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SjPedro · Jan 5, 2009, 03:35 AM

I don't see where I am being aggressive... actually I have kept a very passive attitude these past few days... and I asked for opinions which I can take (or not) in consideration... Some I do and some I don't... I am not wearing a helmet... I am wearing full body armor at this point and I am going to detach myself a bit from her (usually we talk everyday using text messages but I will keep myself from being the conversation starter)
I know perfectly well that the world is a hard cold place to live in but who are we all if we don't keep at least a shard of hope?
If we didn't have at least that,living wouldn't make much sense... Why work hard all your life,invest in the pursuit of happiness if in the end we are going to end up worm food?
I know it's a bit of a exaggeration but I am trying to make a point here... I am not going to pursue her like I had nothing better to do,like a stalker... no... I am holding back... keeping things in perspective,living and sort of moving my life ahead without holding myself back with other people just because of her... that would be incredibly stupid of me and in the end,no matter how this turns out,for the good or the bad I won't regret my decisions since I take my time to think on what to do... some might believe I overthink things and become to analytical in matters that shouldn't be taken like that... I don't run into brick walls for pleasure (since all are using this comparison I shall do so myself).
If I get to a point I see that there's nothing I can do or say; I WILL stop,until then I'll keep the brakes activated... She asked me to break... not to stop... for someone like her who is very direct and to the point she sees well the difference and so do I.

I'll keep you updated as requested and to answer the reason why I used this website was out of plain curiosity to see the difference of opinions,sip in the information and try to base a possible answer for the issue at hand.

Unfortunately I keep forgetting that this is the kind of thing that isn't as simple as 2+2=4... It's not analytical (even though I do take it as such in times I feel like I should) again thank you

To summarize what I just said: I'll keep cool... stay back.. live on and see where it leads me... I am not going to pursue her like a dog after a cat... I am not THAT stupid to do such

SjPedro · Jan 5, 2009, 03:36 AM

Oh and I would like to apologize for any grammatical and orthographical errors... English isn't my native tongue

vexation · Jan 5, 2009, 03:43 AM

Hello
You must not forgget about repect and it is about repecting her
She stated he deal
Just be her friend if you can`t do that then I am sure she will have another talk with you and it may not be nice

talaniman · Jan 5, 2009, 06:59 AM

So in other words your going to wear her down to get in her pants??

Come on, be real, and if that's what you want fine, but are you thinking of more after knowing her for 4 months? What are your expectations for all this, cool pursuit? What are you trying to accomplish here??

SjPedro · Jan 5, 2009, 08:08 AM

No I am not going to wear her down... I seem to have some problems making myself clear here... Getting in her pants is the last thing on my mind... before the physical I like the human being that she is... the physical is not even part of the equation here... I am not trying to accomplish anything like I have some sort of a goal... I am not pursuing her...

talaniman · Jan 5, 2009, 08:24 AM

So your just friends, then so what's your problem with that??

SjPedro · Jan 5, 2009, 08:27 AM

No problem whatsoever but if the opportunity of it evolving to more than that should appear I am not going to disregard it... until then I'll keep on living and pursuing other opportunities with other people... that's what I have been trying to say for the last couple of threads but have been unsuccessful :)

talaniman · Jan 5, 2009, 09:24 AM

So how was I off in telling you she didn't want to pursue a relationship, and you should back off?

What I have been getting at, as well as others, is not to put a lot of effort into pursuing this female.

I honestly don't believe you, as this has been a lot to do, over a mere friendship.

I think its more like your trying to appear the cool suave young guy, who can get the girl, no matter what she says, (ego tripping?).

For a minute, I thought you were just looking to justify your own actions, in going head first, and getting what you are after, and that was more than a friendship, so don't just hang around as a friend, be a real one, and keep expectations realistic, and its much easier being honest with others, when your honest with yourself.

If I have misread you, sorry! And your right our advice is only food for thought, you do as you please, as you have to live with it, not us, but have a care before you dismiss that which is not what you want to hear, it just may be what you need to know.

Just so you know, brick walls do exist!!!

SjPedro · Jan 5, 2009, 12:13 PM

that's what I have been saying in other posts... I am not going to put effort into it (not even a bit)... I'll just let things move in the way they should without trying to manipulate them... I am no cool suave guy and the last thing I have is a ego trip... I don't have much of an ego to begin with,if I did I wouldn't be unsure of 80% of everything I do... and I am not cool and I am not suave... I am just another guy... and as I said in other posts I am not pursuing a certain goal or objective... I don't understand why you keep referring to it... and I don't have any expectations... what I do have is a shard of hope for a remote possible situation in which a romance might appear...
I don't dismiss answers I don't like... I take them into consideration and give them the value I believe they have in my current position...
and when I said I will be a friend to her... that means I will be a friend to her... one of my biggest flaws (or strengths whatever you might look at it) is the way I am always truthfull to people... I don't lie or tell half truths...

I am not going to justify myself any further since I seem to be repeating myself and my message not getting across... I feel like I am writing in vain since half of what I say isn't being taken into consideration... that can be just me... but it's the feeling I get

Some friends of mine will give me real advices since they know me and know her (I have arranged a meeting with a mutual friend so we can discuss this very matter) and then I'll have all the insight I need and I will continue the line of action I described above... take the time... be with others.. be a friend to her and just do what I do best... improvise

talaniman · Jan 5, 2009, 02:39 PM

Be honest guy, your looking for more and will try to get more, sheeez, or why even put all that energy into getting advice about it?

I was a young single guy once, and never had a friendship that freaked me out as much as this one is doing you. Improvise my a$$.

Either stop improvising your position, or be a lot more clear, and honest, with your communications.

Hate to be harsh, but cut the crap.

SjPedro · Jan 5, 2009, 02:55 PM

I am NOT looking for more... how can I make you understand that I have no idea... and this friendship isn't freaking me out... I made the question back when I still thought there was something that I could do extra... well there isn't so I am not even going to bother about this anymore...
I can take people being harsh... what I can't take is someone trying to evaluate (without knowing me) if I am honest or not...

For me this question is closed since I have nothing else to add and to do here