad, but my spiritual sense said no. I already knew her a little and I'd developed prior interest in her. Before I met her, I was striving to further gather myself spiritually. Deep within I want to do the things pleasing to God and I really would like a wife who'd share my spiritual interest. A family that prays together stays together. I'm just tired of dead-end relationships with fast women and I just want to do things right. I'm not perfect and I'm just a weak fleshly man. Sex and female companionship has always proved to be a severe weakness for me. I think the logical approach to this is to get married, but to someone who'll also be a source of spiritual strength for me. Marriage is a three fold cord. The husband and wife are on the outside and God is in the middle. Marriage can be a challenge, but without the one who instituted it, it has no foundation.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10
9Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

Well if you're a case I'm a book.

I'm not perfect at all. I'm just human. Everybody on here human.

As far as the you want to date someone that has your religious values. Does your church have a singles group? Lots of churches I know do have single groups and the main problem with your previous relationships is the women don't share your religious values.

[evoqus]

Well if you're a case i'm a book.

I'm not perfect at all. I'm just human. Everybody on here human.

As far as the you want to date someone that has your religious values. Does your church have a singles group? Lots of churches I know do have single groups and the main problem with your previous relationships is the women don't share your religious values.

You are absolutely right. I'm too nice, highly sensitive and I know I get attached and distracted easily. It's just Satan placing bear traps in my path. I'm not a braggart, but on a scale from 1-10 I'll say I'm a 9. When I put my head down to try to do as I should, here they come by the dozens. Beautiful, smart, etc. I just have to work harder at putting my foot down and keeping my head and eyes straight forward. Most of all I need to examine patience.

[AWess]

It seems to be that being too straight-forward might be a turn off. Why don't you take it easy? Stop rushing... take it slow, you sound like a good guy. It's great to be honest, but when you're only dating, putting everything on the plate, handing them a contract and it's as if they have no option but to sign it.

[Ren6]

it seems to be that being too straight-forward might be a turn off. why don't you take it easy? stop rushing... take it slow, you sound like a good guy. it's great to be honest, but when you're only dating, putting everything on the plate, handing them a contract and it's as if they have no option but to sign it.

Yes. It puts a lot of pressure on your date. There must be a single christians group somewhere in your area... maybe you should speak with your pastor about this.