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meiri · Dec 20, 2008, 06:06 PM

I wish I was happy for him, but there is so many scam over that issue... And at same time I am going to be honest I am so sad with the possibility not have a change to have him back anymore.

N0help4u · Dec 20, 2008, 09:21 PM

He will have to figure out for himself when he actually meets her.
Once they meet they may even find out they don't want to have any relationship. She may be sincere and not scamming. More often than not when someone is pulling a scam they want a lot more than a plane ticket up front.
If he decides to go through with marrying her there really isn't anything you can do or say.

Nadeem64 · Dec 21, 2008, 08:50 AM

You are the most important person do not degrade yourself no one should be able to hurt you. Love yourself you are special and the most important person for yourself

Fr_Chuck · Dec 21, 2008, 08:52 AM

After a divorce it is hard, but you have to work at moving on with your life, in fact unless you have childrend together where you have to deal with a EX, you should not even worry or know what he is doing, no contact with ex at all is the best

billfromohio · Dec 21, 2008, 10:16 AM

Trust that someone has your best interest at hand.be thankful he left and you move on.

meiri · Dec 22, 2008, 06:48 PM

Updated news...
I know it is none of my business but my ex-husband already has sent $2,400.00 to his Russian online dating woman in order to bring her to US. As I said they have been emailing each other for less of 2 months. I have a feeling that she is a scam. But this is not important to me anymore, what really is making me feel sad is that HE IS NOT A MAN I WAS THINKING HE WAS. I saw her picture, she looks cheap, she is so young that she looks like his daughter. I see him now as a dirty old man. I have lost all respect for him. About myself, I feel that 9 years that I spent beside him were lost time. Someone could help me with a good advice on how to keep going on with my life and stop carrying this bad feeling. Thanks.

Ber Rabbit · Dec 23, 2008, 06:50 AM

Originally Posted by meiri

Updated news ....
I know it is none of my business but my ex-husband already has sent $2,400.00 to his Russian online dating woman in order to bring her to US. As I said they have been emailing each other for less of 2 months. I have a feeling that she is a scam. But this is not important to me anymore, what really is making me feel sad is that HE IS NOT A MAN I WAS THINKING HE WAS. I saw her picture, she looks cheap, she is so young that she looks like his daughter. I see him now as a dirty old man. I have lost all respect for him. About myself, I feel that 9 years that I spent beside him were lost time. Someone could help me with a good advice on how to keep going on with my life and stop carrying this bad feeling. Thanks.

Let me tell you a little story about a co-worker who was very much like your husband. He brought a bride to the US from Russia, she was gorgeous, young and smart. They were married for a couple years and she became a US citizen. During this time he sent LOTS of money to her family in Russia. He told me he had sent more than $50,000 in two years. Well this woman started claiming he was beating her and she wanted a divorce on those grounds. She found a very good lawyer to work on her divorce for free and she told her husband she would drop the abuse allegation if he would grant the divorce and send $50,000 more to her family in Russia. He said he couldn't afford a lawyer good enough to fight hers and he finally realized she had just used him to get to the US and gain her citizenship. I don't know what happened because he quit his job a few days after telling me about this.

For you I say just let it go, things will happen as they are meant to. It's time to move on and be happy, I'm sure you learned many things in those 9 years that you would not have known unless you were in that relationship. Those years are not lost time, they have been part of the experience that makes you who you are. You control your own destiny, if you sit around and be sad then you will lead a sad existence. Get out there and make your life what you want it to be!
Ber

excon · Dec 23, 2008, 07:16 AM

Originally Posted by meiri

He is 67 years old and she is 40. How this can happen?

Hello m:

Uhhhh, seems pretty obvious to me... Sure, it might be a scam... Meeting a chick in your local bar might be a scam too.

But, I don't know of any bars where a 67 year old can pick up any chicks...

excon

sully123 · Dec 23, 2008, 04:22 PM

Please don't beat yourself up on this ex-husband Meri, you are worth more than that. Evidently the man you married isn't the same person, and this is the real him.. You should be thankful, right now its hard to see what he has done to you and all the hurt he has inflicted on to you. But believe me in a year from now you will be thinking he did you a favor. YOU DON"T NEED HIM, HE ISN"T WORTH IT. Let him fail and make his own mistakes.. Have respect for yourself.. and try and meet new friends, as hard as it may sound. I was married in 2001, thought I met the most wonderful person in the world. Never a harsh word, showered me with gifts. We actually hit it off wonderfully. I got married 6 months later, he wasn't the person I had met.. He was an acoholic, and never knew it.. He never abused me or anything.. IT hurt like heck.. and to this day it still does.. because I thought he was going to be my soulmate.. and he has his work, close by to me.. and every time I drive by I feel awful.. so it hurts.. only a few blocks away.. so I can run into him all the time.. We are civil to each other.. and to this day I know he regrets everything and if fine today, but now its all too late.. So keep your chin and don't look behind.. meet new friends and try to forget.