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    #21

    Dec 9, 2008, 05:38 PM

    I agree with the others
    She sees she can manipulate her to her advantage because you are always hoping for it to work --this time around---so she uses you and dumps you yet again.
    You need to gain the upper hand by refusing to see her or be there for her next time or any time after.
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    #22

    Dec 9, 2008, 05:45 PM
    Its funny, she wanted to know how I felt about her, what was I thinking, was it a bad ideal to spend the weekend together, then when she got all my feelings and thoughts she dumps me again. Every feeling I had for her is gone. Not hate, just gone. I feel nothing for her now. She did make a fool out of me, but ill be fine.
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    #23

    Dec 9, 2008, 05:50 PM

    If you don't feel anything then it is best to just forget it and move on.
    You feeling like a fool is her having power over your emotions.
    Don't look at it as you being made a fool. Look at it like she is the one with the problem.
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    #24

    Dec 9, 2008, 05:53 PM
    One last question, after that nice weekend, didn't I have the right to know where we stand. Like will we see each other again? What's going on? Instead of nothing and wondering.
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    #25

    Dec 9, 2008, 05:53 PM
    Of course you had the right to know. You are not wrong here.
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    #26

    Dec 9, 2008, 05:54 PM

    Another good reason to forget her.
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    #27

    Dec 9, 2008, 09:56 PM

    instead of nothing and wondering.
    Keep No Contact and let her wonder for a while. A very long while.
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    #28

    Dec 9, 2008, 10:42 PM

    Like I said it was a awesome weekend, felt just like it did when we met, then blew me off, so I ask her eariler what's the plan, will I see you again, I ask twice and she wouldn't answer, finally she said she didn't have a answer, and I have no buiseness asking, that I should wait and see, here's the good part, THAT She's SICK OF MY CRAP FOR ASKING. O my. So I told her to stay out of my life forever, I'm done. Number changes in morning. She has no way of contacting me.
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    #29

    Dec 10, 2008, 07:22 AM

    Well done eric, however I would bet money you won't stick to it. You better! I don't care if you have to start a thread that details day by day your progress, you do what you have to to stick to this NC. You have a much better life waiting for you and waiting on her to make up her mind is laughable. Good things happen to good people... keep your chin up.
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    #30

    Dec 10, 2008, 07:52 AM
    I am keeping a track, its day one. I just changed by banking account so she can't bother it either, I can't believe a person like her really thinks that's OK to make someone wait till she decides. After the month of no contact then we seen each other she seen how good I was doing and she said, " why does everyone that breaks up with her have a better life" god I wonder why. I thought this weekend might just be a booty call, but it was like she was paying me back for something. Like being nicer then ever, then like she don't know me. Almost like look at what you've been missing. But once again she treats me like trash and I stick up for myself and its my fault, thank you god for being free.
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    #31

    Dec 10, 2008, 08:00 AM
    It really helps to read your comments on here, it keeps me strong and helps me know I'm doing the right thing. I'm a smart person and would tell anyone in my spot that they are crazy. I know I deserve much better, but thanks again.
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    #32

    Dec 10, 2008, 02:36 PM

    Why is it when I disagreed with not seeing me it was drama and crap, but when I agreed she was angry and moody. The only answer was to agree to wait on her with no fight. Not happening.
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    #33

    Dec 11, 2008, 07:18 AM

    Well I was minding my own business and guess what happened? WRONG. Not her again. This gorgous blonde writes me from a dating service, and she lives 4 minutes away. We are going to church Sunday, and meeting tonight. She's made me feel so good just by talking to her. My god I'm so glad to be out of that mess, feels so good, she use to tell me that girls don't do things that I wanted, I knew she was wrong. Moving on never felt so good, thanks for all your advice.
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    #34

    Dec 11, 2008, 07:20 AM

    Just take it slow, and don't go into it with high expectations. Enjoy the ride, but don't put your pedal to the floor...
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    #35

    Dec 11, 2008, 07:38 AM
    I'm going so slow, she's doing all the asking. Just knowing I'm still a catch after what I been through. I still put myself first, I won't make that misstake again. But I'm smileing once again.
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    #36

    Dec 11, 2008, 08:17 AM
    Good for you Eric. Take your lessons learned and move forward with eyes open.
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    #37

    Dec 11, 2008, 08:58 AM
    Eyes are wide open, watching for warning signs I over looked last time. But still enjoying myself.
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